Xiaoli has been very upset recently, not because of the new working environment, but because in the new company, a female colleague is always "particularly enthusiastic" about Xiaoli, but this colleague doesn't care about Xiaoli's work, but cares more about Xiaoli's life. When I learned that Xiaoli was divorced and lived alone with her children, I was very enthusiastic about her.
In Xiaoli's own words, this colleague saw her as if she saw a lot of RMB. His eyes are always shining and he is very excited to ask her all kinds of questions about her divorce from her ex-husband. Unfortunately, he is not a policeman.
For example, from house allocation to child support, how many times does the child see his father a month? What will the child think of his father? Parents' views on their divorce, Xiaoli's mood when she divorced, etc.
These questions made Xiaoli fly into a rage. She came to work, but now she thinks she's here for trial.
At first, Xiaoli felt that she was a newcomer, and she wanted to get on well with her colleagues and leave a good impression on everyone. So she had to answer questions, but when Xiaoli had shown disgust at these questions, the colleague actually insisted and even asked questions loudly at the top of her lungs.
Inquiring into Xiao Li's privacy every day has become a great pleasure in her life, which makes Xiao Li unbearable. Finally, she summoned up her courage and growled, "This topic is over. I don't want to talk about my marriage anymore. I hope you will stop asking these questions in the future. This has nothing to do with my job. You make me very angry! "
Since then, Xiaoli's relationship with this colleague has completely broken down.
Xiaoli thinks it's embarrassing. Ask me if she did something wrong.
I think Xiao Li did the right thing. The person who should be embarrassed should be his colleague, a person who enjoys prying into other people's privacy and doesn't know how to respect others. What is there to associate with?
Life is once, long or short, but who doesn't have a story? Asking about other people's privacy is tantamount to tearing other people's wounds again. Why bother?
2. Adults should be conscious: Don't judge other people's lives.
There is another reason why Xiaoli's colleagues make Xiaoli so angry. This colleague not only likes to pry into Xiaoli's privacy, but also likes to evaluate Xiaoli's life from her own point of view. He told Xiaoli not to divorce, not to help the woman and her ex-husband, which would kill them and never make them happy.
At the same time, she also feels that Xiaoli's divorce is not simply beautiful enough! Let yourself be fall in price, because Xiaoli refused to divorce for her children.
He also asked Xiaoli to change her child's "surname". The child can't be surnamed with her ex-husband, but with Xiaoli. Let Xiaoli watch the TV series "My First Half Life" and let Xiaoli learn how Luo Zijun fought back.
She proudly showed off in front of Xiaoli that if her husband dared to betray her, the house and children would never give it to him, and he would take 2 million mental damages to let him go out clean. The most important thing is that she won't stay for a minute.
Xiaoli said that she was angry when she heard these words, but she didn't refute them. She said, because you haven't experienced it, you won't understand it, and it's no use talking about it.
After that, Xiaoli told me something he experienced personally.
His cousin and his wife are both primary school teachers, from school uniforms to wedding dresses. They talked for nine years and finally got married. It can be said that people are envious and have a solid emotional foundation.
But in the third year after their marriage, his cousin cheated, but his wife refused to divorce. At that time, Xiaoli sneered at his wife's actions, thinking that her actions were too humiliating for a woman, and she could not live without her cousin. At that time, she brazenly told her husband, if you dare to have a woman outside behind my back, I will never do anything to keep her, just leave the child with me. Where are you going? No one in this world can live.
At that time, Xiaoli thought that when she said this, it was simply cool, full of dignity and self-confidence!
At that time, she and her husband were very loving, and her husband always held her in his hand as a treasure. She never imagined that their marriage would end after ten years because of a woman's intrusion.
When I first learned about it, Xiaoli didn't break off her feelings as she once said, and left without any nostalgia. After anger and despair, she chose to forgive and choose a person to swallow all the grievances, just to save the family and let the children have a complete family.
But even though she is so humble, the home she wants has not been saved. Only then did she understand why his wife was struggling to keep her. A man who already has another woman outside has the same heart when he becomes a mother, and wants his children to have a complete home. She realized how ridiculous he was at that time!
If you haven't experienced it, you won't know the pain of others and you are not qualified to judge others' lives.
3. Adults should be conscious and mind their own business.
Xiaoli later heard that her colleague's life was not happy. Her mother-in-law didn't like her before she got married. Later, because they were pregnant, they reluctantly agreed to let them get married. After getting married, everyone lived in peace for a while.
Until the child was born, his mother-in-law left the hospital as soon as she saw it was a girl. I haven't come to take care of her all day. Because of this, the young couple had a lot of quarrels. Another brother-in-law is only 10 years old, and his mother-in-law often asks them for money on the grounds of this brother-in-law. At home, two days of small quarrels and three days of big quarrels.
We don't comment too much on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Every family has its own problems.
But your life is a chicken feather, why are you in the mood to comment on other people's lives? It is better to worry more about your own life than luxury.
It is said that there are only three things in life: God's business, others' business and your own business. God's business is none of your business You don't care about other people's business, you can only care about your own business.
It is the consciousness of every adult not to pry into other people's privacy, not to comment on other people's lives, and to mind their own affairs!