Not being able to chat with women is a common problem for many boys in the process of pursuing women. Sometimes they have thought about what to say before dating, but when they face women, they find that they have no brains and don't know what to say. It is not difficult to chat with women. You just need to sum up a few topics before you can chat with your sister. I won't die anyway, because these are the topics that women are most interested in.
1, high-cost topic
When you start to stop the other person from automatically offering the price for the topic, instead of asking for grades and asking for the price from time to time, you need to take the lead instead of being led by the nose by the purpose. You need to find a topic with price for women, and women will respond.
2. Talk about delicious food;
Most women are foodies, and their understanding of food is usually higher than yours, so you only need to lead the topic to food at this time, so you won't be sad because you can't find a topic in the chat.
3. The Law of September 1st.
You have just started a contest with your sister. No matter whether you are at the scene or gathering, you should always lead the topic from time to time, and your sister only responds to you. "9 1 law" means that you have just started talking to your sister, and you must implement the topic of more than 90% supply, and your sister only supplies 10%. In other words, most of your efforts are in language. You can gradually balance your's conversation in the early stage, but once you don't follow the "9 1 rule" at first, your sister will run away.
4. Identify with the details of women;
Everyone is most concerned about themselves, and what women like most is that others really agree with themselves. But if you directly identify with women, women will think you are artificial, so learn to find details to identify with women, which will be natural and women will like it very much.
5. Talking about the recent popularity is probably popularity;
Women love to listen to these gossips, so talk to them about these hot topics, and you will find that there will be endless topics between you.
Two.
Chatting is not only the exchange of information, but also the way a girl looks at you. If the chat is good, you can continue to chat, or you can leave your contact information and talk later. There is no feeling in chatting. Chatting is always no topic? The heavy atmosphere embarrassed both you and her. So many boys feel uncomfortable. Chatting can be said to run through the whole process of chasing girls, which is very important. The following is the dry goods for chatting. If you browse carefully, you will get something:
1. Talk to each other
Everyone cares about themselves, including girls. In the early days, I could work from the surface of each other. Talk about these and praise girls at the right time. But it should be noted here that praise should not lead to smelly feet or flattery. Give you two suggestions.
Praise each other for details that are not often praised. The first one will make girls think you are thoughtful, and the second one will make girls think you are enthusiastic.
2. What prevents you from chatting with girls?
We might as well recall, in the process of trying to chat with girls, what hindered us from chatting with girls smoothly?
Is it because you can't talk? Absolutely not. I'm sure you've had the experience of talking to a Kan Kan alone in a few words before.
Is it because you are shy and generous? I don't think so myself, because I know that in front of your buddies, your face is sometimes thicker than the city wall.
Talk about yourself
Brothers who see the first point, don't talk nonsense about girls. This will show that you are interested in each other, but it will show that you are a bit cheap. Chatting must be valued: you have me and I have you.
You must learn to show yourself in the process of chatting with girls. But this is not boasting. Bragging is a low-end move, in order to pursue the recognition of the other party, and at the same time show that the braggart is not arrogant.
Talking about third parties
The third party is everything except you and her.
This topic is safer than peace, and it is very suitable for breaking the ice with girls in the early days. Such as constellation pets, fashion gossip. These are common topics that girls are interested in, and it is easy to talk to them about this topic.
The center of real chat is grasping, sharing the same frequency and seeking novelty. When grasping the shape, you and your sister share the same frequency (sharing the shape and feeling the infection). Both of them are seeking new forms from each other and can chat and talk.
I don't know what to talk to girls.
In the four years since I exposed The Last Speech, I have encountered countless such questions: "Andy, how to chat with girls?"
The brothers who ask this question really don't know how to chat with girls, and even have little experience in chatting with strange girls. Because I can't chat with girls, I don't know what to say and how to say the first sentence, so I owe a good girl a good chat.
Three. Five simple techniques
Picking up girls is really a psychological warfare process. Not necessarily together, sometimes there are routines. Bian Xiao has been discussing some chat routines for picking up girls for many years and sharing them with you.
1, how to find a topic to talk about?
When I first met girls, the biggest headache for most boys was: What are you talking about?
Indeed, if you can't find the topic of cooperation, that is, the contact information of your sister, you will be killed by yourself, and how to find a topic becomes very important. In fact, everyone has a desire to express. All you have to do is guide your sister to talk about her work, and you can become a good listener.
But remember, guidance is not questioning, don't make her feel bad.
2. Decisive appeasement method
Sometimes girls cry to you to tell you something about work, in order to get your comfort, listen to what you say from your mouth and give them a reassurance. So you don't have to show your extremely wise side and analyze all the rules for her. Girls at this time will not listen to anything.
It doesn't hurt to say for sure what she wants to hear. For example, she said that she didn't do well in the exam and would definitely fail. Just say, "Don't worry, it won't."
She might ask, "Really?"
You said, "Everyone didn't do well in the exam. How can a teacher let so many people down? Don't worry, you'll be fine. "
Calm her mood first, and then come back when the work foundation stops.
3. Potential flattery
Direct and profound flattery will not only have no effect, but also make girls feel uncomfortable. And it will make girls think that you have ulterior motives, are uneasy and alert to you.
Typical comparisons are:
Man: Handsome man, you are really beautiful.
Woman: Oh, thank you (monologue in my heart: I'm so beautiful and vulgar, and I look like a diaosi)
If you say it in another way, it's different:
M: Your head is very literary (girls like to be praised for literature and art).
Woman: Really, I just took it casually.
M: Yes, I think this angle and composition are great, but it can also make you look more beautiful, so that you can look good when you shoot it.
Woman: Oh, no (I'm really happy)
See, strangeness means praising her beauty. In another way, it will be easier for her to accept, and she will think that you are an extended person, and you will not pay attention to your appearance when you come up.
4. Say the sky in her usual language.
If you find a girl has a funny idiom, you can test it and simulate it, which will make her feel intimate and that her relationship with you is very unusual.
Strange, you can still keep her favorite mood bag and use it occasionally. Remember not to imitate her constantly, just come once or twice to make her happy once in a while, and get bored if there are too many.
5. Use people's contradictory thoughts.
In fact, everyone has another extended temperament that is exactly the same as the appearance. If you can see it well, it will be very difficult to chase girls.
People always want someone to understand his unknown side.
For example, you said to a girl, "I thought you were a girl who sometimes liked to be quiet and alone, and a woman with great personality compared with her original opinions."
Maybe:
"Although you are relatively calm when there are many people, I thought you were the kind of girl who was slow to heat, and preferred to fight with people gradually. It's not so cold or close, but it needs some work. "
When you say these words, girls will think, bosom friends! You know me very well!
So the relationship is not involved?
4.ice? inexistent
This is a reality that we have to admit. Boys who chat don't have to be handsome and rich to attract girls.
So whether you can make girls willing to fight with you depends on how you speak.
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1, talk less about cross-examination.
For example, asking each other for information may lead to boring topics such as tasks and family status.
For example, above:
Diaosi: How old were you a few years ago?
Girl: 23.
Diaosi: Where do I get off work?
Girl: Small company.
Diaosi: Oh.
Diaosi: Why don't you talk? What are you doing?
Girl: Nothing.
Diaosi: How many people are there in your family?
Diaosi: Are you there? Why don't you talk?
It's strange that girls want to talk to you. See for yourself if it's boring. Therefore, it is this kind of questioning dialogue that is most put an end to. You can test and guide girls to talk about some topics automatically.
For example:
Me: You look so young, like eighteen or nineteen. (Laughter)
Girl: There it is. I'm 23 years old. (Girls automatically give information)
Me: 23 years old. It's time to graduate. (Chen said I guessed)
Girl: Well, yes, I'm off work in a small company now.
Different information, obtained in different ways, will not disgust girls, prevent the same questioning, and make the conversation deadlocked.
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2. Don't ask unsafe questions.
Don't ask girls about their previous lofty sentiments. This topic is relatively private, and girls will love to talk. After listening, you will be deeply impressed.
Diaosi: Have you ever had a boyfriend before? How many?
Girl: ... (Why should I inform you? It's really rude. )
Diaosi: What kind of boys do you like?
Girl: ... (unlike you, you will be transformed)
At the first moment, these topics are not suitable for discussion, and there is no pride in each other. Talking about these private topics will make girls feel bad and think that their privacy is being peeped.
3. Don't talk about pessimism.
No one wants to be someone else's mood trash can, so don't discuss the topic of negative energy and pessimism, don't complain and slander others in front of girls, make irresponsible remarks, which will make her treat you badly and think you are a heartless man, even a little sissy.
Girls like active boys, which can bring her a positive side in life, instead of complaining about this and that every day. Only by adhering to a pleasant chat atmosphere can one party have more good topics and lead the relationship to a better goal.