Workplace rules are as simple as social rules. The stronger you are, the gentler people around you will be.
Because the stronger you are, the more valuable you are, the value that others expect to exchange with you.
It is better to please yourself than to please others.
It is well understood that * * * emotional socialization refers to social behavior in order to gain emotional connection and emotional experience, to get rid of boredom, or to have the same interests.
For example, I have a special chat with a child's mother in the community, talking about the children's learning situation, talking about their family's living conditions, talking about their own minds and so on. Where we can have feelings.
However, as a person grows older, his social interaction will gradually decrease; Moreover, at the same age and class, the more mature a person's mind, the stronger his ability and the higher his social status, the less sociable he will be.
Utilitarian socialization refers to social behavior to achieve a certain goal or gain benefits from the other party.
"Utilitarianism socialization" has two basic premises:
The first is the interactive transmission of "effective" information. This information is generalized, such as language, emotion, material, knowledge and so on in interpersonal communication can be included in the scope of this information.
The second is the relative "equal" value level. This value level not only refers to social status. Depending on the specific situation and personal standards.
In the workplace, the essence of communication between you and your colleagues or between you and your boss is the transmission of information.
In the process of communication, before utilitarian social behavior, we basically have a certain purpose. When I socialize with you, our communication should be valuable, not meaningless chatting and wasting time.
Other colleagues are willing to help you when you are in trouble because you can bring value to others. I once wrote an article that the essence of interpersonal communication is the exchange of interests. If you are worthless, it's no use knowing more awesome people. Fair value exchange is the essential meaning of social communication, otherwise it is useless to know more awesome people.
In the workplace, especially when your "lover" asks you to go beyond the boundaries, you have every right to refuse him.
You shouldn't be responsible for his misfortune or problems. You don't need to feel guilty when you refuse a friend's request at all. Don't live up to the image of a nice guy in the workplace. "People are good at being bullied, and Mashan is ridden." The more you accommodate yourself in the workplace, the more others push their luck.
The choice to decide whether to help him is entirely in your hands, and the other party has no right to blame you for not helping him.
In the workplace, why do people always suffer indignities? It is also because this kind of person always breaks through the bottom line infinitely, letting others bully or hold him hostage, but he can't bear to refuse, letting others dominate and leaving himself a poor and hateful image!
You must remember that flattery is not only useless, but also makes others think that you are of low value. The more you please, the less popular you are, and the more you please, the more you are taken seriously by others!
Therefore, in the workplace rules, the most important one, dealing with social interaction, should be open-minded, not demanding, and take their own needs and evaluation criteria as the leading factor.
Not only in the workplace, but also in life, how many real friends does a person have? There must be very few!
We should reorganize our daily work, redistribute our time and take a more strategic approach: figure out what to do, how to do it and why.
The workplace itself is a process of accumulation. Of course, the most effective way is to establish a personal brand in the workplace.
Before you really become a brand, try to build yourself a workplace label of 1-2 that others can remember, so that one or two of your advantages can be remembered quickly.
I used to have a colleague who did PPT very well. He didn't realize that he cared so much about this PPT before. It was also in the process of doing projects many times that we found that his layout, design and typesetting were very good, and later he became more and more famous in the department. Leaders of different departments will attend an important report meeting and come to him alone to do PPT. Later, the boss talked about customers and needed him to do PPT. Of course, he is the planning manager of industrial real estate, but because of this, he has also brought himself a lot of resources, job opportunities and contacts.
Therefore, you can also tap your own advantages and look for altruism. There are several channels:
1) is in line with your own dominant genes and interests.
2) Related to its important job responsibilities and contents.
3) Can solve problems and meet the potential needs of companies, leaders and colleagues.
As long as you make one of them meticulous and profound, making you unique in the company, then you are really super powerful.
Brand building is a cumulative process, so don't worry, shape your pyramid bit by bit.
I often tell people that there must be certain principles in doing things in the workplace. It is important to tell each other what your bottom line is, not to bully others, but not to be bullied by others.
Especially in the face of interests, defend yourself and don't give people a handle; At the same time, don't tell others about your shortcomings, especially those that will affect your work. Otherwise, when one day you and he stand in the opposite interest field, it is easy to be used by the other side, and you can't refute it.
Therefore, in the workplace, we should have a long snack and keep an eye on it. We don't harm people, but we should also guard against some little people, shouldn't we?
In addition, it is very important to have a good relationship with the leaders, that is, you should do a good job of upward management. Be sure to remember that you and your boss will always have a superior-subordinate relationship, no matter how good your relationship is.
At the critical moment, to let the leaders be human is to leave the face to the leaders.
Moreover, sometimes, you have to take the initiative to take some mistakes or risks for your boss. In short, only when your boss is promoted or resigns, will you have a chance to take the boss's position, unless your ability is excellent, which is another matter!
Taking colleagues as friends, some things will be difficult to carry out at work, and there will be conflicts of interest at work. Not only friends will have nothing to do, but even colleagues will have nothing to do. The worst possibility is that you treat him as a friend and he treats you as a colleague. Simply say a few words and put yourself under a dangerous fence.
Therefore, colleagues are colleagues, and everyone working together, even if they have sincere friends, is extremely valuable, but it is hard to meet.
Remember, in the workplace, we must deal with the emotional investment with colleagues, and we must grasp this scale.
Friends often tell me that I know our leader too well. We used to be friends who fought side by side. As everyone knows, once your position has changed, it will still be this kind of superior-subordinate relationship. Once there is an interest or dispute, he is your boss, which is different from the position you want to consider.
So, here, I sincerely remind you to get along with leaders and respect each other. Don't treat the leader as a buddy. The role of leaders is to show their generosity and tolerance, so that you can be moved to pay more for them.
Don't try to be equal to him, just regard the leader as an elder worthy of respect and learning.
It must be remembered that work is a cooperative relationship. Grasp the energy at work, don't regard work as life, and the best relationship between the company and you is win-win.
The company gives you a platform to pay you, and you have a return and growth. This is the best state of mutual benefit!
Colleagues are too scum? The boss is too cruel? The client is too sick? Relax, although we have different positions, we have the same goal, all for our own best interests.
Don't be angry and depressed because of things and people at work, let alone let this emotion affect your family and life, especially don't bring this negative emotion to the people closest to you and bring them trouble. Really not worth it!
Don't get angry in the workplace. In order to be quick, there is always a way to go. Be patient and calm.
No matter who or what you meet, you should try to control your situation and keep a normal heart.
After all, it's not worth getting angry at work, and it's not worth hurting yourself because of a little person's anger.
Instead of haggling with others, it is better to spend extra time learning a skill, spending it on your family, and not wasting your work on people who are not worth it.
Moreover, I personally don't recommend spitting when you resign or quit, or when you leave. Even in normal times, spitting is meaningless. You can't change the environment, you can only change yourself. If you think you can't change it, then you leave.
However, any spit will eventually reach the ears of your leader. Over time, your life in the company is estimated to be difficult.
Finally, I want to say that the road to the workplace is long. In fact, we are all on the road, constantly practicing ourselves!
Even if there are thousands of survival rules in the workplace, the most important thing is you, and only you. May you get better and better!
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