That was not the case. After Min Min was born, he often went on business trips abroad for work reasons, so he asked the old man to take his children back to his hometown. When he reaches the age of kindergarten, Min Min wants to take them back for a better education, but Min Min's job is facing a promotion. As a last resort, he let his children go to kindergarten in their hometown and even finish primary school. In recent years, Min Min has rarely visited his children at home, and the children should go to junior high school. When Min Min went to take the children home, he found that the children were particularly cold to him. He thinks children will hug themselves with great excitement. Unexpectedly, the children's attitude made Min Min very sad. Was it a mistake to send the children back to their hometown? It seems that it takes a lot of energy to make up for the lack of love in children.
In fact, this is only the case of some families. Some families still can't love their parents even if their children are raised by the elderly. In fact, everything is two-sided, especially for parents who adopt children. So, if children are not raised by their parents since childhood, how will they behave and how will they be affected?
1, grandparents are the closest people, and parents are just "closer" than the average person.
In fact, for children who grow up with grandparents, under normal circumstances, they will have a close relationship with grandparents. For example, Xiaoli's children have been brought up by grandparents since birth, and they were taken back to the city when they were in primary school. Children are obviously unfamiliar with their parents and it is difficult for them to adapt to city life. Xiaoli and her parents are also busy at work on weekdays, usually after coming home at night. A family of three can only meet and sit together for an awkward meal. Usually, they are very strict with their children's study. Children secretly cry behind their parents for this reason many times. What children are most looking forward to is going back to their grandparents' home during the winter and summer vacations. Until two years ago, grandpa was absent due to illness, and the children cried very sadly. When asked about children, the children said that grandparents are the most important people in my life, parents, and I just need to be filial. This actually shows that the status of parents in children's hearts is far less important than that of grandparents. This kind of missing parental love is hard to make up.
2. Be indifferent in front of parents and never make a coquetry gesture.
After some children are raised by the elderly, it is inevitable that they will not show indifference when they go home to face their parents. For example, Xiao Liu has two children. When the eldest son was born, because Xiao Liu was busy with work, the eldest son was always taken care of by his grandparents. Every time I have to send my children home to school, I have to change schools for three times. For the newborn second son, Xiao Liu takes care of them wholeheartedly, and the eldest son sees it. Let the eldest son mistakenly think that it is not his own, otherwise, how can he be brought up by his grandparents at an early age, while the younger brother has all the love of his parents, which will inevitably lead to the psychological imbalance of the eldest son, so even when Xiao Liu cares about his eldest son, Xiao Liu is also very cold and even quarrels with Xiao Liu. Xiao Liu once thought that the eldest son was unfilial, but in fact, such differential treatment will inevitably not cause bad blood between his son and his parents.
In fact, in the process of children's growth, the companionship of parents is very important. Even if the child is brought up by the elderly, parents should go back to see the child more often, or call the child often to make the child realize that he is just busy with work and can't take care of himself. Only in this way can the relationship between children and parents be closer, and children can understand that everything parents do is because they love themselves. Finally, I wish every child a healthy and happy growth.