Because you can't refute others, the important reason is that it is good for you to do so.
Maybe you dare not refute, for fear that the other party will hurt yourself, so as to protect yourself; Or you dare not refute, because you want to get the other person's affirmation, or you are worried that if you refute others, others will stay away from you. In short, you will "benefit".
When you realize that such "benefits" do not make you comfortable, you will have the courage and courage to refute others.
Realizing the problem is the beginning of your change.
Next, what you have to do is to live "aggression", but don't misunderstand "aggression".
Enterprising is not swearing and beating others, but daring to make your own voice, put forward your own needs, dare to refuse, dare to ask, dare to express, dare to create, dare to break the rules, dare to be unique, that is, dare to be yourself.
From a psychological point of view, aggression is a good thing, it is a symbol of our vitality.
For you, you never contradict others, but you dare not be yourself.
At this time, you can ask yourself what is the fear behind not making progress.
Is this thing that scares you really that terrible? Is it more important to live high, or that?
When you understand that you dare to refute others, you are living for yourself and taking responsibility for your own life, which will give you the courage and courage to refute others. In other words, your desire to change is strong enough to really change.
In fact, everyone is aggressive, that is, everyone has the impulse and idea to refute others, but "good people" care more about others' ideas and opinions and ignore their own ideas and feelings, so they have no self, no principles and no bottom line.
Maybe you find in your life that although you don't contradict others, you have no intimate relationship. Then you realize that if you have wronged yourself, you will not be comfortable and will not be recognized by others.
In other words, "good people" can't get real respect from others.
Finally, you can try to refute others from trivial matters.
Because live high's courage and courage can't be possessed at once, it needs to be accumulated slowly, and the way of accumulation is to start from small things.
For example, if someone denies your suggestion or creativity, you can try to refute it, and you will gradually realize the true feeling of living high.
Real change begins with experience.
In short, if you want to learn to refute others, you need to think about the reasons why you dare not refute, then dare to be aggressive, and finally try to refute others from trivial matters, and gradually shift the feeling of living high to other important things, so that you can feel that your life is under your control.
Living high is the meaning of everyone's life.
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First of all, let's feel the degree of "Yi". It does not pay special attention to the detailed logic of debate, but momentum is relatively more important. Of course, you can't shock each other with swearing and spitting like swearing. In that case, even if the other party is successful and speechless, his image has already plummeted.
Under what circumstances do you need to wait? In my opinion, if the other party doesn't ask the facts and doesn't talk about logic, we can help the other party straighten out the logic without repeatedly clarifying the facts. As the ancients said, soldiers will block, and water will cover up. The other person will not discuss with you rationally, and you don't need to help him with reading comprehension and language use like a teacher.
I think the topic needs to consider two questions first:
So, how to kill people? I think we can learn from the methods of the strongest diplomatic mission in China.
I want to sum up three points about how the diplomatic corps responds to the unreasonable remarks of the United States. Easy to use, you will forget.
Case: On the Fox News Channel program, the interviewee asked China to pay compensation for COVID-19 virus by exempting US Treasury bonds.
Diplomatic Spokesperson Geng Shuang responded-
I don't comment on whether the response of the United States to the epidemic is open and transparent ... There is an old saying in China, don't do what you can, do it for yourself. "
What do you mean, yes or no? What do you want?
Probably the aggressive American journalist was confused by this answer, and our spokesman couldn't help laughing-
User comments-this station smiles steadily with skin, with reason in the skin, and can't understand the mocking skills that give you a break. It has the attribute of dimension reduction, and its speech strategy is domineering and hard-core.
The other person's words are sinister, but in fact, there is nothing, no substance, just an aggressive shell. It only takes a few seconds to fool the other side by quoting the classics. Everyone with a discerning eye knows that the other side is just bluffing, so your confidence is enough.
Case: At the beginning of the outbreak, the United States expelled 60 journalists from China for no reason. Now, we have dealt with a man as he deals with you, and expelled 29 American media in China. The United States questioned: Are we deliberately suppressing information?
We in Geng Shuang responded-
According to this logic, what is the ulterior motive behind the expulsion of China journalists by the United States? Are you trying to hide something?
An opponent who ignores the facts doesn't need to work hard to find a way to reason. Just tell the other person what logic you have. Very safe. If the other party is right, you are right, and the other party is unreasonable. Say it and everyone will know what is ridiculous.
Case: In response to the question that the United States did not send senior representatives to China International Import Expo (CIIE), Geng Shuang replied:
We welcome them to come, but it's no big deal if they don't come.
Who can make you come if you don't come? Let him be tolerant and generous when passing, so that the momentum can crush the opponent.
Finally, I need to remind you:
The purpose is to stop the other party's unreasonable and meaningless speech suppression and entanglement, not to get something purposefully.
Only in this way can we respond to each other from a higher angle.
If it's just for fighting, it's unreasonable. Advise readers not to be such people.
In the early days of Guo's fame, he could not do without gossip again and again, and this time, he was pushed to the forefront of public opinion and gradually became a household name. He told Jiang Kun and other so-called artists that "people are against the three customs and watch pornography under the cover", and satirized that some so-called artists in the entertainment and phonology circles had chaotic lives!
At the beginning of 2006, he published an article "I am Degang Guo" to remind Wang Yang: When he came home, he saw his wife and others lying in bed with bare arms and asked Wang Yang why he came back early. Keep your word!
In June 2006, 165438+ 10, he complained about Yang Zhigang's reimbursement of public funds and his life style, and directly angered Yang Zhigang to the hospital! In the interaction with these famous artists, I don't fall in the wind! Without hurting Degang Guo, it has enhanced Degang Guo's popularity! For Degang Guo, this is also a small test, it has not done its best! In his own words, "in the street, I am an ancestor."
In 2009, the century change with Song Zude originated from an article published by Song Zude, "Little Shenyang didn't become popular until the end of 2009", in which it was said that little Shenyang was "neither male nor female" and was completely propped up by Zhao Benshan in a short time. And Degang Guo is very optimistic about small Shenyang, and supports small Shenyang!
So, Song Zude cursed Degang Guo:
Degang Guo completely ignored Song Dazui's unpolished front teeth, so he wrote a secret book, People in Jianghu, which was handed down from generation to generation. He said to Song Zude, "I'm not afraid of hooligans, let alone your imitation show."
Subsequently, the reporter interviewed Song Zude. He said, "Don't think that what he wrote in Degang Guo is very literary. In fact, his language is the curse of Beijing bitch. I am a doctoral student and will never lose to a junior high school student. " Degang Guo also said, "If he wants to play, we won't play? This is also leisure and entertainment. "
Zhou Libo rejected Degang Guo's suggestion that garlic eaters and coffee drinkers should not be together. However, he used the comic dialogue "You want elegance" to say the classic sentence that "many elegant people wear perfume, and I can smell scum" and "elegance is not pretending, but being installed by grandchildren"; In the face of Jiang Kun's accusation of "moral anomie", he replied:' Which eunuch said this!' "
After gradually becoming a wrist, it's hard to see Degang Guo fighting with others. Even in 16, Cao Yunjin issued a document "It's time to end", listing several incriminating evidences of Master Degang Guo, trying to kill Degang Guo, but Degang Guo was indifferent to it. A few simple ironies and there will be no reply! The high-spirited war in Song Zude gradually turned to convergence!
1, host Fang Ling: Then call it out for me.
2. Formula Crosstalk Couple: Oh, I don't even know how to cook for you!
Some netizens summed up Degang Guo's killing skills: he cursed the street badly, thanks more to his clever mind, and he could draw inferences from others, so that he could make a name for himself. Everyone seems to be very happy, but in fact, the language structure of his swearing is similar. To learn this ability, we must first analyze his language habits (which cannot be separated from rhetorical devices learned in primary school, such as metaphor, exaggeration, analogy and parallelism), and then read more miscellaneous books and remember the key points, so that swearing in wartime will not be bad.