At the age of 20, I can travel all over Qian Shan for love, but when it comes to marriage, it seems that I am not ready yet;
At the age of 30, waiting and settling are a pair of contradictions. I want marriage and love, but I am always embarrassed to be single;
At the age of 35, I felt as if anyone could, as long as they had a suitable marriage partner and a home where they could go back after work.
Why are we getting married?
Because of love, this is the answer at the age of 20.
In fact, it's only when you want to cross the river to see the scenery that there happens to be a boat; When you want to watch the sunrise on the mountain, there is just a road; When you want to get married, there happens to be a nice guy.
Maybe this is a kind of destiny takes a hand.
02
Wang Gang, a college classmate, is getting married. The bride is not Mei Zi, a classmate who has been in love for five years. The night before the wedding, as the night before we bid farewell to single life, several college students wanted to eat barbecue and drink beer in a small shop as before and recall the past.
Someone asked Wang Gang, since he will get married sooner or later, why not choose plum blossom?
Wang Gang said: "Because she didn't want to get married right after graduation, but she wanted to get married. Later, we chose a different path. "
I used to think it was incomprehensible that people who loved each other didn't get married in the end, but later I found out that this was the normal state.
Because time is like a magician and a killer, let two people meet in the vast sea of people and miss it in the staggered time.
Wang Gang and Mei Zi are both graduate students of famous universities, and they are classmates of Ai Xi. Outsiders seem to be a perfect match.
However, two years after graduation, Mei Zi put forward the idea of getting married. Wang Gang's career has just started, and his work is not satisfactory. Young people in their twenties did not respond and promise to get married when they were fighting for their careers.
Plum broke up with the fastest speed, moved out of the rented house and returned to her hometown; Both Wang Gang and outsiders think she is ridiculous and heartless.
Only I know that Mei Zi has adjusted at home for a month, and she has lost weight.
Plum told me a lot, the most impressive sentence is:
Women can't wait, because you don't know what kind of result you are waiting for.
Indeed, love is a matter of fate and luck. Sometimes it's not enough love, just not smart enough. Instead of struggling in an uncertainty, it is better to make your own decisions and give yourself a definite future as a stable relationship.
Smart women should not be desperate in love, but should think more about themselves. If they were waiting for something useful, the poetry garden wouldn't have waited for ten years, and finally it was Kong Wei's "I didn't plan our future well".
If waiting is useful, Adi won't wait until he is 30, until Ji's "You like the sea, I loved you".
If waiting is useful, you should be waiting for the ring and wedding dress he prepared for you, not the back without a word.
03
Later, Wang Gang went to Mei Zi, worked in the workplace for two years, and finally wanted to have a home and settle down.
But at that time, Mei Zi was married, and like every ordinary housewife, she lived a life of going to work in the morning, going home to cook at night and waiting for her husband's return.
Wang Gang said, "I was in the dark, watching the lights and the occasional busy figure in her house. The original lamp should be lit for me, and the original figure should be waiting for me. And I missed it. "
It wasn't long before I heard that Wang Gang had found a girlfriend and was going to get married soon.
Why are we getting married?
For most people, it is only at the age and state of marriage that they meet someone who happens to be almost annoying.
Although it is always said that it is never too late in your own time zone, in fact, many people can't avoid customs; The prodigal son has a turning point, and the tired bird will return to the forest one day, but the person who once loved him may not be waiting, so it is a fate to hold hands with the person who just appeared.
An old lady who has been selling wedding dresses for decades said:
After selling wedding dresses for so many years, I have never seen any boy exclaim "wow" when the curtains are opened.
It took so many years to understand later, probably because they failed to keep their young lovers.
The girl who tried on the wedding dress may have shed tears in the fitting room. 17 didn't marry the girl she liked.
Therefore, marrying love and marrying love are both a kind of faith, just like when summer has not come, you always want to buy the most suitable and gorgeous skirt and become the focus of the whole summer.
But because summer hasn't come yet, you are indecisive and hesitant. It was not until summer came that you realized that you had missed the most beautiful skirt. It doesn't need to be beautiful, as long as it's what you like.
Many people miss it and it's gone. Life is not a movie. Many people have only one fate. When they can have it, they have a little more impulse and courage. The future is not long, and no one will always wait in the same place.
I hope all love is not empty, and I hope you will marry the person you love the most.