But I want to tell you that it is never distance that beats you for hundreds of days and nights.
When I heard this story, I just chatted with my friends about all kinds of long-distance relationships, and I was silent for a long time. For the convenience of narration, the following are all told in the first person.
I don't know when I started, but I am more and more afraid of all holidays. The stronger the festive atmosphere, the more repetitive behavior makes you breathless.
Like all so-called "older women", I was involved in the torrent of blind date by my parents and the outside world. Every once in a while, your three aunts and six grandmothers will bring me high-quality object information collected from all directions.
No one will know how much I hate blind dates. Every time I go to an appointment, it's like "I'm a fish." I'm not a maverick, and I don't want to get into a hasty marriage without emotional foundation. I chose blind date just because I didn't want to see my parents worry about me.
And every blind date ended in failure, for the simple reason that there has been a person living in my heart all these years: Lao Li. Mother knows, and so does father.
Lao Li is my high school classmate, or rather my deskmate in more than ten math classes a week. That year, I 18 years old, with a passion for chemistry, plunged into the army of science. At that time, I always felt that I must do what I like, no matter how many difficulties and obstacles I would overcome.
How many years later, I realized that besides day-to-day efforts, talent is also very important.
Lao Li is the kind of boy who has excellent grades and will learn to play. Every day, he said he would come and let me take his bike home. It took me a long time to understand that his so-called stopover was to bypass more than half of the city. He is best at mathematics, and he often teaches me many methods to solve problems. In most science classes, some girls are at the bottom of their study habits. And I am a gorgeous cannon fodder lying at the bottom of my grades forever. No matter how hard I try, I can't subvert what is wisdom.
At that time, the head teacher, sitting in the middle of a row, was always a boy, and the girls sat on both sides. Teachers always write on the blackboard and dictate in class. The light is so strong during the day that people sitting next to them can't see the words on the blackboard. The math teacher always asks us to put our desks together in class. Lao Li and I met in all math classes this week. Many years later, I realized that it was Lao Li who told the math teacher that many students nearby couldn't see the blackboard clearly, so Lao Li and I became deskmates in math class.
In the year of college entrance examination, Lao Li went to a 985 university in the north with excellent results, and my efforts did not escape some shortcomings. I am destined to fly not far and stay in two universities in the southern town.
The last time, I went home by Lao Li's bike, and he asked for my mobile phone number. I lost contact with Lao Li after graduation.
I was 2 1 year old that year and started a new life with great expectation. Gradually, I found myself missing Lao Li more and more. The price of hindsight is that even if you want to pull your face down and talk to him crazily, you will stop because you don't know his contact information, but your heart is choppy.
At that time, my greatest wish was that Lao Li would remember me and give me a call. After tossing and turning for several months, Lao Li called me. Up to now, I can still remember the feeling of picking up my mobile phone, and tears are spinning in my eyes.
Lao Li said, how have you been recently? Do you want to try love with me? I wanted to ask you three years ago. I suddenly choked up. I tried to think over all the pictures of talking to Lao Li, but I didn't expect this.
After all, I am with Lao Li. I didn't know it was a long-distance relationship.
Lao Li comes to see me occasionally, and I go to see him when I have time. Although I am in the south and Lao Li is in the north, our feelings are not different at all because of the distance. Like all lovers, we are happy because we have each other every day.
After a long time, I didn't tell my parents about Lao Li, not because I had no hope for Lao Li and our future. But the people around you in parents' eyes are always more reliable than the love from afar.
In the eyes of parents in the 1960s, love is far less than daily necessities. My mother seems to have noticed what happened between me and Lao Li, and tentatively told me that she would not agree to a long-distance relationship.
I was 23 years old, and Lao Li said it was my birthday. We made an appointment to meet. After all, my parents know the fact that I am with Lao Li. I didn't go to my birthday that day because of my parents' obstruction.
In this year, I ended my love journey with Lao Li for almost two years. I shut myself in my room and watch TV plays all day. All the love that grows in the bottom of my heart is stripped away and turned into nothing. I feel hungry when my parents open the door and walk to my bed at night.
It is said that love without parents' blessing will not be happy. Between love and affection, I chose the latter. I don't go to Lao Li anymore. Lao Li knows that my situation is no longer entangled, but occasionally asks me if I am doing well.
Like most lovelorn people, I have arranged my daily life so full that I have no time to think about Lao Li. I desperately read books, run and write articles, and read about hundreds of professional books. 1 10 kilograms of weight suddenly lost to less than 90 kilograms, and the comprehensive ranking of the semester also became the first in the class. In those dark years, I cured myself by these.
After graduation, I found a stable job in a city not far from home. I heard that Lao Li stayed in the north, and I always felt that my fate with him should have been exhausted long ago. Work comfortably in the southern city, occasionally go home to see my parents, watch TV with them, and talk about home. There is also to meet different boys according to their parents' arrangements, hoping to find the right one day.
However, all girls who have expectations for love will not be willing to make do with it, and so will I.
We haven't been in touch since we broke up with Lao Li. It's just that I occasionally go to his space to see his recent situation, see which city he has been to recently, and which friends he has made, and also see Lao Li's footprints in my visitor record.
After working for one year, I have experienced countless failed blind dates under the arrangement of my parents. I gradually realized that I still couldn't forget Lao Li, so I decided to look for him. As soon as I opened the dialog box, Lao Li sent a message saying: I will be transferred back to your city in a few months. If you don't have a boyfriend now, can I be your boyfriend? In this way, Lao Li and I are together again. I don't think I will give up this time because of external factors.
Then I asked Lao Li why I wanted to be together through the Internet and why I didn't call directly. He said he wasn't sure if you still wanted to. No expression, no voice, no words with temperature through the internet. If you refuse me, you won't be embarrassed.
The day after I got back together with Lao Li, I told my parents that I had a boyfriend. My parents guessed that it was Lao Li, and after countless blind dates, I realized that I had never forgotten that boy. This time, my parents asked Lao Li where he worked and if there was any chance to change jobs.
I understand my parents' earnest hopes. They are also afraid that my relationship with Lao Li is not as good as Qianshan's, and I am afraid that I will get hurt. In the days when Lao Li's work has not changed, we are still in a long-distance relationship, and this time we have strengthened our determination to be together.
The first time I went to Lao Li's house, I was as nervous as all the kannika nimtragol who didn't enter the door, afraid of dressing inappropriately and saying the wrong thing. But my mother-in-law said at the first sight that I knew it was you. My mother-in-law said that I helped him tidy his room when he was in college, when I first saw your photo. After he worked, your photo was still there, and my love with Lao Li came naturally.
Half a year later, Lao Li returned to my city after work, and we got married. Lao Li gave me all the necessary formalities for getting married. After getting married, Lao Li often travels for several days and months. Everywhere I go, he will call me, ask questions and report my trip.
I believe his love for me, whether he is around or in a different place. Many people will ask me how to go on in a long-distance relationship. The pain of long-distance love is only known after experience. You can't meet every day, you can only listen to the sound. Holidays are spent by couples in different places, and you may have to call to ask about the warmth and coldness for work reasons. Everyone gets along in a different way. Lao Li and I both regard each other as the last person, no matter how far apart, but our hearts will always be together.
This story is not written to explain anything. I just hope that all the sweet words will eventually be taken, all the expectations will not be disappointed, and all the unwillingness will wait for your disappointment. Love never loses to distance, do you believe it?