How to deal with students' questions?

Time flies, so far, I have answered the questions of my brothers and sisters, but only a few thousand? Occasionally, I will encounter all kinds of wonderful problems. Now with social networks and search engines, information can flow easily, and many questions can be answered by search, but a lot of knowledge can't be obtained as easily and conveniently as daily necessities, so questions and answers are still needed. Because of answering questions, things that lead to contradictions between seniors and schoolmates happen from time to time. So I decided to contribute a short article and share my personal views in this respect with my limited experience. (1) It is necessary to distinguish between true and false questions. Some students ask questions, not because they really have doubts, but because 70% to 80% have made up their minds and need a senior to help them confirm their ideas. This kind of problems often appear in those non-factual, uncertain and future-oriented problems. So, seniors and sisters, don't worry about exposing your ideas, because your brothers and sisters are actually not interested in your ideas. They just want to filter out information that will help rationalize their choices in your answers. To distinguish the truth from the falsehood, we must first roughly guess the other party's possible position, and then deliberately defend the other party's position. If it is a false question, you can obviously find that your junior or junior begins to unreasonably defend their possible positions, and it is mixed with a lot of subjective judgments. At this stage, you can conclude that the other party is not really asking for your advice, but just seeking your endorsement. In addition, many students ask questions, deliberately revealing only part of the information and showing the facts in a corner. At this time, what you have to do is not instill, but find out what he/she really thinks. Some just want to get to know you better, get closer, ask questions and have other plans. For this, you have to mobilize your emotional intelligence, either follow the trend or pretend to be slow, so I won't expand here. (2) When you are uncertain, you must be careful to face factual problems. Many times it is too old to give a detailed answer, so try to leave room. Some students cast their nets wildly. Ask ten people a question and get a very good answer. Compare the answers. Polite people will understand, sometimes you can't remember clearly, and rude people may think you are unreliable. So when you answer, you must be cautious and cautious. If you know that there is another person, you can answer questions better. You must be flexible and let your younger brothers and sisters ask more reliable sources of information. (3) Treating impolite schoolmates often hears complaints about schoolmates in the senior circle. The concentrated response is: (1) No greeting, no greeting, just ask the senior and senior sister for help, and there is nothing after help; (two) an appointment for dinner or a meeting, being late or absent without reason, and without explanation. When the Woods are big, there are all kinds of birds. Many people grow up step by step, and each of us will have shortcomings when dealing with others, so I will not make malicious assumptions about my mistress, but prefer to think that it is only the lack of experience and experience. Personally, I think the more effective methods are: (a) reminding you by beating around the bush through your brother and sister's good friends; (b) Explain directly to younger brothers and sisters; Reduce contact with these students; Avoid expressing opinions on social networks; Among them, (c) is the easiest, while (d) is a pity and common. In fact, information is circulating very fast now, and opening up is not a good way to solve this problem. Spitting everywhere is not only easy to damage your image, but also easy to worsen your relationship with your younger siblings. (4) The impulse to suppress one's inner subjective position Everyone likes to make choices according to one's personal preferences, but when helping junior to answer questions, her brain is not a garbage dump for us to talk about our painful experiences or glorious experiences. For example, when choosing a major, we all tend to exaggerate our personal experiences, whether they are particularly happy or particularly painful. You know, in the end, we have to return to the perspective of schoolmates, instead of blindly instilling "I, I, I". When everyone is faced with a blank sheet of paper, it is easy to have the pleasure of being a life mentor. In the end, it is easy to become a monument or vent, instead of helping students solve problems. The common scene is: a schoolmate asks how to make an important choice, and a schoolmate is stuck in nostalgia for the past and repeats her own story, but she never considers the problem from a schoolmate's point of view, nor plans suggestions according to a schoolmate's specific situation. (5) to deal with particularly "stupid" problems, we must first understand long live. Some basic problems may be really difficult for junior students. Next, it is necessary to distinguish between students who are lazy and unwilling to do basic search, or whether there is really no way to let you try. It's time to challenge EQ again. Keep your eyes open. Facing the former, return to the treatment of "impolite schoolmates"; In the face of the latter, it is necessary to show understanding, and it is best to teach the other party how to do retrieval in the future. The last paragraph is reserved for all diaosi seniors and sisters: don't worry about helping handsome guys or beautiful women solve problems. Without you, there will be thousands of diaosi moving forward wave after wave. Don't always be a good person. If you know someone is using you, You're screwed. will ignore it. It's not worth catering to those people. The last paragraph is for schoolmates: (1) It is suggested that when you ask questions, you should show the information completely, and don't deliberately shake the burden, so that seniors and schoolmates can help you better, whether it is seeking answers to real questions or seeking endorsements to fake questions; (2) Avoid giving people the impression of "ignoring after asking", and don't use yourself as an excuse for "not being sociable". You know, seniors communicate with each other, and the reputation of a "poor brother" or "poor sister" spreads faster than you think. (3) It is difficult for a polite schoolmate to ask a troublesome schoolmate.