Zhu Zhu is a precious mother with a second child. The boss is an eight-year-old smart girl. Zhu Zhu finally gave birth to a son for her child.
Before giving birth to the second child, Zhu Zhu loved the boss very much and gave the children the best food. Zhu Zhu always thinks that even if he has a second child, the boss is still his pride, so there will be no quirks and things that make the boss feel left out.
However, after giving birth to a second child, everything has changed. Perhaps it is to be a mother again. When I was a child, I loved my children and didn't understand. People have given birth to a second child in middle age. This feeling is completely different from the first child.
When I heard my son crying for the first time in the delivery room, Zhu Zhu shed tears happily. Zhu Zhu, who had a baby, was particularly gentle.
As the baby grows up, Zhu Zhu becomes more and more busy. All the time is spent taking care of the baby, and I have no energy to take care of my boss's homework, and I haven't talked to him for a long time.
Zhu Zhu is very upset because he is too busy with the children. On one occasion, the baby cried badly. Zhu Zhu is busy making milk powder for the baby, so that the elder sister can coax the younger brother first. My sister didn't finish the task given by my mother, and my brother was still crying out of breath.
Zhu Zhu couldn't help it in an instant and shouted at her daughter: "What can you do? You can't coax children, and you can't do anything well. Go to someone else's house. I don't want such a child. "
Hearing her mother's words, her daughter cried and said, mom doesn't want it, mom doesn't want it. I can watch my brother and not let me go to other people's houses. I am your child.
When a child has a younger brother or sister, he is actually afraid of one thing, that is, does his mother still love me?
Children's psychology is very fragile. When they have a little brother or sister, their mother must hold back some words. She can't tell her boss no matter how angry she is. Otherwise, the two children will not only have a bad relationship when they grow up, but also hold a grudge against you.
First of all, if you don't listen, I'll give you to someone else. Anyway, I have a child.
The second-born treasure mother likes to say such things to the boss. The reason for saying these things is probably that the boss is bad and makes people angry. My mother hopes to use these words to scare the boss and make the children afraid to solve the problem.
Although Ma Bao's starting point is good, she won't want children, just to scare him, but it's best not to say this time.
With younger brothers and sisters, the boss's heart is already very fragile, for fear that his parents will not love him. If you say that again, the child will be scared and believe it.
So the boss did something wrong and said nothing. You said you didn't want him. Why did he start crying and have a nervous breakdown?
The most important person in a child's heart is you. When the mother said she didn't want him, she couldn't bear to imagine how scared and helpless the child was. So mothers, don't use words that hurt children as emotional outlets.
Second, you are not as good as your brother. I will only take care of my brother from now on. You follow grandma.
Even if the baby is in trouble, such as knocking over the complementary food prepared by her mother for two hours, spilling milk powder all over the room and damaging her precious cosmetics, her mother won't say anything about him or scold him, because she thinks the baby can't understand what she said, so as an adult, she must forgive her.
But when I got to the boss, it changed completely. As long as the boss doesn't do a little thing well, my mother's bad temper breaks out. I often say, "Why are you not as good as a child?" If you do this again, let your grandmother take you. I might as well take care of my brother. "
Mom said this, the boss will feel very sad, feel abandoned by his parents, feel that his mother is too eccentric and only loves his younger brother.
3. Suit yourself. It doesn't matter whether you change it or not. Anyway, there is a younger brother at home.
Many times my mother said cruel words, and only when she was mad would she say such things. Especially when my mother has said it several times and still won't change it, she will be very disappointed and say, "Whatever, it doesn't matter whether you change it or not. Anyway, there is a younger brother at home."
This sentence is very lethal, and children will be very sad to hear it. If you are older, they will think that you are biased or even bear grudges, and you will hate the second child, which is not conducive to the emotional harmony of the child when he grows up in the future.
Manage your emotions well, starting with talking without hurting the boss's heart.
After every child knows that he has a younger brother or sister, the first thing that comes to mind is worrying that his mother doesn't love him.
After having a second child, in order to get the mother's attention, the child will deliberately do something to attract her attention. After understanding the child's psychology, the mother should manage her emotions well.
Don't say sad words to your child, let him feel your love for him all the time. If your mother handles it well, the boss will be more considerate and love your brother or sister more.