A person's childhood experience has a great influence on his life.
First, when you were young, you often lived at home with your mother. On the one hand, your social skills are affected, and there are two other effects.
(1) Lonely exploration. I can't enter the world of adults, and I can't get in at that age, so I live in my own world most of the time and can only learn about the food outside through my own exploration. Your behavior (like listening to songs, playing with tape recorders, and taking apart the turntable) is also a manifestation of your exploration.
(2) too internalized. Internalization refers to the formation of a certain behavior pattern in the brain due to frequent engagement in certain behaviors. This pattern will not change easily, and it is the first reference option for you to engage in such things in the future. Take your math problem as an example. Do you think it's similar to your behavior of disassembling the tape recorder? Of course, the content you internalize is not only this one, but also the behavior of adults and even some ideas (such as being naive to children's play) have influenced your future behavior. Internalized content is stored in the subconscious.
Second, the fear and trauma of the mind in early childhood. Your fear of dogs and fish is a summary of the stimulus response. Teasing live fish and watching adults kill fish make you associate in your dreams, and then form a kind of fear. This fear extends from the initial fish to the scales and eyes, to the fishy smell, from one reaction to other similar reactions.
Third, the tendency to pursue perfection excessively. I like to check my homework desperately and avoid doing it. This is because I excessively pursue accurate answers and demand perfect performance.
The above is just a rough description based on your description. Your problems are all caused by practical reasons, and your cognition and emotions are consistent. It can be improved through a period of formal psychological counseling.
20 10-2-5 After reading your supplementary question, I gradually feel that your question is very clear. Let me talk about my opinion.
1. About personality structure, it is generally believed that there are three levels: ego, id and superego. Ego is the primitive desire and impulse of human beings, and superego means that individuals can restrain themselves with recognized morality and law, and individuals abide by morality, law and ethics. The id is the balance mechanism of the two. Starting from reality, we should properly satisfy ourselves, urge and supervise individuals, and constrain individuals to follow the morality and laws of superego.
Second, a healthy personality is to build a strong self. Only when the ego is strong can we satisfy the id and realize the superego.
Third, the characteristics of healthy personality structure. : ① Focus on certain activities and become real participants in these activities; The ability to show love to parents and friends; 3 have a sense of security; ④ Being able to look at the world objectively; ⑤ Be competent for the work undertaken; 6. Know yourself objectively; ⑦ Have firm values and morals.
Fourth, the nerve function is sensitive. Because I explored myself too much in my childhood, I still have similar performances. You study what others say carefully and observe it subconsciously for a long time. Finally, other people's problems become your problems, and the toilet incident is one of them.
Verb (short for verb) suggestion.
1, it is necessary for you to explore the outside world, take part in more sports and increase the exercise of your limbs.
It is strongly recommended that you stop reading psychology books. In your case, your interest should be transferred to a wide range of social activities or other sports. Excessive thinking is not conducive to your exploration of the outside world. In this way, you can exercise your social skills, gain something and enhance your self-confidence.
6. Ask you a few questions and answer them yourself before you do something or specialize in a problem.
1. Is it meaningful? (such as caring about other people's urine. )
2. Is it important for my life? Do other people's opinions really matter to your life? What can I do if others say nothing? )
3. How important is this? (Repeated verification, afraid of making mistakes. Is it really worth it? )
4. What do I really like?
Is there anything I have to do today? Think about it after getting up, make a list, arrange time to finish one thing at a time, and say to yourself after finishing one thing: "It's done! I used to be great! " )