Just measured.
In fact, there are many pictures. Take some away.
There was hardly a pause when the report came out. After reading it, I have to admit that 80% is still accurate, and there are some things I don't want to break through and change in a hurry.
In the face of some uncertainties and pressures (such as the impact of the epidemic on work and life), I certainly prefer to be calm and stable. No waves are bad. I found that there were almost no people in the photos I took, and the whole was quiet.
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What you want most inside is peace.
The greatest desire in your subconscious is to pursue inner peace. In most cases, you have a high degree of acceptance of the people around you and what happened. You look peaceful, casual and open-minded, which actually reflects your inner desire to avoid conflict. So you will actively internalize and resolve the problems you face, try your best to adapt, and make the problems no longer a problem.
Your desire for peace stems from the fact that you like a quiet and relaxed environment, or you are unwilling to try hard to change. Therefore, choose a passive and obedient way to deal with it and minimize the frequency of confrontation situations. If you are a trusted relative or lover, it is easier to trust and obey unconditionally, and you have fewer ideas.
Every desire represents the value it brings to you, and a calm desire can reduce a lot of inner entanglement and pulling. You have an attitude of peace of mind when you come. As long as you don't make mistakes in the face of major problems, this power-saving mode can make you focus more on important things. Moreover, maintaining inner peace for a long time is more conducive to physical and mental health.
However, if you are too accustomed to passively accepting the current environment and develop into the only way to deal with it, your personal thoughts and subjective initiative will gradually decrease accordingly. While accepting everything, it also means that it is easy to ignore your voice. In order to maintain calm and depressed emotions, when the backlog reaches a certain level, no matter how quiet the space is, it will start to make you fidget.
When the purpose of all your actions is to maintain harmony and calm on the surface, it also means that you have lost your real personal needs and it is difficult to get real pleasure and satisfaction in your heart. To find your true self, you can borrow some tests to explore your inner needs, or seek professional psychological help. Psychological counselors can concretize your emotional feelings through clever questions, and at the same time help you solve your pent-up emotions more effectively to achieve real reconciliation with your heart.
1. Getting used to passive acceptance will make you forget your autonomy. Through conscious cultivation, you can reawaken your independent consciousness.
(1) Plan your day completely. It is easy for you to follow other people's ideas or needs, so create more opportunities for yourself to control. Pick a weekend and plan a day's itinerary, just like the game of kings. Think about what you want to do and what you should do, and practice it on this day.
If you like to let nature take its course, you may feel that you have no requirements, but you can make yourself clear about your needs through oral expression. Use more words like "I think" and "I hope" to stimulate you and get used to making demands.
If you are not passionate about many things, it may just be that you have not met something you really love. When you find what you really want to do, you will get motivation from your heart and make yourself more positive.
Finding a trigger mechanism that suits you is equivalent to finding your own power switch. According to Professor Fogg's research, the trigger mechanism needs to meet three conditions:
First, the trigger mechanism should be successfully captured by us;
Second, the trigger mechanism should be connected with our target behavior;
Third, we should have corresponding behavioral motives and abilities at the same time.
The trigger mechanism is divided into external and internal. For example, when the alarm clock rings every day, you know it's time to get up, go to work and go to school. This is an external trigger. As soon as I think I have something to do, I get up and go to work at once. This is an internal trigger, and that's what you need.
Establishing a trigger mechanism is the cultivation of habits. Everyone's trigger mechanism is different. Find and establish your own trigger mechanism, and think more about everything: why should I do this? What's good for me? Slowly, you can change from an idle attitude to a focused attitude.
For interpersonal relationships, your dominant desire is: pity.
You have good intentions, pay more attention to the positive influence of interpersonal relationships, and are willing to consider others. This is due to your subconscious desire for sympathy from others, which urges you to show concern and sympathy for others and actively provide help and encouragement.
And this kind of subconscious, its germination may be due to the need to obtain social recognition, its own high degree of empathy, expectation of return and so on. Thanks and appreciation to others is a positive reward mechanism, which makes you feel happy and encourages you to continue to help others. Seeing others trapped will also make you feel pain, and the act of helping can make you feel relaxed; In other words, when you are anxious, it will also inspire you to help others. Because reciprocity can reduce your anxiety now.
This kind of compassion for others is a highly affectionate behavior, which can enhance your affinity and easily establish good interpersonal relationships with others. * * * People with high emotions can make people feel your sincerity, and you also know how to give appropriate emotional responses. This empathy ability is not only an important social skill, but also manifested in literature and story creation. Understand and express emotions better than ordinary people, and make your works more humane and intriguing.
Moderate help will promote the harmony of interpersonal relationships, but if you help too enthusiastically, you will even help at the expense of your own interests. At this time, you may have fallen into a pity dilemma. Have you ever wondered what is your biggest reaction feeling every time you help others? Because you can feel happy? Get rid of sympathy for pain? Expect others' appreciation ... when helping others becomes an act that has to be done, it will become a burden for you and others. When you realize that you have a tendency to help others too much, it's time to think about whether you have more urgent problems to face.
1. Pay attention to your mood. Ask yourself, are you influenced by other people's emotions because you feel the same way and put yourself in others' shoes, or are you just strongly influenced by emotional contagion?
When you see others in a bad mood, think about yourself from the other person's point of view and feel such emotions; Still seeing others in a bad mood, I think this atmosphere makes you feel very nervous and wants to make them feel better. So you can understand whether you are in love with each other or just infected by each other.
If it is difficult for you to distinguish between yourself and others' emotions, you can share it with people you can trust and ask their opinions. Or seek the help of psychological counseling, you can distinguish and reduce the emotional interference of others.
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2. Establish clear boundaries with others, and you are not responsible for their emotions. No matter who the other person is, you should know that it is Ta himself who ultimately bears this feeling. You can only understand and support to the maximum extent, but you can't digest this feeling instead of him.
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3. Some skills can neither give people care, but also cause too much burden.
When someone says "no, thank you" or makes it clear that they can solve it, it is a clear signal that you should stop helping. At this time, you just need to smile and say: I see, you can come to me to discuss any problems in the future.
"Do you need help? What can I do for you? " Instead of imagining an object that needs help, imagine what help Ta needs. Maybe sometimes, I really think too much.
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