Why do men have to bring home the bacon (please ask a logical person to answer)

The problem you mentioned is worth thinking about. Let me tell you what I think. The responsibility and status of men are determined by the current social situation. We live in a patriarchal society now, and everything is dominated by men. The specific performance is that men and women get married, and the woman has to follow the man (few people break into the door, we only say most). In this way, it is not the man or the woman who directly benefits, but the man's parents, because they are old and sick and have a son to take care of them; In contrast, the woman's parents are a bit miserable. When she is old and sick, what her daughter can do is very limited. The concept of "raising children to prevent old age" also comes from this, so everyone wants to have sons, and everyone prefers boys to girls. This kind of thinking is reflected in words and deeds, and children are also influenced by this atmosphere, so the idea of son preference is passed down from generation to generation ... Now most women in society are snobbish and rightfully regard themselves as the weak, which is caused by this social environment.

Once the marriage form of female obedience to male obedience is formed, the responsibility of the man you mentioned will follow. On the man's side, parents are biological parents, who will raise them? Of course it was raised by my own son! Foster parents are the bounden duty, so why raise a wife? Don't the man's parents want to have grandchildren? Who will have grandchildren? Daughter-in-law, can't you have a wife? If you have no wife, if you have no children, your parents will never stop being with you! Besides, women are a "vulnerable group" (fallacy). Do you want a "vulnerable group" to support you? So parents, wives and children are your business.

Why do so many people regard women as a vulnerable group? There is another important reason besides that women are weaker than men in physical strength and other physiological aspects. Because girls are not as popular as boys from birth, they are labeled as "useless" from the beginning. Because you can't afford to raise your parents, you are useless, nothing, nothing. It seems unreasonable, but it can be explained psychologically, that is, the "halo effect".

Therefore, I believe that the root of inequality between men and women lies in two points: the tradition of women following men and the problem of providing for the elderly. It is a legacy of feudal society that women come from men, and now it is not a feudal society. Why can't this tradition be changed? The reason is that the man's parents don't want to change, and they want their son to give them a pension. It is the insistence of the man's parents that keeps this tradition. To change this tradition, we need to improve social welfare undertakings so that parents can enjoy their old age even if they leave their sons. This will change the concept that women are subordinate to men and alleviate the problem of excessive pressure on men. But I'm afraid it's not that simple to improve welfare ... we look forward to that day.