Emotional demand behind sunshine information
The post-80s and post-90s are "skilled workers" in the online world. When they reach reproductive age, "sunbathing" has become the most common social media usage habit. "No matter how far the relationship is, almost all the children of WeChat friends grow up vividly." Wang Qiao, a white-collar worker in Changchun, said that in her WeChat circle of friends, people update the information of "sunbathing baby" almost all the time. "I am used to it, and the happiness of being a parent can make people understand." Netizens joked that when they grow up, when they meet friends and children, they must say, "Son, I watched you grow up in a circle of friends."
In fact, "sunbathing baby" is the most obvious embodiment of sunbathing culture. Whether it is people or things, or some life experiences, everything related to oneself can be the object of sunbathing. Take photos first when eating, take photos first when exercising, take photos first when traveling ... then send them gently, and then expect praise and comments. Refresh every few minutes to see if there is any update, and comment or like the information exposed by others. This is a standard drying process. The more likes and comments, the stronger the psychological satisfaction.
Exposure really affects people's real life. The most profound experience is the sun information of people close to you. For example, the recent situation of ex-lovers often brings mixed feelings.
"I want to see it, but I don't want to." Qin Hao, a director of a public relations company in Beijing, said that he wanted to see it because he wanted to know the recent situation of his ex-lover, but perhaps because of "love and hate", he didn't want to see it. "If one day she has a new boyfriend, I will feel bad." In order not to be "tortured", Qin Hao blocked her information. "But sometimes I will click in and have a look. No way. "
Sunbathing really brings people closer together. Even though I don't speak in Wan Li, I'm still watching you silently. "Through the exposed information, we can get to know each other and help each other at critical moments." Zhou Guangrui, a graduate of Beijing Normal University, Zhuhai, said that his good friends are scattered in Beijing, Zhengzhou and Hong Kong ... He takes every message from his friends seriously. "Like greeting, comments are like asking questions."
You sun me, there are different opinions.
In the waterfall information flow of social media, sunbathing information occupies a considerable share. Although many people have become accustomed to it, the audience still has different opinions, even though they themselves are the protagonists of some sunbathing behaviors.
Those who agree think that sunbathing is the externalization of self-instinct on social networks. In the eyes of some psychologists, being concerned and being understood is a social instinct of human beings. Before the emergence of social networks, people mainly used peer-to-peer contact, which was inefficient. "You can't buy new shoes and say it once when you meet someone." Jin Zhenbang, a communication scholar, said that the Internet has made communication develop from linear to network, and the sun-drying efficiency has doubled.
Things are starting to change. The original communication with specific people and things has evolved into extensive exposure. Backed by the huge "circle of friends" behind social software, each exposure subject has a potentially huge audience. A message can get hundreds of comments in a few hours and be seen by thousands of people, which lowers the threshold of self-expression and seeking attention, and people are more satisfied and enjoy being paid attention to.
Many people also feel that sunbathing disturbs their lives, and to some extent, it magnifies some people's unhealthy psychology. Some scholars believe that in a sense, social media has shown many characteristics of public space, and exposing inappropriate information in public space will be regarded as a kind of harassment to others.
Showing off is the most common and annoying behavior. "Handbags printed with big logos, car logos on the steering wheel, and new high-end mobile phones that have just been listed are the favorites of some dazzling people." Xiong Tu, who works in a state-owned enterprise in Beijing, said: "It seems that they don't have to work every day, just need to spend money and bask in the sun. I learned a lot about luxury goods from their information. "
Contrary to high-profile ostentation, there are still many people who keep a low-key silence in social networks and follow insurmountable hidden rules. They look at others more than themselves. For example, in the social network groups of party and government organizations, leaders do not frequently publish photos in order to expect praise. "'Sun' is inappropriate and not serious." A department-level leader said. Moreover, their subordinates generally send photos in groups, and their leaders are generally "excluded". "I don't want to leave the impression of' sad reminder' to the leaders." An ordinary civil servant said.
Expose an industry and the future.
Sunbathing can not only get psychological satisfaction, but also serve as an opportunity to make money. Many people realize the attention of their circle of friends in various ways, and the industry derived from sunbathing is booming.
"Internet celebrity economy" is the most typical embodiment. Use all kinds of photos and information to attract a large number of people's attention, become online celebrities, form a fixed fan base, and then turn their attention into the most favored resources of advertisers. "For a star account with many fans, the cost of an advertisement is as high as tens of thousands of yuan." Mo Wei, project director of a 4A advertising company in Shanghai, said.
If you want to make money by sunbathing, excellent technology is necessary. On the famous photo-sharing website Instagram, many online celebrities have regular followers, who either have superior photo-taking skills, enviable standard figure or travel experiences that others can't have. ...
In addition to beautiful scenery, sun-drying fitness is also an easy path to form benefits. In Changchun, graduates from several sports colleges turned WeChat circle of friends into entrepreneurial opportunities. "At first, I just took my own fitness photos in the photos, and there were many friends who consulted. Then I thought, why not set up an online consultation platform? " Team member Xu Chao said.
At the beginning, they will regularly upload fitness suggestions and videos to their social accounts, and use their professional knowledge to provide one-on-one fitness services through the Internet. "We will also customize the fitness tutorial video according to everyone's physical data." This service allows busy office workers to complete a day's exercise without going to the gym and foam mats. "It's all circulated among friends. As long as the quality of service goes up, no one will come. "
Sun turned his attention into a resource, but some people came up with "crooked ways", such as using a lot of explicit "sexy" pictures to get attention quickly, and then planning hot events on the internet through the network to get a lot of attention quickly. In this way, fans will come up, and with soft advertisements, the promotion price will increase rapidly. "We call these behaviors' raising numbers' and it is not worth promoting." Mo Wei said.
However, whether you like it or not, the sun has come. Zhou Zheng, a psychologist who has long been concerned about the phenomenon of network society, said that people are constantly concerned about their words and deeds in the sun and the reactions of others, and constantly correct their "inappropriate" behaviors, hoping to gain more social recognition. It remains to be seen what kind of future this new social interaction will bring us.
I can only answer this according to my own psychology. I ate and drank in the sun, but now I don't.
Summarize your initial psychology:
Second, seek a sense of existence. Everyday life is so ordinary that sometimes they don't feel alive, there are no waves, and nothing can show their value. This feeling is empty. On the contrary, some people are too busy to breathe, even falling apart, and they can feel the meaning of their existence everywhere, so there is no need to prove it. For example, I seldom deliberately bask in anything, casual things in my circle of friends, an occasional sentence, a sentimental text, an article every day ... I just have a heart and don't want to prove it.
Thirdly, it is not excluded that eating and drinking is another pleasure in life. It's just that we can't understand the fun of ta. When we saw the picture, we labeled it, thinking it was deliberately "drying". In other words, many of our normalcy may become sunshine in the eyes of others. I like to buy flowers and put them in vases at home. Every time I see blooming flowers and smell faint fragrance, I can't help sending pictures and essays. I thought about it myself. Maybe in the eyes of people who don't watch it often, I'm just "basking" in my little mood. They don't understand how much I enjoy this process, so "sun" is a word with different understandings from different angles.
I can think of so much at once!
Many people's circle of friends is the upper limit of their interpersonal communication and life.
Vanity, some of you scold him (her) for being sunburned, and he (she) also plausibly says that you are envious, jealous and hateful. Others are just normal living conditions. How can they become sunburned in your heart? There is a woman in my circle of friends who spends all day in various big brands and goes on vacation everywhere. The background of the house you live in is ugly, like a slum. In this case, you either buy a bunch of fakes, and everyone knows the other situation. Others eat western food once a year and quickly send friends. Have a Starbucks once in a while and take a photo quickly. I travel every few years, but I still sign up for cheap tours. I hope I can't broadcast the whole thing live. At the beginning of the year, a large wave of people wanted to laugh at Alipay. They spent more than one million yuan a year. I want to ask, how much money can you earn a year? Just a little IQ, has leaked the turnover, silly to show off wealth. Have you seen hundreds of millions of boss friends circle drying financial statements in those years? If you ask me, it is the psychology of ordinary people that makes them get rich quietly. Only those who have done nothing bluff all day. Add a cram school and quickly send a circle of friends, for fear that others will not know how hard they are working. Be a man, or be realistic.
There may be personal reasons for friends to eat, drink and have fun.
First, for example, I want to tell my circle of friends what I am doing.
Second, I want to use my circle of friends to record my life, record my eating, drinking and having fun, and share my joy with my circle of friends.
Third, another possibility is to show off your wealth and bask in your own consumption. For example, someone basks in it and food pictures are accompanied by friends.
Because my family was poor when I was a child, in the countryside, I didn't even have a photo when I grew up looking for a baby. The smallest photo I can see is probably the only black-and-white photo I took when I was two or three years old.
Later, I went to primary school, and there were one or two in the fourth and fifth grades.
Zhang later went to junior high school.
up to now
Sun's circle of friends just hopes to keep the memory of this moment. It was discovered many years later that it turned out. .........
I only dry my own cooking in my circle of friends.
Personally, I prefer to take photos of my travels in the circle of friends, and restaurants with quiet and special environment will also be posted in the circle of friends ... I don't think I want to take photos more when I feel that I am missing something, but I just want to share it with you in the circle of friends. Because not everyone has been everywhere. And I especially like to see some photos of friends traveling in the circle of friends. Every time I see them, I encourage myself to work hard to make money, so that I can save money to travel to these places. So I always think that looking at travel photos is an inspiration to me. ...
Finally sent to the corner of Blue Moon Valley and Yulong Snow Mountain. ...