Skills 1: Classic 5W2H questioning method
5W2H, namely:
Who (who) happened when (when) where (what), why (why), what was the final effect/result (how), and how much was paid in the process.
For example, he said that he would jump to a new company in 2020. You can pick up the topic and say: Why did you choose to come to Beijing? Where did it develop before? What exactly is the job? Did you encounter any problems when changing jobs (here can be an example) and so on.
One principle: keep the value center.
Don't add your own value judgment too early in the process of the other party's telling.
I have a good relationship with my mother. We jump to the conclusion that it is Ma Baonan. Because of this preset, the follow-up communication between the two sides is more difficult, because we have brought colored glasses. I just want to finish it quickly and don't want to waste any more time.
In fact, we can understand: why? How good is the relationship? Do as you say? Or just a reference? Mom is also open-minded?
Zero mentality: zero mentality
Before the blind date meets, it has to be said that there are many "high light moments" before the middle and front bridges are connected.
For this information, we only need to know the facts, that is, the other party's hometown, education and other facts, rather than "good personality, very docile people" and so on.
Don't meet each other with expectations and presuppositions, otherwise when expectations are lower than reality, the performance of the other party may be 60 points. But in our eyes, he is only worth 10 points.