In fact, most of the education we receive is helpful, or how to take responsibility and admit our mistakes. Now it's more like people will expect you and appreciate you. There is a certain possibility that you will be arrogant, which may be something you will worry about. So you are embarrassed to help others in public. If you help others in public, others may praise you, which will make you don't know how to deal with these sudden compliments. In our culture, it is more about how to deal with our own mistakes.
Your present situation is more likely to cause people's stress. Under the gaze of others, you may be imposed with more ideological burdens or expectations. These excessive expectations may make it difficult to breathe and make people feel bound.
We have heard the story of beating rice for revenge, and also heard the story of Mr. Dongpo and the wolf, the farmer and the snake. It was a good thing. Just now, a neighbor in the group asked if someone could give her some detergent. You kept a low profile and just didn't want to talk about it in the group.
Because you are worried about yourself, you added her private message, because helping others is a good thing, but some people may ask more of you, for example, if you help him, help her and then give it to them, maybe more people will come to you for help in the future, even blaming you when you don't have more materials.
Blame your double standards. We'd better not look directly at the midday sun and human nature. Walking in the street, you will hesitate when you see someone who needs help, because you don't know if they will rake or touch porcelain. This is not only a shame, but also a preventive measure. Therefore, it is possible to keep a rational and calm analysis and help others with a low profile. You can talk to the psychic coach about your opinion. Let's go ?