The sixth time this week? consultant
Only by listening sincerely and seriously can visitors feel respect and speak more openly. Counselors do not want to solve problems for visitors, but can discuss problems with visitors, and sometimes solutions will come out in the discussion.
Tsukiji lesson 7 resumed (summary of teacher Yang's resumption)
Counseling psychology (1. Common psychological content; The second is the way and attitude that psychological counselors should have; Third, the psychological quality that psychological counselors should have)
Fourth, the general principles of psychological counseling
(1) Voluntary.
When parents want their children to consult, they must ask them if they want to. Welcome, go or stay. Don't do it unless you change from involuntary to voluntary. Therefore, it is necessary to make it clear to parents whether the child is voluntary. what do you think? So are parents. Don't do it for friends, don't get caught up in it. It is not dangerous to know that Zhi Zhi has not been humiliated. Follow the settings. Counseling is what children are willing to do. When they go out, the internet is willing.
(2) Charge
1. It protects both the consultant and the interviewer. Charge as evenly as possible. With the cost, there is security. No charge is often because you have no confidence. If a consultant does not charge, he is often unprofessional. The road effect of professionalization or the road to growth is also a more and more professional road, and the professional road often has a good effect.
If he doesn't come after collecting the fee, he needs to tell the consultant 24 hours in advance and refund the fee.
If the consultant can't do it, change the time and tell the visitors 24 hours in advance. If not, not only make up this time, but also do it again.
If he is late, you should finish it on time. Consultants should have a sense of boundaries.
4. Don't discount casually. Try not to have it, it will damage the effect of consultation.
(3) confidentiality
1. What is confidential is: the basic information of the visitor, the conversation content and the evaluation result.
2. Confidentiality exception: what they are willing to disclose.
If you talk to your children, you will ask them. What can't you say if your parents ask? What can you say? Know what to say and what not to say through discussion.
If it is related to the law, when the police come to the door or the court, they need the other party to give an order and ask where to talk. You can't give it to others.
It is not confidential to hurt others. From the beginning, you need to press the settings, screen when you don't make an appointment, and sign a consultation (the agreement requires parents of minors to sign, and parents in society will not do it if they don't come. Parents can't write, they can press their fingerprints. Leave your phone number. It is better to have the telephone number of his urgent and important contact. You'd better leave a copy of your ID card. Especially those with depression. Sign it the first time. If parents don't tell the truth, they must pay attention to contacting parents or tell the school that they need to contact various resources of the school.
You can ask the parents of the child, the severity or discomfort of the child, whether he said he didn't want to live, and so on. And be mentally prepared.
4. Consultation feelings are not written into sharing or sent to friends circle. Follow the consulting ethics.
(d) Avoid acquaintances
Can't give advice to acquaintances. You can talk to acquaintances. For example, the child's class teacher heard that your consultation was very good. A friend wants to talk to you. Or your leader, find the child you want to talk to. You said you were sorry. According to consulting ethics, I can't talk to your children, and the leader's face immediately fell down. A complete consulting ethics is ok in the west, but in China, we should pay attention to the world. The highest principle of consultation is to put the well-being of visitors first. I only trust you at present. Tell him that I am willing to talk to the child if he wants. It is good to help children. Of course there are consultation rules. If you want to help your child better and deeper, you really need to find someone that your child doesn't know. Your child is not alert, otherwise you can't reveal something, and you can't help your child better. Of course, children are willing to talk. I'll just say it once, no problem. In this way, I helped him and told him that only in this way can I open my heart. Taking care of human feelings again Emphasize that children are voluntary. Of course it's free. It's purely human nature. This is not a consultation. Children are willing to know the general situation. It's just an interview. Unfamiliar children try not to talk. There are rules in the circle. If you do well, more people will come to you. If you don't do well, she will talk about you everywhere. Teachers at school had better not do it. Pay attention to the boundary. Visitors are people you know and don't know. Children of acquaintances are recommended. "Give birth to Mien, fight Miqiu". If you really want to help children, you must find strangers to do it. He will still understand. The children of our group teachers are still ok. Strangers introduced by acquaintances are also acceptable.
According to our statement, whether this consultation will bring benefits to tourists depends on this time. We can stand the test ourselves, we can't do it, we won't do it, and we can do it if we think we can.
(5) Matching
Psychological counseling is very particular about collocation. Career matching (just do what you are good at), personality matching (the consultant polished to a certain extent, androgynous), value matching (if homosexuals always want to correct, they will not do it. Tell him the current shortcomings and introduce him; I can't accept not going to school. I will do it when I grow up better. I made a breakthrough when I met my own decision that could be consulted and supervised. Do what you can, do what you can first, and grow gradually. Perfection is always on the road. Ask for help when you encounter a stuck point. Do what you can do now, try to break through what you are not sure about now and expand step by step. )。 Any piece that doesn't match may not be done.
(6) Help others help themselves
Help him have the ability to help himself. In other words, in the focus, we firmly believe that everyone is an expert in solving their own problems and cultivate themselves into experts in their own problems. To learn to consult, you must have a teacher's guidance. In case of a situation, it can be solved at any time.
(7) Time limit
1. Usually once a week. If it is a crisis intervention, it may be added. Not a professional crisis intervention unless you are a professional crisis intervention. Be good at which piece to stick to, and seek foreign aid at the key time.
2. A maximum of 50 minutes. The book says fifty minutes to an hour. No more than an hour. Fifty-two and three minutes passed. I found myself stuck. I wanted something, hoping to see the effect once. No desire is just. Procrastination is both effective and harmful. What the visitor learned from you broke the settings, and he may also be breaking the settings. Life can also destroy the environment. You need to practice when you are stuck. Some tourists can find a supervisor to delay. Look what happened. The container is stable and big.
Don't move time easily, fix it at a point. Consultants should never be late. If you are late, you must have a good look. For consultants, this is a very important thing. Be sure to see what happened.
(8) Avoid dual relationships.
Try not to have a deeper double relationship. The highest principle of negotiation: take the welfare of visitors as the biggest and do no harm as the principle. Weigh and consider comprehensively.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) psychological counseling office
(1) According to the object: it is clearer to say abnormal psychology. Psychological activities include normal (healthy (development consultation) and unhealthy, and entanglement affects life) and abnormal (abnormal).
1. Development consultation (aiming at health and doing the most)
2. Health consultation (unhealthy)
3. Counseling in psychological recovery period (for abnormalities). Abnormal counseling, as an assistant. Especially depression, moderate to severe, the best reference. Professional, must do interviews, do not do the network, can not be involved in time.
(2) time is long.
Short-range (within one month), medium-range (1-3 months, more than a dozen times), long-range (more than three months, some years)
(3) according to the number of people
(4) method (the best effect is the interview. Secondly, the video of the network. Evaluation of the network, everything focuses on the well-being of visitors. Never do text consultation. Don't surf the internet if you are in a bad mood. )
1. Personal consultation
2. Group counseling (learn groups at school. You need to use a movable belt. Once in the heart, it is as deep as the sea. Don't worry, the core is to build the most basic courses. Everything you know, everything you can say. )
The task of psychological counseling
(1) Know your internal and external world: you can see more perspectives.
(2) Understanding and changing unreasonable concepts: Emphasis is placed on clarifying and confirming perception. Change perception through reconstruction.
(3) Learn to face and understand the reality: he can live a better life and solve problems.
(4) Let them learn to understand others (get rid of narcissism): pay attention to people in consultation and put themselves in others' shoes. What would I do if I were him? Talk and think through practice. Even if you don't talk. Can't turn around right away, an exercise. There will be contact gradually, and we can cooperate better to face problems. Do not understand at any time and place and accept the case unconditionally. In reality, acceptance is temporarily incomprehensible. Learn to understand each other as much as possible. Role differentiation should not be generalized.
(5) Let help seekers know themselves correctly: see through, don't say through.
(6) Assist the helper to construct a reasonable behavior pattern: reasonable and unreasonable, and discuss with her more according to the visitor.
Second, to achieve the purpose of psychological counseling:
? Improve personal psychological quality and make people live a healthy, happy and meaningful life.