Secondly, it depends on the severity of the child's illness. If you get sick, you will be slower. It would be better if it is only an emotional problem, but it should also be evaluated in detail.
The consultation method is not suitable, you can consider changing it. Children's trust in consultants is the most important thing.
If described in one sentence, psychological counseling is actually a "contest" between two people (one-on-one counseling). Why do you say that? Because in the process of psychological counseling, no matter what school the counselor comes from and what consulting technology he uses, his purpose is to bring the visitors back to the right track from their existing and off-track lifestyle as much as possible. Lifestyle is produced by a person's continuous interaction with the main caregivers of TA, people, events and situations around him from birth to growth. At the age of 6, the embryonic form of lifestyle will be formed, and then it will continue to solidify. For children in grade three, the time is neither long nor short. If a way of life is negative, shrinking or aggressive and intense at the beginning of its formation, but it has not been corrected, then with the continuous solidification and off-track formation, people's lives will gallop away in that direction unconsciously like a train. The result is getting more and more biased. Of course, different people have different degrees of deviation, and most people will have a slight deviation, which will give them a good chance to get back on track. And the people who are ultimately troubled by psychological problems are precisely those who have relatively large deviations.
Specifically, if you want to get a third-year child back on track, TA must first be willing to let you pull, which is called the driving force for change; Secondly, TA has to like you, which is called the fit of consultation; In addition, your method of pulling TA must be effective for TA, which is the adaptability of consulting genre or consulting technology to different problems; Finally, how far did TA deviate? How hard does it pull? This is the intensity and duration of consultation, and so on. All these factors are suitable, and a satisfactory psychological consultation appears.
Having said that, I'm afraid you can understand the difficulty of psychological counseling. In fact, in this contest, both consultants and visitors need to constantly adjust the above factors. For example, visitors themselves have no motivation to change and are forced to consult by their parents (this situation exists among a large number of teenagers), and the effect will certainly not be good. The focus should be on motivating them to change, rather than regular psychological counseling.
I am a convalescent patient with severe depression and anxiety, and I am glad to answer your question.
Let's first take a look at the corresponding treatments for various mental diseases.
As can be seen from the above picture, depression is not suitable for psychotherapy when it is moderate or severe, so even if you do more psychotherapy, it will be ineffective.
Let me talk about my treatment experience again.
After we are diagnosed with depression, it is most difficult to take medicine psychologically, because many patients think that this medicine will control the brain, which is not good for the body, has a great effect and is dependent. Actually, I came to tell you that there is no need to worry at all. The side effects caused by drugs are far less harmful than those caused by depression. Depression and long-term insomnia will bring great pressure to the heart, liver and kidney, which will bring many chronic diseases in the long run, and these chronic diseases often need lifelong medication. Are you still afraid of the side effects of drugs after hearing this? So the doctor suggested taking medicine and starting to eat!
A lot of news on the internet will see that depression is difficult to treat, because some people do not listen to the doctor's advice after taking the medicine, which leads to the recurrence of depression. If you want to fully recover from depression, you must insist on taking medicine. After acute onset, continue to treat and maintain the consolidation period, and do not take medicine at will. These three periods will take about one to two years. ,
People with depression are often psychologically fragile. Long-term exercise will exercise people's willpower and improve their physical fitness. Only with good health and good spirit can we fight depression for a long time.
The anxiety and depression of junior and senior high school students are mainly caused by two aspects, 1: family, generally family pressure, parents want their daughters to succeed and their children to succeed. Together, hypnosis can't solve the fundamental problem, and hypnosis is uneven in society, so it is difficult to make the best treatment. Parents should communicate with their children more, relieve stress and solve problems from the root causes. 2. The rebellious psychology of junior high school, the rebellious period of youth, they have a new view on life, the pressure of entering a higher school, the contradiction of interests and hobbies, irritability and depression can be solved through hypnosis and psychological counseling.
My brother started school two days ago, but he said he didn't want to study and wouldn't go to school. The family was shocked. Then we began to persuade him, and the last condition was that I would accompany him to school, and then I would send him to the school gate. After chatting all the way, I realized that it was actually a phobia of starting school. I feel that the teacher has to check the homework on the first day, not write it himself. It is normal to see students who have been away for a long time facing boring and repetitive things in class. I had it in high school, especially on the first day of school. I told him that after the first day, all this was nothing, so just calm him down slowly. I still can't bear to see him enter school, and no one at home asked me to send him.
First of all, you should not be confined to psychological counseling. If you don't change your mind, it won't help to do 10 times or 20 times.
What needs to be clarified is why children are afraid and anxious to go to school. Also find out whether the child is afraid or you are afraid, whether the child doesn't want to go to school or whether you want the child to go to school.
What I want is for you to separate from your children and let go of all your anxiety and worry, because it's useless and you don't want to think about what I want to do for them.
Ask your child what fears and worries he has. He must have his own reasons. If you don't understand your child's ideas, but deal with them according to your own ideas, the problem will be even bigger.
Of course, you can see counseling, but you should stay out of it in advance.
More and more students can't go to school because of psychological problems. I receive more than 100 cases every year, and it is on the rise. In my treatment case, the cure rate of adults is over 90%, and that of students is close to 60%. Many of them failed to be treated because they refused treatment. As long as they cooperate seriously, there is no psychological problem that cannot be cured. I mean the parents in the early stage of cooperation and the students themselves in the later stage. The general causes of these problems can be summarized as follows:
1, treatment and cooperation
The reason why adults have a high cure rate is that a large proportion of them take the initiative to ask for help, while students are often passive and forced by their parents.
2. Grasp the timing of treatment
Depression is a typical mental illness. I summarized the general definition of "depression is to lock yourself up" in academic circles. In other words, once locked, it will be very troublesome. If it is found and treated, it will be relatively easy. Therefore, your own standard of 10 times is neither scientific nor allowed to go. It should be based on the specific situation of the child.
3. Matching between consulting and being consulted
Psychological counseling is very strict in matching. Counseling without matching conditions, 100 times is ineffective and destructive, which will make children have rebellious psychology towards psychotherapy and further aggravate world-weariness and troubles.
4. Psychological expectation
Mentality is the basis of psychotherapy. Once the therapist and patients, including parents, have formed a consultation relationship, mentality has become a rigid requirement of environmental indicators. If the environment is not up to standard, the effect and significance of treatment will be affected.
5. Surrounding environment
Depression is a typical mental illness. The so-called mental illness is a non-organic disease. In non-professional terms, it is: I was not sick, but I found myself an imaginary disease. The first condition for treating mental illness is "atmosphere and environment", and the environmental atmosphere that consultants need is created by consultants themselves. Creating a therapeutic atmosphere is an important symbol to verify the ability of consultants. In the process of treatment, family atmosphere is particularly important, because all children with psychological problems have problems with family atmosphere, so cooperation with treatment is definitely not a child's business, and must be completed by family members.
6. Parents' perspective
Once a child suffers from mental illness, parents are hard to blame. Therefore, when seeking psychotherapy help, parents' perspective and cognitive ability are often limited by their own abilities. This is a big problem, parents need to break through themselves, because your choice is the future fate of your child!
Suffering from depression takes only three steps:
1, just find a reason to struggle there;
2. I accidentally locked my head;
3, then began to increase, and finally chose a sealed jar. It's that simple!
The treatment of depression is also divided into three steps:
1, broken cans are broken;
2. Hold the confused hand;
3. Find the key to unlock. It's that simple!
So, I suggest you do a long-distance psychological investigation for your child first, find out the cause and the degree of mental illness, and then give your treatment suggestions, and then you can judge for yourself whether the psychological counselor's analysis of the condition and the cause is accurate? Evaluate whether the counselor has the ability to cure and the possibility of matching.
Is it effective to do psychological counseling for junior high school students who are depressed, anxious and afraid of going to school for ten times? Why?
Students are depressed, anxious and afraid, unable to study normally, and need psychological counseling to adjust their state.
As for how many times psychological counseling is needed to solve the problem, the first thing to consider is what kind of psychological counselor and what kind of technology to use. If it is efficient and scientific technology, and it is very skilled, coupled with the active cooperation of students, section 10 can basically solve the problem.
But in fact, there are more than 400 kinds of consulting technologies in the world, some in colleges and universities, some are inefficient, but few are efficient, so it is not easy to choose. Moreover, if students don't cooperate and have poor mobility, it is efficient technology, and consultants can use it skillfully, and the effect will be average.
It is very important to choose a counselor. You can learn about it first and listen to how he explains the formation process of students' depression and anxiety, what the pain of students comes from, and how thinking works in school. If the explanation is reliable, a consultation relationship can be established, but the students themselves should actively cooperate.
It is impossible to completely and accurately evaluate how many times the effect can be achieved, and a lot of information is not perfect. The reason for this is the following：
1. What is the grade of students' depression among the three grades? According to different situations, the processing methods can be different and the frequency will be completely different.
This student has been hypnotized for six times, but she said it was useless. What is her own evaluation standard? How do urged doctors or institutions evaluate the effect?
3. Hypnosis is a professional treatment, so at the same time, do students insist on psychological counseling?
Although I can't make an accurate assessment, I have the following suggestions:
1. Depression is generally not a single disease, but a complication of many other problems. Moreover, depression has various levels, including psychosis, personality disorder and neurosis, which is difficult to explain simply.
2. Depression is not a student's own idea, but must be caused by the feedback from her surroundings. You can think about it carefully. Did anything important happen to the students? Are students extremely disgusted with entering interpersonal relationships? Do students feel useless and helpless? As parents around students, it is also very necessary and necessary to receive treatment with children.
My own pro-menstruation, when her only daughter suffered a serious car accident, should be scared and trembling all over, but in such a long time, from the child's craniotomy, transfer, admission to ICU, repeated notification of critical illness, transfer to the general ward, to the child's final recovery and discharge, she did not shed a tear.
Later, a few years later, my menstruating husband, my aunt, was diagnosed with advanced rectal cancer. After my aunt died, I suffered from depression during menstruation, which became more and more serious. Relatives say that the root cause of the disease is that when her daughter was in a car accident, her emotions were not completely released. This situation requires not only professional treatment, but also psychological counseling. More importantly, it requires the daughter to accompany the treatment (menstruation dotes on the child since childhood, and the daughter loves her very much, but it seems to us to be vicious love, and the daughter has always been very harsh).
Because depressed patients completely turn external attacks into internal attacks, attack themselves, and feel that they have no value of existence and no energy. Her daughter should be able to tolerate her mother's freedom to express her aggression in the mother-daughter relationship without worrying about destroying the relationship. Inspire mom's energy bit by bit and let the energy flow.
Aggressive humanized expression, this is life. I hope this junior three student can get better slowly. Only in the third grade. Xiao Xinwei just sprouted. Let's go