Ayong is 32 years old. I am single now because I have devoted myself to my career these years. If his distant parents were not worried and urged about his marriage, he wouldn't go on a blind date at all, because in his opinion, it is too easy for him to marry a daughter-in-law.
But in fact, after the blind date, Ayong discovered that it was really too difficult for him to marry a good wife, because he couldn't even go on a blind date, and most of the women he liked didn't like him, just like the woman who went on a blind date last week.
Ayong said that the woman he met on a blind date last week made him particularly angry, but in his heart, he felt that the woman's conditions were not bad. At first, he really took a fancy to it. That woman is 33 years old this year. Although she is a little old, she looks good. She is a local, the only child in the family, and has a house in the local area. Although she doesn't earn much money, she is very stable, so after listening to this woman's introduction, Ayong made up her mind and chose this woman.
But before Ayong finished introducing herself, another woman's face changed greatly, and then she said to Ayong in disgust, "If only you had a house! You are good in other aspects, except that you are from a bad family, your parents are incompetent, and we are not a suitable family, so it is impossible. I have seen many Phoenix men like you, and you just want my house and money. "
It was the woman's remarks that made Ayong particularly angry, so Ayong directly replied to the woman: "I earned 50,000 yuan a month by myself. Although I was born in a bad family and have no house, I didn't marry an older woman. You are too old to get married. Don't you know? "
Ayong thought his words would make the lady speechless, but after listening to his words, she just said, "What's wrong with older women? In this age of more men and fewer women, women are not worried about getting married at all. The man I want to marry must be a local, and you, a man without a house, can't get a wife here at all!
It was this woman's words that made Ayong very angry and left directly, so he said, "I'd rather marry a second married woman than a woman older than me". Ayong said that in fact, he is not worried about his marriage. He just wants to stay in this city, marry a wife who can help him, and then lay a good foundation for his descendants.
Actually, in my opinion, I'm not worried about whether Ayong can marry a daughter-in-law, because it's really not difficult to marry a daughter-in-law with his skill.
Speaking of Ayong, although many people say that he is a Phoenix man, he is very utilitarian in marriage. But I especially admire him, because he can achieve today's achievements all by himself, which is also admirable. Ayong was born in a poor mountain village, and his family was poor. His parents were farmers, and neither of them went to school. But by his own efforts, he walked out of that poor and backward mountain village with the college entrance examination, and then took root in this city and became an excellent "northern drifter".
In Ayong's words: Now he just wants to stay in this city, because he doesn't want to go back to that small mountain village after seeing the outside world. As for getting married, his first thought is to marry a local wife, because it will save him from struggling for many years and help his career a lot.
It is precisely because of this idea that many women often say that he is "a toad wants to eat swan meat and deserves not to marry a wife", and some even say that he is too utilitarian as a phoenix man. So Ayong asked me, "Is he really wrong?" ?
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, Ayong didn't do anything wrong, it's just his choice of marriage, because whether it's love or marriage, it's always fair and always a two-way choice. Women can choose their favorite men, and men can also choose their favorite women. This is a fair choice, everyone has the right to choose, and no one is qualified to make irresponsible remarks.
In addition, even if Ayong wants to marry a local wife, he is not a "toad trying to swallow a swan", because although the woman he wants to marry is in good condition, he is not bad in his own condition, and he is also a potential stock, so it is uncertain who will take advantage in the future.
For blind date in Ayong, some people must say that Ayong is a "toad trying to eat swan meat", some people will say that the woman has a special reality of money worship, and some people say that at their age, she is still single. These are all wrong.
But in fact, in my opinion, they are all right because everyone has the right to pursue beauty. They are just pursuing the love and marriage they want. They have the right to choose, and others are not qualified to evaluate them.
Although many people say that marriage is particularly pure, in my opinion, marriage is actually a special reality, just an unusual transaction. Men get what they want through marriage, women get what they want through marriage, and then both sides get what they want and spend their lives together.
Don't rush to refute me, because in my opinion, marriage has something to ask for, so we are not qualified to evaluate those who exercise the right to choose in marriage, they have the qualification and power to choose.
When you haven't experienced everything others say you have experienced, please don't judge and give directions easily, because most people don't have this qualification. Sit still and think about yourself all the time. Gossip is not personal.
Finally, I have two words to remind you:
1. Old women are not so bad. By my side, in fact, most older women have very good conditions. Most of them are not married, not because they can't get married, but because they haven't met the person they want to get married. This is just their insistence on love.
2. Women are not worried about getting married. For most ordinary women, once they pass the marriageable age, they will also worry about getting married, because age is their greatest capital. The women who really don't worry about getting married are those who are particularly excellent.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: A person's ultimate companion is often the best person in his optional range. Any long-term relationship is an exact match after the values are sorted. "So love is not easy, do it and cherish it.