When many boys are chasing girls, they will meet girls who ignore his love and react indifferently. But when they are about to give up and are not so active with girls, girls turn around and start taking the initiative. Seeing this, the boys quickly and enthusiastically interacted with the girls. After a few days, the girls returned to a cold attitude. This makes many boys puzzled. Why on earth is this?
First, slow fever
When you think that in the process of chasing girls, no matter how excellent you are and how enthusiastic you are about this girl, she is in a tepid state. This kind of girl is called slow-heating girl! A slow-moving girl doesn't believe in love at first sight, she only believes in love over time. She will resist sudden love. If you are particularly anxious about her, especially want to chase her, especially want to confess to her, she is very resistant in her heart. She has a strong desire to protect herself. This kind of girl is very insecure, so she will protect herself and then have no contact with you. When the popularity of this kind of girl comes up gradually and wants to have further development with you, it is likely that you have given up the pursuit because you feel hopeless. Therefore, boys, in the pursuit of girls, if you find that girls are slow to get hot, I hope you can be more patient and maybe have unexpected gains.
Second, playing hard to get.
In love, playing hard to get is rampant. If you want to catch a man's heart, you must learn to play hard to get. In order to get the person you love, some girls don't pursue him, but they are hot and cold, far and near, which makes boys sleepless. After a while, boys often come and don't "catch". To play hard to get is to lengthen the distance between them. She sticks to you occasionally, but keeps a certain distance at the right time, giving you a feeling of being at arm's length and itching. So in order to get her closer to you, you must attack with all your forces. Then the girl's purpose has been achieved.
Third, treat you as a spare tire.
Before determining the relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend, two people should actually talk more and get to know each other better. Generally speaking, if the other person is really interested in you, he will actually be curious about everything about you, and will often take the initiative to ask you various questions or talk to you about various topics. If you are the only one who is particularly active in getting along, and the girls are passive and cold, chatting with you will often have a beginning and an end. For example, she said that she went to take a shower. After taking a shower, she never called you back. When she finished taking a shower, she didn't return the messages you sent later. In fact, it is obvious that she is not interested in you, and the reason why she comes to you occasionally is because she regards you as a spare tire and will think of you when she needs you. If you feel like a spare tire, then you need to pay attention to it and try to break this embarrassing situation.
Four. Avoidant attachment personality
Take a girl as an example, it is also very likely that the girl is an avoidant attachment personality, and she will be in a very contradictory and seemingly "scum" state, that is, when the person she likes likes likes herself, her love for you will gradually disappear or even turn into disgust, and if you don't like her, she will start to have a good impression on you. However, when she pushed others far away, she felt deeply guilty. Most of these people are insecure, accompanied by unconfident performance. They feel that they are not suitable for dating, that they are not good enough, and that unrequited love is suitable for them. If you meet such a girl, you should give her more sense of security, and she will slowly open her heart and accept you completely.