This kind of person just wants to relax, be free and be happy for a while. With all due respect, it's selfish!
It's normal for you to have such a mentality. Because people will have some anxiety and fear about things beyond their control in the future. Especially now there are many failed marriages, and negative information is flying all over the sky. Let us lack confidence in marriage.
But in fact, we often see negative reports about marriage. In fact, there are many marriages in our life. They supported each other and accompanied the old couple. Maybe they will quarrel, but this does not prevent them from relying on each other for happiness.
In fact, happiness is a kind of ability, which has little to do with whether you are married or not. As long as you have this ability, happiness is firmly in your hands wherever you go.
So, learn the ability to love and control our happiness.
We often find such examples in our life when we want to fall in love but are afraid of getting married.
Then why is this happening?
As we all know, love is the best thing in life, and a passionate love always makes people look back and linger. You can tolerate my bad temper and bad habits, and I can always hold you in my hand.
Marriage is different. Marriage means that two people should live a down-to-earth life, form and run their own small family, and it is daily necessities, responsibility and responsibility.
Isn't that what Qian Zhongshu wrote in his novel Fortress Besieged? Marriage is like a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out.
Most people who are afraid of getting married have the following characteristics;
Psychological characteristics of fear of marriage;
(1) Insecurity, nervousness and fear of uncertainties in the future of marriage.
2 children are psychologically timid, don't want to grow up, feel that they are still young, haven't played enough, and are afraid of taking responsibility too early.
Affected by the environment, I have met many people who are unhappy in marriage, such as; Your parents, relatives and friends, etc. Whose unhappy marriage has brought you the shadow and fear of marriage, and you dare not step into marriage.
Solutions; In a relationship, observe the details of the other party and whether the family is harmonious, whether the other party is responsible and whether the mood is very stable.
If you think the other person's character is trustworthy, then talk to the other person about your fear of marriage and your demands. I believe I can get each other's understanding.
Love needs heat, and marriage needs responsibility! Just want to fall in love, afraid of getting married, maybe not ready to take responsibility!
Romance is romance, and marriage is reality.
Falling in love is a matter for two people, and getting married is a matter for two or even two families. Will involve a lot.
When in love, two people just call it romance. But after marriage and romance, romance alone is not enough to maintain marriage. Marriage is very realistic, and we have to deal with everything.
Marriage also includes responsibilities. Parents' responsibilities to their partners and offspring.
Therefore, marriage needs mature people to support it. Marriage is the marriage of two adults.
Some people say that the marriage law stipulates that you can't get married until you are old. Yes, married people are all adults in age. But psychologically, if one of the two parties doesn't want to be an adult, but only wants to be a child, this marriage will have problems. Because there is only one adult in this marriage.
Therefore, it is suggested that all people who want to enter marriage should first grow into a real adult and be responsible for their marriage and their own life before entering marriage. Because when you are a real adult and can be responsible for your marriage and your life, you must attract such people. It is possible for you to establish a stable and happy marriage.
The above is my personal opinion. I respect everyone who disagrees with me and every point of your view.
Hello! If you want to fall in love, you want to experience and feel the beauty of love, and you are afraid of getting married. You are afraid of all the unknowns after marriage, which is a sign of lack of independence and security. Generally speaking, wanting to fall in love and being afraid of getting married is the general psychological state of most marriageable young men and women. They look forward to love and are afraid of marriage. They want to taste the joy and happiness of love, but they dare not take the responsibility of marriage. They are afraid that they can't solve all kinds of contradictions and troubles after marriage.
Love and marriage have a negative saying: marriage is the grave of love, that is, marriage will destroy love and bury all the beauty in love.
On the positive side, marriage is the castle of love. In fairy tales, the prince and princess started a happy new life in the castle. Marriage is also the beginning of two lovers moving from love to a new life. As for happiness, both sides need to create and manage it together.
I wish you an early growth into a better self!
I want to fall in love, but I'm afraid of getting married. How old are you and what's your gender? You associate love and marriage as a pair of progressive events, which shows that you are very responsible. Many young people fall in love, just live in the moment and be happy, and don't think so much at all. Your idea accords with China's traditional virtue and sense of social responsibility.
I am very happy to discuss this topic.
First of all, clear your mind.
Want to fall in love, but afraid of getting married, is it simply your own reason, or the other party doesn't give you enough security, so that you can't have the mentality of getting married with peace of mind.
Or you are too young to get married and want to live a "free" life.
Then from the psychological level, love and marriage can see what your intimate relationship with the opposite sex is like. At the same time, it will also reflect whether the growing environment as a child is influenced by family factors.
Are you afraid of getting married when you are in love, or are you afraid that the other person will be close to you, and then you are afraid of losing, and you can't accept the feeling of losing and panic?
Or are you afraid that after marriage, the other party can't give you a bright future?
Or the marital status of the family gives you a bad feeling, and you will feel that your marriage will be the same.
Fear of marriage, there must be reasons for fear, to find that reason, in the end is their own reasons, or the other side, or both.
Marriage is not a children's playroom. It is related to a person's future direction, a good marriage, a person's state will be good, he will always feel happy, and will also achieve a person's career, such as Luo Yonghao and his wife. A bad marriage will make people very tired and lead a trivial life.
Finally, marriage is a prudent thing. Caution is a good thing, and it is normal to be afraid of bad choices or worry about the future.
Just don't be too persistent.
Hello, I'm glad to answer your question. What is your heart if you want to fall in love but are afraid of getting married?
First of all, this kind of thinking is normal, so don't have psychological burden. I think everyone will have such concerns. We want to be with the people we love, but we are afraid that we can't afford the future life.
Nowadays, the pace of the times is too fast, and marriage cannot guarantee our life. A lot of negative news about marriage comes out, so many people are afraid of marriage.
Although you will encounter bad things, try bravely. Be bold when you meet the right person. Maybe we will be lucky to meet the person who can be with us for life.
The above is my answer, I wish you happiness.
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