Breaking up is not an emergency. Before this, we have actually begun to show our edge, from silence to silence, from habit to loss of care, from rhetoric to argument ... It is not an opportunity to deal with it, but we have not really put this change in our hearts and given ourselves a running-in period to numb ourselves.
The disappearance of a feeling has always been like a shadow. If you want to know how to save him, you must find the real reason why everyone broke up and choose the retention countermeasures for symptomatic treatment. What do you mean by breaking up? Give a simple example:
If everyone breaks up and proposes to break up, he must have suffered a lot from your bad temper and finally reached the moral bottom line. He was fed up and had to break up. At this time, you have to make sure that you will change and always brush your sense of existence in front of him, so retaining is undoubtedly unsuccessful. Why? Because of the accumulation of differences, the most taboo of breaking up is to fight harder and harder, which always makes the situation between us more anxious. Therefore, to improve their retention rate, we must make a summary of everyone's breakup.
1, delay breaking up
A protracted breakup usually includes three points of doubt, one point of hesitation and six points of disagreement.
Long-term accumulated emotional fatigue has caused obvious emotional plasticity to boys. They are reluctant to part with the unforgettable memories of the past, but they lack the confidence to go on with you again.
2. Cold and violent family breakup.
In the past, no matter how unreasonable you were, he would endure his temper to make you happy. But now, if you show a little mentality, he will stay away from you, and even if there is disagreement, he will not see anyone for a few days. Your attention gradually makes him feel verbose, and your coquetry gradually makes him ignore it. He doesn't even bother to argue with you anymore, and all that remains is silence.
This is a typical cold domestic violence.
Many boys don't want to be the one who definitely broke up, so they resort to long-term domestic cold violence.
"Force" the girl to hate it, make it clear.
Why did he change from enthusiasm at the beginning to indifference now?
Most domestic cold violence is generally attributed to "lack of use value" or "emotional fatigue".
3. Emergency breakup.
Maybe everyone needs to end this long-distance love run quickly. Has anyone consulted a relationship counselor? Is it reliable? Your long-awaited wedding reception has finally come to fruition. At this time, he told you that mom and dad were not satisfied and ordered everyone to break up.
Do you feel wronged? These years of youth and feelings have ended because of the dissatisfaction of mom and dad? So, there was a fierce contradiction between us, and even a physical collision? This kind of breakup caused by unexpected events is classified as an emergency breakup.
4. Break up impulsively
Breaking up for no reason is the most common. For example, when the other party is crying, they will bring it up, and when they are emotional, they will lose face, so the dispute will only end in a breakup.
After the mentality is restored, I gradually regret it, and the other party can obviously resent it, causing the dilemma of retaining.
At this time, cold violence is an indispensable process. Giving the other person a time to think rationally, restoring the anxiety and negative emotions in his heart until the right opportunity to master the dialog box again plays a particularly important role in emotional reconstruction.
It is often said that the difference of logical thinking between boys and girls is not only manifested in love, but also in the different mentality of dealing with breaking up. Grasp the different main manifestations of different boys' reactions to breaking up. When the other party clearly proposes to break up, you won't cry all the time. Just learn to deal with the symptoms, and then stop and keep the feelings you cherish.
In fact, in the whole process of retaining your boyfriend, if you can find the following aspects, you have already succeeded half way.
1, your purpose is to retain, not to bore the other party.
After breaking up, the other party will be temporarily in emotional isolation, which is the so-called stage of cold violence. In this time range, the other party will be very resistant to emotional things, especially among everyone. Therefore, it is necessary to prevent emotional chatting and give each other time and space to digest and absorb negative emotions.
In addition to not talking about how effective it is to save your boyfriend after a ruthless breakup, there is no need to express what happened in the past three times and five times, because this will make the other person feel compelled and stressed at work, which will lead to boredom.
2. Don't have nothing to say, just want to chat.
Even if you can't talk about emotions, you can't express what happened in the past. Is there nothing to say?
Even if you don't talk about emotions, two people will have suitable chat topics for so long, such as things that two people have experienced together before, such as each other's preferences and the current situation of roommates.
Never good morning, good afternoon, good night, sweet dreams, or what are you doing? Have you eaten? Busy? There's nothing to find in this conversation.
During this separation, enjoy your personal life.
Go where you want to go, see the scenery you like, do what you want, and fill up the original charm, so that good luck will love you.
Being single is a person's best appreciation stage. If you are immersed in feelings, you may forget to improve yourself.
But in fact, they are usually beautiful. Lovers are not the harbor of your heart. Everyone in the world will be your spiritual harbor for life.
Only you are your ultimate refuge.
List the professional skills you need to change to improve yourself. It takes a long time for a person to develop, but every step forward will bring you closer to your idealized self.
But be careful not to take too long, because after half a year, he may have got rid of this feeling and had a new love.
4. Let him notice you again.
Yes, you have made so many efforts before, all in order to better make him notice you again.
Everyone's previous love shows that you have the qualities he likes. At this time, you need to arouse the impression of your happiness in other people's minds.
Put photos of you playing with friends on social media, show your ex-boyfriend your colorful life and calm down.
This can reflect the efficient energy in your subconscious, and this efficient energy is just an accelerator for everyone's emotional recombination.