Throughout the modern life style, you will find that some people's happiness comes from comparison.
My children's grades are better than most of the students in the class, and I am happy as a parent; I have more resources than you, and I am happier than you. But can the comparison between people really bring true happiness?
I think this will only satisfy your vanity for a while, because there is no end to comparison. It is said that there are days behind, and there are more than one person. If you live in comparison, your happiness can only depend on the outside world. The outside world is changeable. If we rely on external information to prove our happiness, your happiness will only go up and down like a roller coaster.
Then let's think about it from another angle.
If there is a village head in a village, although there will be people who are better than him in other aspects, people in this village trust him very much and will ask him for help whenever there is anything. The village head is also very enthusiastic to help, people's trust in him is increasing day by day, and the atmosphere in the village is peaceful.
Is he happy? I think he is happy.
If there is another doctor in this village, his medical skill level is not as good as that of doctors in big cities, but in this village, if someone is sick, he will think of him at the first time, and he can handle most clinical medical incidents. When he is faced with a problem that he can't handle, he will advise patients to go to a bigger hospital.
There is no doubt that he is also very happy here.
Did you find it? A person's happiness lies not in comparison with others, but in his own efforts.
The contribution of the village head and doctors in this village has been recognized by the villagers, who feel their sense of value in this village. This village can't live without them. They do their own things well every day, get good feedback from the outside world and be accepted by the outside world. At this moment, they are happy.
J.K. Rowling and Bill Gates have become so famous, but they still do what they like and never want to disappear. Sometimes they write book reviews and go to Africa to do charity. What do they want?
Because they have experienced their own sense of value, constantly contributed to the world, and endowed themselves with tiny strength, they can gradually realize the feeling of being recognized and accepted by the outside world and their inner enrichment, so they like to stick to it.
When we are rejected by the outside world we care about, that feeling is very unpleasant. Just like when you were at school, the teacher was not satisfied with your grades. If you don't get the teacher's appreciation like those good students, you will feel vulnerable and powerless. It's hard to be abandoned, but don't forget that you were rejected only at this time, and there is a future.
Maybe you can regard this rejection as temporary, and you can improve it in various ways. For example, find the reasons for poor grades and ask teachers and classmates. As your grades improve, you will be more and more accepted. Of course, there is another way to see the world bigger. Even if you are excluded from this circle, at least in other places, you are accepted in family relationships and friends.
If you only regard a little rejection as suffering, then you really should feel sorry for you. You can also play your potential in many places and make some contributions to the world. After all, you are still secretly loved by the world.