I have to discuss things with my cousin when I go to work two days ago. After breakfast, I gave the children to Yo-Yo's father. I came to my cousin's house, had a simple talk with my sister-in-law, and went into the study to talk about work. After a while, I heard my sister-in-law's roar outside the door: "What's the matter? I made a mistake again and can't change it. " "How many times have I said? I just can't remember. What a nuisance! " "Write a stroke. If you don't write well, you will tear it and rewrite it. " ……
This kind of cursing comes and goes, which makes our work impossible. Cousin has gone out many times to dissuade him. After a while, my sister-in-law yelled again. Finally, my cousin said helplessly, "Your sister-in-law is usually very gentle. As long as you do your homework with your children, you can't control the power of the wild in your body. "
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Many parents may have encountered such a scene when accompanying their children to do their homework. One second they were a harmonious and happy family, and suddenly they became a chicken flying and a dog jumping. Adults shout and children shout. Coaxing or scolding is not good, except helplessness, there is also a sense of helplessness.
Don't accompany the children to do their homework. The child dawdled there endlessly. I can't wait to write a little letter one day. Accompany the children with their homework. Adults and children are unhappy and even affect parent-child feelings. What should we do?
In fact, most parents don't know that the reason for this "chicken flying dog jumping" is not that there is anything wrong with the "accompanying homework" itself, but that your "motivation" and "method" are incorrect.
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Inspirational articles, accompanying children or monitoring children?
Many parents can't help pointing at their children when they are doing their homework with them. As the article said at the beginning, are we really doing homework with our children?
When Youyou first entered primary school, I was also doing homework with my children. Seeing that children can't write well or keep up with the speed, they can't help pointing. As a result, Youyou dawdles and doodles every time he does his homework. Even some simple questions, she is always absent-minded and answers irrelevant questions.
I couldn't help talking to my child again, but the child said to me, "mom, I don't want you to accompany me to do my homework." Every time you are here, I feel nervous and a little scared. I feel watched, and I don't want to write if I can't write well. " I can't help but feel a shock. I worked hard to accompany my daughter, but this is the feeling I gave my daughter.
Many times, we think we are accompanying our children, but in fact we are "monitoring" our children!
Later, when I was doing my homework with Youyou, even when I saw my child dawdling and scribbling, I resisted the power of flooding in my body without interference, and slowly changed myself from the "motivation" to accompany my child, so that the child really didn't "monitor" and accepted my company when he didn't feel pressure. When he did his homework, he stopped dawdling and his efficiency improved a lot.
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How to do homework with children?
1. Cultivate children's habit of doing homework on their own initiative.
Let the children relax after school (eat something to replenish energy or chat with them). Not too long. After about ten minutes, they should go to the study to do their homework immediately, and get into the habit of finishing their homework before doing other things.
Before you do your homework, you should also agree on the homework time with your child in advance. Don't interfere with the child in the middle, just stay with him quietly. Habit becomes nature, and slowly children have the habit of going home to do their homework.
In the process of implementation, parents should have principles, don't break their words and indulge their children's play time indefinitely.
2. Cultivate children's correct writing posture and pen holding style.
In the process of doing homework, don't focus on whether the writing is standardized or not and whether the calculation result is correct. Let children develop correct sitting posture and correct pen holding posture.
3. Cultivate children's good study habits.
Cultivate children's "review-homework-preview" learning order, so that children can learn to sort out homework and distinguish homework (which needs to be calculated, which needs to be recited and which needs to be memorized).
Go home while the iron is hot, review the lessons you learned today, deepen your understanding and memory, and then start doing your homework. At this time, homework will become smoother and increase children's learning confidence. After finishing your homework, you can relax properly and then start previewing what you will learn tomorrow.
Review can help children find relatively weak places and work harder in this place; Preview allows children to find the key points of the next class in advance, so as to go to class with questions and key points. This forms a virtuous circle.
After finishing your homework, check your homework with your children, tidy up your schoolbags, study materials and stationery, and develop good study habits.
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In the process of doing homework with children, the most important thing is to help children create a quiet and warm learning atmosphere. When children do their homework, as parents, we should also take a book to read and study, set a good example for children, and quietly guide them when they have sitting or habit problems. Don't play mobile phones, games and watch TV around, which will have a bad influence and guidance on children.