My classmate Xiao Ning invited me to her new home for dinner. I brought some fruit, and according to the location of her mobile phone, I finally found the community where her home is located.
At the gate of the community, aunt Lan and her mother are already waiting for me. Looking at Aunt Lan and wearing the same sportswear, I sincerely praised them as sisters.
Indeed, Aunt Lan, who is in her early forties, is tall and has a straight back. Tight skin, light makeup and well-made flat shoes. It makes people feel like bathing in the spring breeze.
I have known Aunt Lan for more than ten years, and it is difficult for me to associate Aunt Lan with those bloated and talkative mothers around me who let themselves go whenever they have a husband and children. Because even a simple meal, a dull day, Aunt Lan can turn decay into magic, so that life is in order and has a sense of ceremony.
This is what I admire most about Aunt Lan, because she can always surprise you in good times and bad times, giving you unexpected surprises and accidents.
02
Sure enough, I was shocked as soon as I entered Aunt Lan's house. Although the house is not big, it looks like 50 or 60 square meters, and the decoration is not so high-grade.
But as soon as you enter the door, you can feel the uniqueness of your master and his emphasis on life. In the vase on the table, there are faint scents of perfume, lily and rose. The wallpaper is an oil painting by Aunt Lan, and sofa cover is also hand-woven by Aunt Lan herself. The design is vivid and the color matching is pleasing to the eye, which is not quite the same as the kind of goods with tens of dollars on a treasure.
After dinner, Aunt Lan didn't turn on the TV or cell phone. Let's watch variety shows or brush the news. But with melodious music, let's sit barefoot on her Turkish plush carpet and play cards that only the elderly can play.
03
Don't think that Aunt Lan is an artist and lives a petty bourgeoisie life with money and leisure. In fact, I have known her since junior high school through Xiao Ning, knowing her past and present.
Aunt Lan divorced her father, or rather, Aunt Lan dumped her father. At that time, Xiao Ning's father opened a rice factory, wore a thick gold necklace and kept silent with the smell of RMB.
When her father paraded through the city with her hair salon sister, flirted with the widow and told dirty jokes, Aunt Lan's head couldn't wait to reach her feet. Crying and making noise, but what can a housewife do with her husband?
When Aunt Lan asked her father for a divorce, everyone advised her to turn a blind eye. It is said that as long as men can earn money, they can sit at home and drink spicy food. Yingying Yanyan's is just taking part in accidental amusement.
Aunt Crane would rather lead an honest and clean life than lead such a popular and spicy "good" life.
So Aunt Lan took her to the county seat, rented a house and settled in the school. Go to school during the day, and Aunt Lan goes to work as an hourly worker. First of all, she cleans, cooks and helps people pick up and drop off their children.
Later, because of her fast work and good reputation, many employers named her to do it. With more clients, Aunt Lan is too busy to do it alone. She simply set up a small domestic company to train new people.
Aunt Lan is different from other women. She doesn't like socializing, playing mahjong, singing K and gossiping. She likes reading and studying with Xiao Ning, making handicrafts and studying food in her spare time. Life is busy, but it is extremely fulfilling and comfortable.
04
Every time I talk about Aunt Lan, my sister agrees with her hands and feet. Because my mother-in-law is also such a person who loves life and lives a particularly free and chic life.
I have met my sister and mother-in-law several times. I was a widow when I was very young, raising two children and a daughter by myself. Although she is rural and her family is not rich, she always dresses appropriately and her family is clean. My sister's mother-in-law has never been out of the countryside in her life, but what she says and does makes people feel very comfortable.
My sister went to her husband's house for the first time, and we were accompanied by more than a dozen people. No matter old people or children, mother-in-law is polite, takes out the best candy in the house and praises everyone who eats simple meals.
Later, we learned that her mother-in-law began to prepare this table three days ago. She also asked her son to ask my sister the taste of our people early in the morning.
Children's favorite candy, she is also the most expensive and best choice in the city, unlike ordinary people who just fiddle around and get something on the table to make up the number.
05
Later, my sister got married and had children, and we went to her husband's house again. Only then did I find that my mother-in-law was really ingenious and creative.
The big yard is full of orchids, chrysanthemums and daffodils of the four seasons. Flowers bloom as soon as the wind blows. There are also tiger shoes, peach bracelets and embroidered hats she made for children, which are beautiful, practical and particularly fashionable. Let's put it down and hope we can take it home.
To my surprise, the gifts my sister and mother-in-law prepared for us were not expensive, but they were all very attentive. Old people's eating and drinking, children's favorite handmade toys, flowers and plants that adults care about, and homemade fishing rod and wooden stool. Her mother-in-law can make a stunning appearance.
No wonder my sister's husband and wife love each other and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious. With such a clever mother-in-law, it is difficult for her son to stand out.
Almost every time I go to my sister's house, our married daughter-in-law enviously says that this is someone else's mother-in-law.
No wonder our own lives are a mess. In contrast, my sister's life is particularly wonderful.
06
To tell the truth, I have always disagreed with the saying that "a good mother is a child's greatest blessing". But when I had a baby myself, I deeply realized that it is really not easy to be a good mother, and we need to make a lot of efforts.
(1) Set an example and don't use negative emotional contagion children.
Whether the husband has an affair or the in-laws do nothing, it will make mothers feel dissatisfied and even disgusted. How to prevent bad emotions from infecting children requires mothers' strong self-digestion ability, and more importantly, they need to smile and forget their grievances.
(2) Have the courage to live, and have the courage to redeem yourself.
Because many mothers have no financial ability, they face all kinds of difficulties when their husbands cheat. For the sake of children, most of them choose to compromise, and even grovel to please their husband's family. These self-abased practices, although hungry, are doomed to be looked down upon and cannot live as a capitalized "person."
(3) Always young, always in tears.
Mother is getting older every year, and aging is inevitable. However, if we want to live young and full of self-confidence, we are required to never give up, actively learn new things and maintain our enthusiasm for the world. We can choose to watch TV and play games to kill time, or we can choose to read, travel and work to expand our lives.
(4) It is better to teach by example than by example, and it is better to do it yourself if you say it a hundred times.
A child is a mirror of a mother. If we want children to smile, first of all, we can't suffer. We should let our children develop morally, intellectually, physically and artistically in an all-round way, and their limbs should not be diligent. If we want our children to be cheerful and optimistic, we can't feel sorry for ourselves. Children are parents' mirrors, and parents are children's shadows. May we nourish our children with love and warmth and accompany them.