Sincere feelings will not have any selfishness, let alone divide each other. After all, for middle-aged people, if they want to find another object to accompany them for life, the problems they see are more realistic, which is different from those young men and women who are in love in their twenties.
incoming letter
I am 43 years old, and my ex-husband and I have been divorced for almost ten years. I take care of my children alone because I always care about them and don't want to find someone. But now my children grow up and work in other places, and they will have their own lives and families in the future. Plus, people around me are persuading me, so I have the idea of finding another wife.
In fact, I know that at my age, everyone is not a confused person. After all, everyone has rich life experiences. Whether a person is sincere or not, how can he not feel it? And my requirements are not high, I just want to find someone who is gentle and kind to myself. After all, the rest of my life is still long, and I just want to find someone who lives alone.
In this way, I later met a 5 1 year-old Mr. Chen through introduction. Indeed, I was also attracted by Mr. Chen's erudition. We finally got together and lived with him for more than a year. Mr. Chen and I are in the same situation. At first, we were very harmonious and warm-hearted.
But when the novelty of the two people faded, I felt more and more wrong. Teacher Chen is really good to himself, but I always feel that he always talks too much and is always sweet and considerate. If this is true, he will immediately become empty.
To put it bluntly, Mr. Chen Can painted the cake just to satisfy his hunger, and he always painted the cake very big intentionally or unintentionally.
Since the two of us moved in together, I really want to make a living, so I usually use my salary for living expenses, and then try my best to take care of Mr. Chen's food, clothing, housing and transportation every day and tidy up his modest two-bedroom apartment.
It was also from that time that Mr. Chen's quality of life improved many times than before. He used to be a big shot and lived a smoky life in this room. Open the refrigerator, it's either spoiled or expired, but I'm busier and more tired than before.
But what keeps me going every day is that Mr. Chen is trying to make me happy every day. The two of us are talking, laughing and quarreling together. He used some sweet words to get me to pay. Although Miss Chen is wary of me everywhere, she will also show a sincere look and promise to keep my salary for me. But after that time, he began to find reasons to say that the child needed money and gave it all to the child.
Having lived with him for so long, I found that he values money very much. I have never spent money on him. He has never really given anything except a mouth. When it comes to money, he becomes very sensitive. Although he usually makes a fuss, if I really ask him to buy me a dress, he has to find a reason to spend 100 yuan.
We live together for four months a year. I am more nanny than nanny, and I am much more capable than nanny. The nanny didn't take care of him so well, but Mr. Chen's children were worried that I would miss his property. Even Mr. Chen has a showdown with his children: "You don't have to worry. When I am old, I will definitely leave the house to you. "
After I know this, I certainly don't want to miss Mr. Chen's two-bedroom apartment, but his direct words will inevitably make me feel chilling. After all, I have done so much for him.
Later, I became more and more aware that Mr. Chen was selfish, that is, he lived together for a long time and only relied on one mouth to say that he had really shared and paid, and even did not cherish it.
He can be selfless to his children, but every time he sees that I give money to my children, or that I give them too much love, he immediately shows his unhappiness. His tactfulness is to say nothing, and even if he does, he will say irony. Why not give more?
But it was that that directly led us to break up. As I spent all my salary, Teacher Chen offered me a salary of 1000. He even calculated the money, which is the normal cost of the money and how many days of life it can support.
Only then did I realize that he was really smart. Even if a man of this age has true feelings for you, it is based on not affecting his own interests. Such a man just wants to change to a more competent nanny who can take care of himself at less cost.
That time, I accidentally bought a few more eggs, and he said that I talked for a long time. Later, I couldn't stand it anymore, so I said to him, "Let's break up. Might as well live alone. You are so careful that you don't let yourself suffer at all, but you take my goodness for granted. What's the point of living like this? " I might as well live alone, eat and drink and take care of myself, but now I have to take care of you. You don't cherish my feelings at all, but you think about whether your interests have been harmed all day. I think this life is very tiring. Let's call it a day! "
You take my kindness to you for granted. What's the point of living like this? I might as well live alone, eat and drink and take care of myself, but now I have to take care of you. You don't cherish my feelings at all, but you think about whether your interests have been harmed all day. I think this life is very tiring. Let's call it a day! "
Then I packed my things and left. Mr. Chen came to me many times after he came back, but I refused. I don't think it is realistic to find another wife now. It is better to live a rainy life alone and be as happy as a fairy. Why do you have to find someone else to serve you and play with your own money? Why bother? I want to forget it, too It is better to spend time with my son once in a while, or to find my sisters to come out and play, and to find an old man to wait on me every day. In fact, where can a single man like this find a wife? Obviously, I just want to find a free nanny, which is wrong. It is better to have a nanny than to have a nanny.
I want to forget it, too It is better to spend time with my son once in a while, or to find my sisters to come out and play, and to find an old man to wait on me every day. In fact, where can a single man like this find a wife? Obviously, I just want to find a free nanny, which is wrong. It is better to have a nanny than to have a nanny.
When two people are together, the emotional warmth created by * * * is actually far better than the satisfaction brought by money. Money can't satisfy a person's low-level desires, and many desires are actually inseparable from love. Because being loved is a kind of enjoyment, but actually loving others is a kind of enjoyment. A true lover, who really wants to find a wife for himself, can't be too selfish. You know, * * * can create happiness and beauty with the same efforts.
After all, we are looking for a life partner, not a passerby. Two people are together because of affection, but for those selfish people, they often meet a heartless person in the end.