During the dinner, she talked about her lifelong events. She said she couldn't find a boyfriend now because she was too busy! Her department has a curse. If someone goes in, they will definitely break up. If you go in alone, you will never find anyone, because you have no time to deal with personal affairs.
Then she gave an example. In the recent 6 18 shopping festival, a group of them fought for 48 hours in a row, and some even held on for 72 hours. Some people spit when chatting with customers. .......
This is simply the rhythm of her dedication to the company all her life. She not only has to work long hours, but also occasionally challenges her physical limits. No wonder she kept asking for resignation some time ago. For a little girl who just graduated, this kind of work is simply dehumanizing.
My own job is not easy either. Overtime is a common thing, and I have experienced the pain of working for 72 hours in a row, so I was not surprised when she said she would resign, because I often wondered myself, if my life is full of work, should I resign?
It's time to resign. This is my final answer after careful consideration, because I think we should look forward, not money.
1. People are human because we are social.
Marx once made a judgment on human nature. He said: human nature is not an abstract thing inherent in a single person, but a reality, which is the sum total of all social relations. Simply put, people are human because of social activities.
A normal person spends most of his time in various social activities except sleeping. He chats with colleagues and clients at work, meets and chats with friends after work, and goes home to be caring and attentive with his family. Even if a person stays at home for a day, he will contact others through the internet. Do different things with different people, produce different emotions, enrich our lives and satisfy ourselves and others.
We are always in a state of needing and being needed by others, and only social interaction can complete this exchange.
When the only thing left in our life is work, our social balance will start to be unbalanced, not only our own needs can't be met, but also the needs of others can't be met. At this time, our interpersonal relationship will gradually deteriorate until we are kicked out of the original social circle.
I've heard many people say: I told you not to come once, not twice. Well, I won't call you a third time. It's so straightforward that even a good friend can't resist your rejection again and again. If you don't take the time to maintain a relationship, it will leave you. It's not that others are heartless, because socializing is a value exchange between people. What can we talk about if we can't even be present?
If the relationship between friends may not be so strong, what about the relationship between relatives? Is it strong enough? But there will still be problems.
Relatives are close because we will take care of and tolerate each other unconditionally, which is actually a kind of value exchange, but we are not thinking about reward, but about giving.
When work takes up all our time, when we are taken care of by our families for a long time but can't return, our hearts will be full of guilt. Although the family always shows understanding, we can't get by ourselves.
When my wife was in hospital, I was painting at home. I didn't find her until she was pushed into the delivery room. I am undoubtedly a good employee, but I am by no means a good husband. Although my wife understands, I still blame myself until today.
Each of us plays more than one role in life. It takes time and energy to play every role well. We spend all our energy on playing the role of a good employee, so other roles can only be absent often. Is it worth it? The answer is in your heart.
If we can't be perfect, we should try to be perfect.
2. Give yourself some time to grow wildly.
Everyone has ambitions, but most people's ambitions are bound by busy work and cannot grow.
We are exhausted at work every day. Sometimes we are really like walking dead. All we can think about is what our work is today and what we will do tomorrow. We come home exhausted every day and have no energy to think about other things. This is really dangerous!
Have you ever thought about what to do if the unit welfare fails one day? What if one day you are fired? What should you do when your source of life is suddenly cut off?
It just occurred to me that I should run a sideline and learn a skill. I have spent all my time on mechanical work in recent years, but I haven't made any progress at all.
It's too late to regret!
When we first started working, we were all educated by our parents and elders and told us to work hard and not to think about anything else. In their minds, once a job is confirmed, it will be used for a lifetime. Influenced by them, many people take doing their own work as their whole mission from the beginning. I have been holding the same salary for more than ten years. As long as I can survive, I won't think about changing.
But just because you don't want to change doesn't mean the environment won't change. In your day-to-day work, house prices are secretly rising. In your work year after year, your body is slowly aging. When your earning power is getting worse and worse and your consumption level is getting higher and higher, you will finally understand that you have wasted all your time.
We watched our parents work hard from birth, were taught by teachers to work hard in the future when we entered the campus, and were told by society to work hard when we entered the workplace. However, when we can't afford a house, when our goddess is picked up by someone else's BMW, when our relatives are seriously ill but can't afford to go to the hospital, no one tells us what to do.
Some people say that all disappointments stem from your lack of efforts, but you are still not satisfied after your efforts, because your efforts are useless in the right place. How can you be satisfied?
Let me tell you what to do.
Save your ambition from work, that's all!
Spend some time cultivating and watering, and maybe your ambition will grow into a towering tree. When you have your own company and your own technology, will you still be unable to afford a house? Still look down on doctors?
The correct effort is to strive for infinite possibilities.
When work consumes all our time, it also means that our life will be dull. Although the rigor of life forces us to accept the ordinary, but give you a fierce horse, do you really want to indulge in the grassland?
Hurry up and rummage through the seeds of ambition in your heart to see if it is still there.
Jumping out of the mire can usher in a new life.
When a person adapts to an environment, it is difficult for him to jump out of it. Boiling frogs in warm water is the truth. Busy work has brought you a lot of income, but it is also becoming a quagmire of your life. With the increase of working years, we may lack the courage to jump out.
Calm down and think about it, haven't you had dinner with your family for a long time? Have you not had a cup of tea with your friends for a long time? Have you not settled down for a long time and smoothed your life by yourself?
Look at the seeds in your heart again. Is it sprouting?
Don't let your life be fixed in endless work, and don't let your ambition rot in the swamp. If you happen to feel tortured, why not seize this opportunity to make your life extraordinary?
Often from nothing to nothing, only that change.