First, the silence of teachers
The psychological counseling course is different from the general social conversation, which requires the tutor to show a lot of attention and listening, less logical analysis, less preaching and more recognition of students' feelings, but recognition does not mean recognition or inaction, but more is the experience of the authenticity and rationality of students' feelings. In other words, it requires counselors to put themselves in the situation of the students being tutored, and then help them realize the obstacles in their growth and seek ways to save themselves and stand on their own feet. This requires tutors to listen more and talk less in the process of counseling, learn to express their concern and respect for students with timely and moderate silence, and hint or encourage students to speak their true feelings and thoughts boldly.
My silence in the process of "homework coming" in psychological drama counseling class mainly plays the role of suggestion and encouragement.
In the "homework comes" tutoring activity class, when sharing the feelings of the role, I asked the students who played the teacher to talk about their feelings in the process of playing the role of the teacher. He said, "I think being a teacher is great. I can give students a lot of homework, and it is easy to change the answers when correcting homework. " As soon as his voice fell, some students nodded in agreement, and his words seemed to hit the hearts of many students at once. My first reaction at that time was: I really want to talk to my child about his words. Is it really as easy for teachers to assign and correct homework as they think? After class, several teachers also asked me why I didn't give guidance when the students were obviously wrong. At that time, I had another subconscious thought: I have to take risks at least twice. First, it is likely that my classmates are sensitive to the fact that I didn't recognize his true feelings and want to convince him through classmates' discussion. Second, it is likely to hinder students from talking easily and expressing themselves truly. At the same time, although this problem is related to the theme of counseling, it is not closely related to the key goal of guiding students to explore strategies to cope with homework pressure. If you question the students' feelings at this time, it will not only deviate from the focus of counseling, but also make students feel that I am standing on the teacher's side to help the teacher speak, which will make the students behind me try to figure out my wishes, be afraid and be unwilling to tell the truth. Therefore, I firmly believe that it is appropriate for me to respond to students with the silent skills in psychological counseling. My silence at this time is not "inaction" to the content of students' speeches, but to achieve the purpose of hinting and encouraging students to continue to express their true feelings, to avoid the insecurity brought to students by my teacher role, and to make the sharing atmosphere below more open, harmonious and safe. I then asked: Is there any different feeling? A child said, "I think it is still very hard for teachers to correct homework." We do one homework, and teachers have to look at dozens of homework. The teacher is still harder than us. " Hearing the students' answers, I feel that the silence in front of me is really "golden".
Second, students' silence.
Su Guannan, an expert in psychological consultation, pointed out that silence can give students an opportunity to reflect or review themselves. Silence may be more meaningful than words, although silence is better than voice.
In the "homework is coming" counseling activity of psychological drama counseling class, when exploring strategies to deal with homework pressure, I asked the children to communicate in groups according to their feelings about homework pressure and discuss how to solve it when encountering homework pressure. Children have "like-minded people", and natural communication is more pleasant. After the children's group communication, I asked, "Do you have any new ideas in the face of homework pressure after listening to the students' sharing just now?" Just now, maybe the children were still immersed in their own troubles. After some communication just now, the children were inspired by their partners' experience and got new solutions. They talked about it in Kan Kan. Then, I said to the teacher who was attending the class on the spot: "Students, now is a good time. This is your teacher. Do you have anything to say to them? " The children who talked about Kan Kan just now were silent. At this time, I understood that the children's silence is not an aversion to my conversation, but a positive preparation. They may say to themselves: which teacher should I talk to? What do I want to say to him? Do I have the courage to tell him what I think? One second, two seconds, three seconds ... I waited calmly ... About two minutes later, Ye Jia raised his hand and ran to the Chinese teacher and said, "Teacher, just now you heard our inner thoughts and knew the pressure that homework brought us." After that, when assigning homework, can you consider reducing our pressure in this area? " Her question won warm applause from the children. When the teacher affirmed her courage, recognized her feelings and promised to pay attention to her classmates' suggestions in the future, she said "thank you" again and again with joy and bowed deeply to the teacher. The whole class applauded warmly again. Therefore, in the process of psychological counseling, when students appear heavy