2. Have jealousy. In interpersonal communication, I call jealousy with negative energy jealousy. On the one hand, jealousy is also an affirmation of others and an objective self-cognition in the process of comparing with others; On the other hand, jealousy is a negative emotion with shame, resentment and even revenge and destruction. They don't want to fall behind others, but they don't have the courage to compete, so they have to innuendo and make things difficult for others. In the environment of interpersonal communication, it is easy to make people lose their senses and self-cultivation, and even cause psychological abnormality and personality distortion. But this psychological incubation period is long and relatively hidden. So it's hard to communicate with people.
3. There is a suspicion. Suspicious psychology is often related to negative self-suggestion. Such people often make subjective assumptions from other people's words, extract negative information, and make their own understanding of information that is unfavorable to them. They are bitter, unhappy for a long time, and more and more sensitive for a long time. In interpersonal communication, they will have estrangement and misunderstanding with others, and even lead to neurasthenia over time.
4. Have a game mentality. The game psychology in interpersonal communication mentioned here is more or less related to the psychology of dance academy. Perhaps they have long developed the psychology of playing games with everything. They don't care about anything, including interpersonal communication as a game. They also regard interpersonal communication and emotional needs as insignificant, like to ask and inquire about other people's private affairs, and are keen to spread other people's information. They don't necessarily have any practical purpose, but they get low-level psychological satisfaction by prying into other people's privacy. Take freedom as the foundation, take participation as happiness, and take things that have nothing to do with yourself as the principle. So it is difficult for them to make intimate friends.
Causes of college students' interpersonal communication obstacles
1. From the social objective reasons. Nowadays, with the development of economy and the improvement of productivity, there are more and more social groups. The composition and sources of personnel in university campus are increasingly rich, so that in such a huge mixed group, spoiled only children are prone to communication differences and obstacles due to regional differences, cultural customs, growth environment, gap between the rich and the poor, social needs and other reasons.
2. Subjective reasons from family. From the family point of view, it is undeniable that, on the one hand, some parents are not of high quality at first, and it is difficult to give their children a sound and healthy education. Children are the mirrors of their parents, and the growing environment makes them selfish, irresponsible and have poor communication skills. On the other hand, either parents are busy with work or divorced, and their children are not educated in time, that is, their children lack the care and guidance of their relatives, which leads to autism and will not interact with others. Personally, one's cultural accomplishment is not high, one can't understand oneself correctly, one's frustration ability is poor, or one's personality has defects and obstacles.
College students learn the art of interpersonal communication.
1. Always have a correct attitude. In interpersonal communication, we must first have a correct attitude towards people and ourselves. Communication with people can start with a smile or a hello. Understand the characteristics of interpersonal communication in colleges and universities, and have a correct understanding and affirmation with a sincere attitude and even criticism. Be proactive in interpersonal communication, carefully consider the feelings your words and deeds bring to others, and remind yourself to think calmly.
2. Adjust your emotions. In the process of interacting with others, it is also a kind of respect for others not to bring negative emotions to others. Therefore, we should learn to adjust our emotions and treat the positive and negative aspects of emotions correctly. It is impolite to come instead of going. The same applies to emotions. Only by treating others with a positive attitude can we get the courtesy of others. At the same time, comfort the injured and encourage the failed.
3. Cultivate a good personality. Good personality adds personal temperament and charm, and can stimulate people's communication motivation. There are plenty of social activities on campus. Take the initiative to participate and cultivate a cheerful and lively personality. Reading more books about how to be a man and putting the conclusions into practice will also make a qualitative leap in the shortest time. Psychologists such as Freud have repeatedly stressed that personal growth environment and background are very important for personal development, so a healthy social circle is more conducive to cultivating good personality.
Marx said that only in the collective can individuals get opportunities for all-round development. Without the collective, individuals cannot exist. The art of interpersonal communication also begins with college students who are not deeply involved in the world. People-oriented, emotion as the mechanism and campus as the carrier. As college students, we cultivate interpersonal skills and prepare for future life and work.