For the topic of "sleeping in separate rooms", 15 married Sister Wang has a good say.
Sister Wang said, "Love needs no reason. When you don't love, you can always find 10,000 reasons."
Just like she and her husband sleep in separate rooms, it seems that they are separated from each other, but in fact they are divided into feelings.
It is because of five years of sleeping in separate rooms that the feelings of their husband and wife have dissipated a little. Until there was nothing left, Sister Wang, who didn't even think about it, filed for divorce.
Sister Wang said that the state of her and her husband at that time could be perfectly explained in one sentence: "During the day, they are husband and wife, taking part in accidental amusement, and at night they are neighbors, and they do not interfere with each other."
Bian Xiao has something to say:
I once heard a saying: "I once thought that the most unfortunate thing in the world was to die alone, but it was not until I got married that I realized that the most unfortunate thing in the world was not to die alone, but to grow old with someone who made you feel lonely."
Someone once asked me, "What happened to the couple who chose to sleep in separate rooms?"
In order to better answer this question, I interviewed four post-60s old people, and they told the truth. Because as experienced people, their answers to this question are naturally more convincing.
Ms. Chen, 55, slept in separate rooms in 10, and we still love each other.
Ms. Chen said that she and her husband slept in separate rooms because they loved each other. Because of old age, neurasthenia, shallow sleep and snoring, I started sleeping in separate rooms early for my husband to have a better rest.
Ms. Chen said that if a couple really love each other, then the bed and room can't be separated from each other's feelings. And a loveless couple, even if they sleep in the same bed, are just strange strange bedfellows, and have no feelings at all.
Ms. Chen said that in fact, many times, couples sleep in separate rooms because of love, not love, so no matter what happens, husband and wife must have enough trust in each other.
Mr. Zhang, 54, slept in separate rooms in 18, and his life was like taking part in accidental amusement.
Mr. Zhang said that the reason why couples sleep in separate rooms is actually because their wives don't love you. Other reasons are just excuses. Just like him, he doesn't snore at night and sleeps quietly, but his wife just won't let him in and keeps him in a small room and sofa.
Mr. Zhang said that although he slept in separate rooms for so many years and didn't do anything to betray his marriage, he had no feelings for his wife. At home, he is actually the most familiar stranger. Only in front of children and outsiders will they play the role of husband and wife.
Ms. Bai, 53, divorced after sleeping in separate rooms for five years.
Ms. Bai said that if both husband and wife lose their desires and feelings for each other's bodies, then there must be a big problem in marriage. If they don't know how to change in time, the final result will mostly end in divorce or being the most familiar stranger.
Because couples who are used to sleeping in separate rooms for a long time will not only get used to being alone, but also gradually lose their dependence and demand on each other. When the husband and wife really don't need each other, it means that this marriage has come to an end and exists in name only.
Ms. Bai said that she and her husband slept in separate rooms for a long time and got used to a person's life, so they finally chose to divorce, because at the moment of divorce, they really didn't need each other anymore.
Mr. Chen, 52, sleeps in separate rooms in 12 years, and only sleeps in one room when the children are there.
Mr. Chen said that he and his wife slept in separate rooms 12 years. Although in the eyes of outsiders' children, they are happy couples who don't quarrel at all, in fact, they have long lost their love for each other, let alone their intimate relationship. Only when the children go home will the relationship between husband and wife be maintained.
In Mr. Chen's words, even if they sleep in a bed, their hearts are so far away that there is no touch at all.
Teacher Chen often laughs and says: At first, because of the children, I couldn't sleep in separate rooms. Later, I couldn't sleep in the same room, but also for the children.
Mr. Wang said: I have been sleeping in separate rooms for a long time, and I am used to being alone. I can't go back slowly, and my feelings gradually become like this.
In my opinion, sleeping in separate rooms will definitely affect the relationship between husband and wife, even if there is a reason, because it seems that the bed and room are separate, but it is actually a relationship between husband and wife. So, don't run away. Sleeping in separate beds means escaping. The longer the time, the weaker the feelings will be. Even if you don't admit it, the fact is that the distance between mind and body is getting farther and farther.
In my opinion, there should be not only "I love you" but also "I need you" between husband and wife. These two feelings are indispensable. Otherwise, there will be problems in marriage, so don't sleep in separate rooms easily, because once you have it, it will be difficult to turn back.