I came to my present unit four years ago. Because I am a newcomer, I hope to integrate into the collective life of the department as soon as possible. I am the first to walk into the office every day, and then I clean up, wipe the table, boil hot water, wash cups, make hot tea or pour hot water for every colleague in the office, and wait for them to come to work. Even on weekends, I will take all the dirty curtains in the office and sofa cover home. After working for more than a month, I did a lot of cleaning work, but through my own efforts, I was finally accepted by my colleagues in the office. Later, I insisted on going early every day, but sometimes I was inevitably late. Some female colleagues teased me that the quality of service was greatly reduced.
How could he treat me like this?
Work hard and never be careless.
Doing "cleaning" is just a way that my colleagues and I are familiar with, and I know that only by working hard and letting everyone recognize me can I gradually become one with my colleagues. Serious and responsible is the biggest feature of my work. I think my ability is not bad. If there is an opportunity, I will definitely not miss it. As a result, the opportunity came. Two backbones of our department are on a business trip, and the director arranged for me to write a report to the company leaders. The director outlined the idea, and then let me write it myself, saying that it doesn't matter if I finish it a day later. Procrastination is not my style. I worked overtime until three in the morning that day. The next day, I handed the report to the director as soon as I got to work. Later, when the department held a meeting, the director praised me and said that my colleagues in charge of writing reports should take me more. However, "typing" is my regular job, and I even help their relatives to prepare graduation job resumes or something. Although it's all trivial matters, I'll try my best.
I was teased because the leader valued me.
My colleagues and I are getting along better and better, and I have become friends with Sister Wang, who is six years older than me. The department director became more and more attached to me and took me on a business trip. But I obviously feel that my colleagues are dissatisfied with me. My report is always "killed" by Brother Liu, who is in charge of writing reports in the department. At first, I blamed myself and tried to improve. Later, I found out that he did it on purpose, which made me unbearable. Sister Wang told me that Brother Liu is a narrow-minded person and always worries that others are better than him. He wrote every report himself. He is always making things difficult and squeezing people who value their leadership. Every time I was made difficult by Brother Liu, I would complain to Sister Wang, and she suggested that I report it to the dean. I really did it. But I never imagined that Xiao Wang would betray me. She told Liu Ge behind my back that I always snitched on the director, and if I hadn't heard these words with my own eyes, I might have been kept in the dark all my life.
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Hongyi (Senior Career Counseling Expert)
Keep interpersonal distance in the workplace.
Being a low-key person has a good return.
After reading your account, first of all, I want to confirm some of your practices, such as "cleaning up" colleagues and cleaning up. All these practices show that you attach great importance to the construction of your interpersonal relationship. Interpersonal communication ability, like professional ability, is a professional ability that newcomers in the workplace must have. Dealing with interpersonal relationships can harmonize the feelings between colleagues, and you will find many opportunities in your work. Just like the protagonist of this paper, you are more and more valued by the department director.
The workplace emphasizes harmony and competition.
However, in addition to "interpersonal communication", there is also a competitive environment in the workplace. Quite simply, work is not about making friends. The purpose of maintaining a good emotional relationship is to improve work efficiency and cooperate with each other to promote work. At the same time, in order to realize personal ideals and ambitions, everyone should work hard for their own interests and the interests of the company. This process of struggle is the process of competition. In your narrative, Liu Ge in the article has become a beggar-thy-neighbor character, but he is also excusable, because you have formed a certain competitive relationship with him. In the competition, most companies and units are only interested in "performance". Therefore, you also need to give yourself a relatively relaxed attitude to face this competition, and at the same time give yourself a time to slowly accumulate and gain the recognition of your superiors.
Don't blame the complicated environment when you meet "uncomfortable" people.
From the article, I know nothing bothers you more than the betrayal of your close friend Sister Wang. In your opinion, she cheated your trust. Many newcomers in the workplace will make mistakes similar to those of the main characters in the article. They will be "betrayed" and lament that they have no friends in the workplace.
It is true that the workplace will have a social side, full of intrigue and intrigue, but the workplace situation is related to the improvement of personal character. Young people leave campus and don't understand interpersonal communication. Most of them will use their own "family experience" to apply the relationship model with parents, relatives and friends, regard leaders as "elders" and colleagues of similar age as "sisters and brothers", and the interpersonal principles and means used are also from their own "family ties". However, the workplace environment is objective after all, and interpersonal relationships in the workplace are accompanied by competition.
Therefore, the key for young people in the workplace is to adjust their cognitive model in time, especially the interpersonal relationship model, so that leaders are no longer "elders" and colleagues are no longer "brothers and sisters" and independently face new problems that arise at any time in their work.
Keeping your distance is the law of the workplace.
What is the fundamental law of interpersonal relationship in the workplace? From the perspective of modern psychology, in a company, you should keep "interpersonal distance" from anyone. Distance is not indifference and indifference to others, nor is it an eternal defense, but the value and fun of finding "oneself" in interpersonal communication. In fact, people who really have good interpersonal relationships in the workplace are people who treat others sincerely, while maintaining their independence and being good at keeping interpersonal distance from others.
How can a rookie in the workplace quickly integrate into the new workplace environment? The first thing is to accept others, accept their personality, temper and style of doing things. The key to accepting others is to "get down", be at a relative disadvantage and respect others.
Secondly, keeping a certain distance from others in the workplace is not only conducive to your participation in job competition, but also conducive to your self-psychological adjustment in daily life.