It should be emphasized that abducted children need to be returned to their biological parents, both from the perspective of making up for their biological parents and from the perspective of combating child trafficking. However, it is undeniable that abducted children have established an established relationship with their families in terms of emotional closeness. On this issue, even though we think that adoptive parents' emotional intervention in abducted children is "purposeful", for other brothers and sisters who support their families, their emotional relationship with abducted children can not be ignored.
In this matter, Sun Haiyang's moderation is very good, because when he communicated with Sun Zhuo about going to school deeply, he emphasized: "Yanggu has your classmates and friends, as well as your sister. You can often visit them during holidays, Chinese New Year and festivals. "
In a sense, this is the "second sister" of Sun Zhuo's adoptive parents' family officially entering the field of public opinion. We should know that during the period when the couple Peng and "recognize relatives", public opinion began to talk about two "adoptive parents", mainly based on two levels: one is the "preference for boys" directed at adoptive parents; Secondly, the appearance of Sun Zhuo and the departure of Sun Zhuo had a great influence on the "foster sisters".
As far as "one" is concerned, this should be an obvious problem, especially in rural areas more than ten years ago, the idea of son preference was really serious. It can be said responsibly that except for some families who buy children because they can't have children, the vast majority of families who buy children are driven by son preference. The reason for saying this is not to say that the family buying children is innocent, but that the family buying children will ignore the most basic ethics under the influence of dross.
As far as the "second child" is concerned, the emergence of Sun Zhuo makes the growth resources of the two "foster sisters" misappropriated by adoptive parents; With the departure of Sun Zhuo, the two "foster sisters" will have to bear the responsibility of providing for the aged in the future. In the long run, people think that these two "foster sisters" are unlucky: when they were young, they were rejected by their parents, but when they grew up, they had to take over the responsibility of providing for the elderly because Sun Zhuo left. Tracing back to the source, Sun Zhuo's two "foster sisters" are indeed victims of the idea of "son preference".
But we are talking about this matter now, not because we want the two "foster sisters" to break up with their parents, but because this trafficking case will not only cause irreparable harm to the biological parents' home of the abducted child, but also have a negative impact on the pattern of the adoptive parents' home, especially in the family atmosphere of son preference, those daughters are always on the edge (material and spiritual).
For example, it was mentioned that Sun Zhuo always drank milk when he was a child, but the two "foster sisters" were not treated like this. Although this detail cannot be verified, it can also reflect the more distorted side of the patriarchal family. However, with the absolute improvement of the material conditions of most families, the preference for sons may not be obvious in eating and drinking, but many parents still favor sons in the distribution or distribution of family assets. On this issue, "the daughter is an outsider" has once again become a curse that stings women.
Besides, if Sun Zhuo is shocked to hear about his life experience, then his two "foster sisters" who are very good to him should also be surprised. Therefore, for the two "foster sisters", if they really know the real intention of their parents to buy back Sun Zhuo's younger brother (the idea of son preference), they should also be very sad.
Because compared with feeding only Sun Zhuo's younger brother, it is heartbreaking that parents' fundamental contempt for themselves. Although parents are shaped by the established dross ideology and culture on this issue, no matter how much parents emphasize their love for them, they still can't avoid the "misogyny" side.
On this issue, not only the two "adoptive parents" in Sun Zhuo need to re-examine the family relationship, but also the adoptive parents in Sun Zhuo need to re-examine the family relationship. After all, it is natural that Sun Zhuo is destined to return to his biological parents' family. Although, as a matter of human feelings, it is impossible for Sun Zhuo to completely sever the relationship with his adoptive parents, Sun Zhuo's departure is doomed to mean that the adoptive parents will eventually lose their "son" who does not belong to them.
Meanwhile, when people talk about the situation of two "foster sisters" in Sun Zhuo, they are actually talking about the situation of women in family of origin. In fact, the vast majority of women with younger brothers or older brothers are not in a very good situation in their families.
If the economic conditions of the family of origin are relatively good, parents will generally not be too biased towards their sons before their daughters get married. However, if the daughter is married, some parents basically put their son first, whether buying real estate or managing money, they always put their son first. Even the problem of raising children is biased towards sons.
I have to admit that in a family with a younger brother or elder brother, women are doomed to be full of loneliness. Of course, what we are talking about here is mainly families with the idea of "son preference", not all parents are like this. But the indisputable fact is that there are still many families who have the concept of "son preference", although the degree is light and heavy.