A reader left me a message and asked me, "Is there true love in extramarital affairs?"
In fact, this is the best answer I have ever seen about extramarital affairs: marriage is sleep. Extramarital love is a dream. Doing well is a dream, but not doing well is a nightmare. Divorce is waking up in the middle of the night; Remarriage means sleeping and dreaming; Divorce without remarriage is insomnia; Being single means losing sleep all night.
One-night stands are also love, and extramarital affairs are also love. There is no third party, only people who don't love, as long as they are true. Is reasonable.
After listening to the reader's story, the reader asked me unwillingly: "Why did I divorce him, but he turned a blind eye to my efforts and even broke up with me?" How did he become like this? At the beginning, he told me personally that he would never leave me and be responsible for me. "
Readers say that we women are stupid and always risk our lives for love, even though we know that putting out a fire is a moth to put out a fire. Are all men in the world like this? Are extramarital affairs fun in men's minds? Is there really no true love in extramarital affairs?
Some people say that women are born of love and men are born of sex.
Men's love will become more and more casual after having sex, while women's love will become more and more loving and obsessed after having sex.
Men don't fall in love with a woman easily, but once they fall in love, it's a lifetime. A woman will not have sex with a man easily, but once she has sex, that's when she falls in love.
So is there true love in extramarital affairs? In men's minds, what is their attitude towards extramarital affairs? To this end, I specially interviewed five men and listened to their answers together. The last one has been stuck in my heart.
First, Teacher Chen: There is no true love in extramarital affairs. Extramarital affairs have no true love. Most of the love in men's mouths is to vent their selfish desires. What vows of eternal love, what ends of the earth to confuse women.
Take my own ex-wife for example!
In fact, when she first met the man, I actually had a bad feeling, but there was no direct evidence and I could only hint at a warning.
She always explains to me that she is either that person or an ordinary friend. Later, she betrayed her marriage because the man told her that he would be responsible for her, but what happened? No, I still knew my mistake and cried and begged to remarry with me.
So I really want to advise some women here that everyone's life is the same, and don't violate the bottom line because of novelty.
Second, Teacher Zhu: True love? True love is 18 years old. True love? True love is only at the age of 18, and only the feelings of that age are the purest feelings.
For those "smooth hands" who have been groping in society for many years, there is no true love in marriage, let alone outside marriage. However, this is only a purposeful flattery. At first, everything was fresh and everything was beautiful. After the novelty disappeared, I began to show my true colors and began to consider cutting.
I think men's extramarital affairs are just to find some passion and waves for their plain life, and most men's minds will still be placed on their own families.
Anyway, if it were me, no matter how much I like women outside, I wouldn't divorce my wife for this.
Third, Mr. Zheng: Maybe, maybe not. Maybe there is, maybe there is not, but more often, there must be no.
To tell the truth, I have met many men who have extramarital affairs, but few of them can divorce for women outside. Most men will eventually return to their families, so I think true love must exist. After all, anything can happen in this world, but in most cases, men's extramarital affairs are because they want to have some fun.
I think true love can enjoy all the advantages of each other and tolerate all the shortcomings of each other. I think true love is the kind that won't let go in the face of wind and rain. It's just a temporary affection and has nothing to do with true love.
Teacher Chai: True love exists. I think true love exists, especially when a man is not understood and considerate at home for a long time. Once another woman gives him send warm at this time, it is easy for him to really fall in love with that woman.
Generally speaking, when a woman walks into a man's heart, the only chance to walk into a man's heart is when he is particularly lost and needs comfort and understanding.
In fact, if a woman wants to know whether a man really loves you, it depends on whether he will complain to you, because men are very rational, and some of his heartfelt words will only be said to the person he likes, and only in front of the person he likes can he vent it unscrupulously.
Fifth, Miss Su: I believe that love grows with time. I believe that love will pass with time, but I don't believe in true love.
To tell the truth, I am the man who has an affair. When I started dating her, it wasn't because I liked her. It's just that you need something and I want something. But when I grew up together, I really had feelings, especially when I thought of separation. It's the kind of disappointment from the heart.
Later, our story was exposed, and my wife forced me to make a choice. In the end, I chose to return to my family instead of being with her.
Not because I have no feelings for her, but because my wife and I have deeper feelings. Although there are feelings, but not to the point of despair.