In love, there are also many cases of verbal violence, and many people always feel that feelings should be like this.
"How dare you haggle with women?" It is the most frequently quoted sentence in the relationship between men and women.
Because social development has always favored the saying that "good men don't fight with women", many women in love, no matter who is right or wrong, will stipulate that boys should make concessions on the grounds that you are a man.
Every time a boy responds to such a statement, he will enter a dilemma. Once again, he will struggle to look like a boy and give up concessions, feeling reluctant to forget.
In the case of retaining information, I often hear such words:
"Don't you mean that if you really love a woman, you should spoil her like a little princess?"
"Don't you mean that if you can't give me enough love, you need to give me enough money?"
"Didn't you say that all boys should listen to their girlfriends?"
There are a lot of this kind of soul poison chicken soup on the Internet, and some ladies who don't know why will be guided by these people correctly.
But putting this kind of money into emotional situations will make boys feel very stressed and unhappy. Because men have suffered from their own interests at this time, they are suffering under the bondage of social morality.
However, people's endurance is limited, even if they are open-minded, there will be a complete outbreak one day. When it broke out, it was also a situation in which two people's emotions were divided.
In the case of retaining, many women will also have personal behaviors of verbal violence, putting themselves on the most wronged party, while the other party will become ungrateful and ungrateful.
"I still admit my mistake. What do you want from me? "
In the case of retention, some women will have the idea that I have apologized to him. Why doesn't he want to? Please forgive me. Have you made up your mind to break up?
Because at this time, everyone's thoughts and understanding of breaking up should be different.
In your mind: I made a mistake → broke up → I corrected my mistake → you should get back together.
But in his mind: you did something wrong → broke up with each other → became a passerby → influenced each other.
When we break up, in each other's hearts, we have lost all contact, equivalent to passers-by on the street. Is it right or wrong for ta to do something to herself?
So after breaking up, thinking that you have corrected your mistakes does not mean that you can get back together. This is just using "apology for tolerance" to carry out language violence.
"Have you ever loved me?"
In feelings, the saddest thing is not that you love the wrong person, but that your love is not recognized and completely denied.
Some women will cry twice and hang up three times to pester each other when they stay, but when the other party refuses, they will be very sad to tell: you are trampling on my feelings, you have never loved me at all, otherwise you will definitely not choose to leave.
I can understand the feeling of loss and anxiety that I tried my best to save my love but couldn't get an answer, but it doesn't mean that I can blatantly say some venting sentences of blame.
There is only one rule for anyone to deal with feelings, and that is to expect them to be happy and help me to be happy. When the other party chooses to abandon this feeling, it is because this feeling and his initial heart have put the cart before the horse. (except playboy who really plays with feelings)
In the other person's heart, I broke up with you because I felt out of place with each other, so I didn't have to delay each other. And if you make reproachful remarks, it will always make the other person feel that he loves the wrong person and make him more sure of his decision to break up with you.
Is the emotional counselor reliable? Falling in love is not the first person to break up. It must be a bad person and an emotional abuser. If breaking up first is a playboy, it's just a cover for you to cry out for love, kidnap a person and endure your inaccuracy endlessly, which is irresistible.
"I am very kind to you. What makes you say you want to break up? "
Just like I have "I love you so much, why don't you stay with me" at the top of my pursuit of perfection, I also have "what I invested in you, why did you choose to leave" and social moral provisions oriented by income.
Many people will accidentally regard feelings as business and feel that feelings are just like business. If I give you a hundred dollars, you need to help me use the income of the same value.
For example, I have been pursuing perfection for you for a long time, and I have poured a lot into you, so you need to be with me;
I quarreled with my relatives for you. You must spoil me and be loyal to me.
Is the emotional counselor reliable? In order to be with you better, I invested everything, so you can't defect and I choose to leave. ...