Mei Mei's first marriage ended this summer.
In fact, when she first got married, she thought that she might come to this day. Why? Because they didn't have much feelings at first, it was entirely because they were old, and their parents urged them tightly, just because they thought they were suitable for each other, so they decided.
The man's family conditions are good, he has two properties, his parents have jobs, and he also has formal jobs. Because of this, Mei Mei has no objection, even if there is no love, the conditions are good.
At the beginning of their relationship, they had many contradictions. Mei Mei went shopping with him. Every time he goes to an expensive shop, he always pulls her away and doesn't want her to buy anything.
Mei Mei once took a fancy to a coat of 1680 yuan, which was actually not expensive. She really wanted to buy it, but looking at the man's dark face, she decided to pay for it herself.
But even so, the man was unhappy all day, and he mentioned the dress intentionally or unintentionally at dinner in the evening. He said, "I can't afford to support you if you spend money like this. Save it in the future."
At that time, Meimei thought to herself, this is still my money. What can I do if I spend yours? But the wedding date has been put on the agenda, and she still takes a fancy to his family's conditions and thinks about forbearance.
Only later got married, the whole family was so snobbish, afraid that she would take up a dime and make it clear what she spent, otherwise she would not ask her husband for money.
After living like this for a year, she couldn't hold on any longer and was determined to divorce.
02
After a failed marriage, Mei Mei understood that there should be not only money but also love in marriage, otherwise it would be difficult for this marriage to last.
And after this marriage, she also understood that it is more important to have an economic foundation. At least when spending money, she can be confident and don't have to sneer at others. After all, other people's money belongs to others. Giving you flowers or not is two different things.
After that, Mei Mei got a job. Although the salary is not high, she can save some money every month besides living expenses. Most importantly, she feels very independent.
At this moment, someone accosted her and told her not to be picky, but Mei Mei always smiled and said, "I failed before because I was too casual. This time, I must choose at least one who likes me and I like his, otherwise I would rather be single. "
This is Mei Mei, finally waiting for her happiness. The young man has never been married, but he loves Mei Mei very much and doesn't mind her past marriage history. Although the conditions are average, he treats people sincerely. Mei Mei feels comfortable with him!
Now they live happily and have a son and a daughter after marriage. After all this time, that young man still dotes on her as he did when he was in love. Mei Mei thinks he really married the right person this time!
03
For a second-married woman, is the emotional foundation more important or the economic foundation more important?
I think, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, the emotional foundation is more important. After all, two people have feelings and life is not bitter. And if two people don't have love, even if the economic conditions are good, they won't live long.
There is a line in "A Thousand Tears" that says: "In fact, love is very simple. Don't just look with your eyes, feel with your heart. People are complicated, not one plus one equals two. Money is valuable, but love is priceless. In this world and this society, money is important, but we must never lose ourselves. "
Money is not everything, only true love is priceless.
First marriage or second marriage, don't think that marriage is the same as anyone else, you must choose carefully!