First of all, the rush and anxiety in job hunting.
The two-month job search is over.
Back to the life of going out early and returning late, I carry my computer to work every day and spend three hours taking the subway bus. There is a traffic jam on the bus and the subway is full. There is no other way but to endure it silently. We can only silently protect the computer and make a string of marks on our shoulders with thin tapes.
The scapulohumeral periarthritis, which had a severe attack last year, is still not well, and there is a faint recurrence trend. So I urgently bought a shoulder computer bag from the Internet, hoping to relieve shoulder pain.
I feel more and more guilty when I think that I turned down a job that can reach the company within 20 minutes' walk the other day. The work close to home, even the salary is very generous, and the salary of 6k during the internship period is rare. In contrast, the job I finally chose, which cost $65,438+000 a day without any subsidy, is really far from it.
This psychological gap reached its peak on the first day of employment.
The boss directly under the company has not returned from a business trip, and the office environment is slightly difficult. In addition, for the first time, I was carrying a big bag to squeeze into the subway during the morning rush hour, and unexpected congestion and long-term transfer also played a good catalytic role.
Many factors combined make me deeply doubt that I chose the wrong company, gave up one offer after another and moved people here. Why on earth?
You know, it took me two months to make a new adjustment to my job-hunting concept, and I was also very cautious when choosing my job and industry.
As graduation approaches, anxiety and panic fill every cell. Everyone wants to find a glamorous job that others envy. High salary, good treatment and great reputation have almost become the standard of a good job.
In addition, my previous internships were in some companies with good reputation and reputation. With these experiences, it should not be difficult to find a formal job in a big company.
However, it backfired.
The failure of spring recruit seems to confirm this point and destroy my few self-confidence.
This is a very bad thing. Suddenly, the gap from high to low was so great that I even had a strong idea that I didn't feel fit to stay in Beijing.
The saying of "fleeing from the north to the south" is once again rampant with the school district housing problem. This idea of retreating has become stronger, but I don't know what I can do when I go back to school and my hometown. To be sure, hasty retreat will lead to the loss of previous efforts, which I don't want to bear.
If you can't retreat, you can only insist.
Second, after the change of ideas, the dawn dawned.
If you are poor, you will think about change, and if you are poor, you will think about diligence.
When the school recruitment was basically hopeless, I turned my attention to startup companies.
Before that, my biggest cognitive misunderstanding was to equate startups with small companies. I believe that only mature and perfect large companies can provide a broad platform, systematic staff training, clear promotion channels, and even some companies can provide a stable environment comparable to state-owned enterprises. However, the system of small companies is unclear and lacks professional training, and the platform cannot be compared with that of large companies.
Although everyone inside the company knows that Tencent may have employees with poor abilities and startups will have amazing talents, the platform represented by the company will label people at the first time. This fixed thinking is tantamount to facing Tsinghua students and junior college students at the same time. Normal people will think that Tsinghua students are too powerful for the same reason.
In fact, finding a job is sometimes very similar to entering a higher school. The famous enterprise that everyone wants to enter is no less than the famous one in the eyes of college entrance examination students.
It is precisely because of the legendary color and halo blessing of these companies that wave after wave of students bravely erected the indispensable banner of famous enterprises. Only when you encounter a real blow will you have the idea of doubting everything.
A month ago, a friend asked me, "Xiao Mu, what does joining BAT mean to you?"
"The college entrance examination entered Tsinghua." This is an unthinking answer, like the most logical metaphor in the subconscious.
Throughout the conversation, I admired my logic and buried my loss in my heart.
I have probably understood that maybe in this life, I can neither attend classes in Qingbei aboveboard, nor have the opportunity to go back to BAT for further study.
For most people, missing an opportunity means missing it forever. This kind of mentality, now it seems really immature to the extreme, but it is the most real idea at that time.
But the facts are in front of us and we must seek a breakthrough.
After changing the concept of job hunting, I began to submit resumes frequently on websites such as Lagou, paying attention to some promising startups, and soon received a reply and started an interview trip.
The result was unexpected. In half a month, I received several guaranteed offer, which is the taste of hope.
Third, understand several major misunderstandings in job hunting
From the beginning, I only devoted myself to spring recruitment, and my mind turned around, paying attention to the social recruitment opportunities of startups. I kept shouting that I didn't want to practice again, but I chose to practice first and then talk about becoming a full member.
Mentality adjustment has played a decisive role in this, and also helped me get out of several major thinking misunderstandings in job hunting. One of the most important misunderstandings is that the startup just mentioned is not equal to a small company.
When it comes to small companies, the first reaction is that the scale is small, the system is chaotic, and there is no tomorrow today, living in a state of confusion and tension.
But startups themselves are divided into different rounds. An obvious example is that on the first day today, as a upstart among Internet companies, its value doubled, and its entry threshold once surpassed BAT, but it was actually a startup company, which just completed the D round of financing.
This is an increasingly mature startup, but it is by no means a small company. There are many similar excellent start-ups, but some companies have no need for school recruitment, and talents will be excavated and cultivated by social recruitment and internship.
Fresh graduates have joined a startup company and have been deeply involved in a field for a long time. Their achievements and professional standards are not necessarily weaker than those cultivated by large companies under a complete system.
This information was also obtained after consulting our predecessors in many ways. When in trouble, it is much better to ask for help than to stay put.
In addition to this biggest misunderstanding, there are several places that need special attention.
1. Criteria for a good job
Work is not the whole of life.
3. Don't live in comparison with others.
In addition to fame and platform, the standard of a good job is "more money and less things close to home", which is also the standard for many people to choose a so-called good job.
When I was looking for a job this time, I finally got entangled in two extreme offer. A company is well paid, close to home, and the work is challenging. The salary of another job is much lower, and it takes more than half of Beijing to get to the company. The work content is novel and challenging. After several measurements, I chose the second job and started to complain.
This may not be a wise choice. But until now, three days after joining the company, I have become more and more interested in the work content, so I can ignore the adverse effects on traffic and treatment. I made this choice because I took a fancy to the growth and development space I gained in my work.
Paying too much attention to the comparison with others is the biggest factor that we often feel unhappy in our lives.
This cannot be done in a short time, but it must be overcome.
Some people are worried about my new job. The only thing that can be revealed is that I really like the job content. I can get in touch with new things and keep learning. Although I can foresee that I will be very tired in the future, I think it is worthwhile to think about the multiple gains.