Children at the age of six or seven are already gender-conscious. When a baby first knows whether he is a boy or a girl, he will have gender awareness. Therefore, some gender-specific behaviors and thinking consciousness will change. For example, boys like to play with cars and guns, while girls like to play with dolls and plush toys.
Therefore, when children ask such questions, don't make a fuss, or when you hear children saying who likes whom, don't think it's abnormal. You should guide them correctly and pull them back from a mysterious feeling to the correct way of communication.
I just encountered this problem two days ago. My daughter is a girl under five years old. One day, she secretly told me that she liked the little boy in the class, and there was more than one. I immediately became restless about my mother's gossip, anxious to know who moved my daughter's heart.
I asked him why he liked that boy best. He said that the boy had great strength. In fact, this time should be a socially sensitive period for young children. Boys and girls began to differ. In fact, their favorite partner is the same sex, while the opposite sex partner is only attracted by certain characteristics. At the same time, children now have a lot of contact and know a lot. Although they are ignorant, they know very well that they must marry a little boy instead of a little girl when they get married.
As parents, when we encounter this problem, don't make a fuss. Although it is sometimes difficult, because we don't make a fuss when we first know it, we find it particularly funny, but we must not let our children notice that it is all communication between children and parents. We should also treat it with a normal heart. If we are too anxious or excited, our children may never tell you about it again.
When they really play, they prefer to be with children of the same sex, girls prefer doll skirts, and boys prefer to play ball games. This is because the differences between boys and girls make them curious about each other, but only stay in the curious stage. This is the normal development stage of children. Tell children that only mothers can see the places covered by clothes, and children and sisters can't look at each other's bodies, and educate children to know how to protect themselves. Let's look at the rest with a normal heart!
If the average child has a favorite boy or girl at school, then he has entered a sensitive period of making friends. This is the construction period of pursuing others' social ability. Usually at this time, the child's mood will become. Extremely complicated, sad and happy. In the early days, some children would exchange material things for friendship. This is the beginning of solving the problem.
Adults should never think that children are trying to please others. This is the development and exploration of their interpersonal relationship. After a long time, they will practice exchanging feelings for friendship. In this process, they may still be pursuing friends, but they have lost friends, which makes them very painful and disappointed. Even after a long time, all aspects will be degraded. For example, you have a bad temper and start wetting the bed.
Adults should never lose their temper with their children at this time. When he calms down, tell me about the same thing that happened when he was a child. You can also invite the child home to play together. Children will gradually understand that building friendships requires hard work and can be painful. When they learn to accept the pain, they will become more and more confident. This will become their ability to pursue their loved ones in the future.
So please accept the anxious and moody children in this period. Don't laugh at them, don't get angry and don't worry too much about anxiety. Let them enjoy the coming and going of friendship. They will also need and cherish this hard-won friendship more. Pave a sunshine avenue for your future outlook on making friends and marriage.
I haven't heard the child say that the child is simple and beautiful. Even in kindergarten, they sometimes meet other children in kisses and hugs, just because they recognize each other in their hearts, just like they like their beloved toys.
As I said, this is normal. Children think that children who play well with themselves, both men and women, are their good friends and people they like. In the world of kindergarten children, it is such a simple cognition.
The children in my kindergarten didn't tell me who they liked, only told me that they had several very good friends, both boys and girls. These children like playing together very much. They don't fight for toys or quarrel. In short, several people get along well.
Yes, when my son was in kindergarten, two or three classmates said they would marry my son.
Of course, this is a very simple idea in children's minds, which is completely different from adults' love, affection and life, just as children like this little animal today and like that little animal tomorrow.
At this stage, the child's mind is not very mature. She just followed her heart, and then she vaguely knew the concept of marriage. Generally speaking, children like to ask themselves how they came from. I think the answer of most adults should be: because mom and dad like each other, then they get married, and then they have you. At this time, children will begin to imitate. Of course, the object of imitation is the children who have the best relationship with themselves in kindergarten, so they will tell me who I like and who I want to marry.
It doesn't matter, just give the child some guidance.
I have two children, both in kindergarten. Dabao is a boy and Bao Xiao is a girl.
My son didn't tell me that he liked someone, and he didn't play very well. He just said who his good friend is, but if you ask him later, it won't be the same person.
As for my daughter, there is a girl who plays very well with her. She wants to take everything to the kindergarten to share with her, and her daughter often says that the girl brought her something to eat and play with. The teacher said that they would stick together as long as they were at school. At first, I thought it was only for a while. Unexpectedly, two semesters later, they were still so good.
Speaking of which, I think of a friend's son, who is in a big kindergarten class. There is a little girl he likes in the class and plays well with her. Once we went out to play together and happened to see that girl (usually she doesn't tie her hair, so she tied two braids that day). Her mother pointed to him and said, do you think that's the girl you like in your class? He looked at it and said directly, it's not her. She doesn't have a braid. This one does.
Yes, as a kindergarten teacher, there is nothing to make a fuss about dealing with these children every day. Children, this is a very pure friendship. Children's likes are very simple, just like toys and playmates. Everyone needs to make friends, and so do children. It is normal for them to have a child of the opposite sex they like. Some think the child is beautiful, others may be because the child is friendly. There was a beautiful little girl in a small class last year. Her mother dresses the little girl like a doll every day. All the boys in the class like to play with the little girl. One day, the teacher in the small class asked these little boys why they all like to play with this little girl. Their answer is actually that the little girl looks good. As adults, we don't need to restrict our children's friends. This is the purest friendship between children.
Seeing this question, I just wrote an article before, which can be used to reply to the question and answer of the subject. I also hope to arouse parents' attention to discuss children's emotional education.
18 During the Spring Festival holiday, Sister Cheng kept whispering to me that Yang Kang (a pseudonym) in her class was her prince and they danced together. I thought for a moment, indeed, last year's Children's Day, the social dance in their class, indeed, they danced together. Sister Cheng told me, Mom, I want to marry him when I grow up. I said, how did you change the prince so soon? What about the previous one? Sister Cheng replied, Oh, that one before was so stupid! Ok, your prince, you decide, haha!
Sister Cheng's language broke out earlier, which may have a lot to do with my communication with her father, including when she was still in my belly, her father often gave her prenatal education, told her stories, sang songs and played music to her. I have been taking her with me since I was born. So I will talk to her a lot. Later, after the full moon, I went back to my mother's house. My mother saw me talking to her all the time, singing to her, and telling me that she was such a small person, what did she know! Are you tired? I said I wasn't tired, of course she understood! At least she knows it's mom talking to her. You see, when I was touching her and singing to her, she stared at me with two small eyes going round and round, but she was a good child!
Later, Cheng Jie listened to various fairy tales by Disney's Green Andersen, and often imagined herself as the protagonist, all kinds of beautiful women and all kinds of princesses in the story, and then married her beloved prince and lived happily together. I remember when she was more than four years old, one weekend we were half lying in bed chatting. She said to me, mom, I'll tell you. I said yes, and then she told me shyly. In fact, I often fantasize that I have long brown hair and a purple skirt, and then I dance beautifully. I was shocked to hear her words, and then I looked at her, and she looked at me, and then we laughed and laughed for a long time. Then I said, well, you think it's beautiful! Hahaha! In fact, to tell the truth, she is a very masculine girl and naughty, but she still wants to be a little princess and dream of a pink princess in her bones. It's not good for me to laugh at her directly, hahaha, but it's so funny.
Sister Cheng started to have her own prince when she was in a small class at the age of three. I asked her why she was chosen as your prince, and she said solemnly, because he is handsome! Hahaha! Handsome, why don't I think so? This vision is different from mine!
Later, she took her father as the standard. When she sees a boy outside or on TV, she will say, my father is still very handsome! Her uncle loved her since she was a child, so she looked embarrassed when I asked you whether your father was handsome or your uncle was handsome. Finally, she said, uncle is as handsome as father! No one was offended! I'm impressed by this ability to speak! In fact, I learned this question when Sister Cheng was less than three years old! Several of our classmates went to Weifang to attend their wedding, so I asked her shyly, which is more beautiful, Lily's mother or me? I am confident that she will answer me with the most beautiful words. Unexpectedly, the child smiled and said that her mother and Lily's mother were both beautiful. I asked her which was more beautiful, and she said that Ran's mother was as beautiful as hers. I asked her who was more beautiful, but she still said they were both beautiful. I said I could only choose one, but she saidno. Well, I was completely defeated, and several classmates laughed at her!
After the Spring Festival, my sister Cheng started school on the eleventh day of the first month. On the morning of school, I watched her silently put a card into her bag. I asked her what it was. She showed it to me. This is my business card for Yang Kang. Then I took a look. She wrote the numbers she knew, from 1 to 10, and drew two children, which should be a boy and a girl. Then he signed his name on the back. Oh, I suddenly feel so cute. I said, then put it away. Oh, don't lose it. She went to school happily. When you pick her up this afternoon, ask her if the card has been issued. She said no, he hasn't come to school yet. I said it doesn't matter, maybe it will come tomorrow.
When I picked her up after school the next day, it happened that the little boy was walking behind us. I secretly asked Sister Cheng, did I give him your card? Answer no again. I said, will you send it today or tomorrow? Sister Cheng said I would deliver it today. After that, he took off his schoolbag to get the card, and then gave it to the child without saying a word. The little boy's grandfather and I both laughed. Then Sister Cheng took me away. The little boy stopped us. Don't you want this card? Cheng Jie didn't speak. I said it was a New Year gift from her. Will you keep it? Looking at the little boy, he nodded with a happy face. Then my elder sister and I took this hand and went home contentedly. Along the way, she chattered and was in a good mood.
In fact, this is not love, but a simple little beauty in the child's heart.
Psychologist Gorman said: "Childhood is an important opportunity to shape the emotional tendency of life." For me, I attach great importance to children's emotional education. Because children's emotions are not the product of natural development, they are imperceptibly produced with childhood education. Children in early childhood are more likely to receive emotional education. Children's emotional education is related to their life's success and happiness. Children with rich emotions and inner satisfaction will be more creative and more likely to have a tolerant heart and broad mind.
A person's success can't rely solely on intelligence and skills, and a sound personality is equally important. When you look back on your life, the deepest memory is always the emotional bond.
I hope all children will have good love and high quality life in the future!