Others say that the palms of their hands are full of meat, and their sons and daughters were conceived by their mothers in October. Parents should treat the blood of close relatives born in childbirth equally.
Everyone knows the truth, but a person's thoughts take root and sprout like seeds that fall on the earth. The longer they take shape, the more stubborn they become. Some people have been influenced by their parents and the growing environment since childhood, and then they have developed the idea of son preference, which is deeply rooted and cannot be changed.
People who prefer sons to daughters have always believed in raising children to prevent old age. They regard their son as the continuation of blood, the pillar of the family and the heir of the surname. As for my daughter, she is just a passer-by at home. She came in a hurry and left in a hurry, and will eventually become someone else's daughter-in-law.
Su Yuan was born in a remote small county, where most people prefer sons to daughters, and her parents are no exception.
In their minds, sons are always more important than daughters. From small to large, everyone's delicious and fun things will always be his brother's. Even if he doesn't want it, it's not Su Yuan's turn.
The experience of growing up during that time made her very painful and depressed. Although the memory has drifted away, the feeling of pain still lingers.
It is often said that girls born in patriarchal families can change their unfair fate by themselves, and Su Yuan once fantasized about creating a new world by her own efforts.
But the reality is cruel. Su Yuan has been wandering outside since she graduated from junior high school. Because there is no culture, we can only do some simple and hard work, and the real income is not much.
Fortunately, Su Yuan is very adaptable. The poor have the way of the poor and the rich have the way of the rich. Even if life is not smooth, she never complains.
Later, Su Yuan met her present husband, an ordinary man who cherished her very much. He made Su Yuan feel the rare love in the world. Since being with her boyfriend, she feels that the world is very warm.
Parents' beloved son has a far-reaching influence. Parents who prefer sons to daughters never think of them. Even if they have money, they will never leave a needle and thread for their daughter, because in their consciousness, leaving it for their daughter is equivalent to giving it to an outsider.
My parents' old house was demolished, and three suites were divided into a * * *, one of which is relatively small, about 70 square meters, with two rooms and two halls.
Su Yuan thought they would leave her the smallest set, but she was wrong. On the issue of property, they never thought of their daughter.
Seeing Su Yuan's ideas about property, her mother told her seriously: "Everything at home belongs to your brother. You are just a girl, and every stitch in the family has nothing to do with you. "
At that moment, she felt the heartbreaking pain, which was more thorough and intense than all the injuries in the world. Parents are the closest people to their children, but what they bring to Su Yuan is always hurt, without any warmth.
Later, under the comfort of her boyfriend, Su Yuan gradually came out of the pain.
Parents treat their daughters as outsiders when dividing property, but they are never soft when marrying their daughters. They keep saying that it is not easy to raise their daughter, as if they want to get all the alimony back at once.
When Su Yuan and her boyfriend talked about marriage, their parents asked each other for a bride price of 1.8 million yuan, but they were only willing to give her several quilts as a dowry.
Looking at the shabby dowry, Su Yuan cried, but to no avail.
Fortunately, my husband is warm-hearted. He comforted Su Yuan that everything in the past would become the past. As long as you live well in the future, everything will be fine.
After years of hard work, the lives of Su Yuan and his wife have gradually changed.
The husband and wife work smoothly. After years of accumulation, they not only got a promotion and salary increase, but also bought a house and a car and lived the life they dreamed of before.
And at this time, my sister-in-law suddenly came to discuss with Su Yuan about parents' pension.
Sister-in-law said that her in-laws are getting older and older, and they will take turns to provide for the elderly in the future. If Su Yuan doesn't care about them, she can cash everything.
Sister-in-law is a conscientious person, afraid Su Yuan won't accept it. She also emphasized that in law, daughters have the same obligation to support as sons.
Su Yuan said: "It is natural for children to support their parents. I won't shirk my responsibilities, but I must be realistic. When I got married, my parents asked my husband's family for a bride price of 6.5438+0.8 million, but only gave me several quilts to get married, which could offset part of the support. What's more, you inherited all the property and should have assumed the obligation of support. "
Su Yuan is now happily married, and under the influence of her husband, she has gradually developed her own opinions.
Su Yuan was somewhat dissatisfied when she thought that her parents divided the property, but when she supported the elderly, she asked for an equal share.
Before, Su Yuan was like a rootless duckweed, so she had to roll with the punches. Now she has her own principles and confidence.
She told her sister-in-law bluntly: "I can share my old age equally, but on one condition, I have to share your house first, otherwise I can't agree."
Sister-in-law and younger brother naturally could not agree to Su Yuan's "absurd" proposal, and finally broke up in discord.
After parents knew this, they even told everyone that they had given birth to an unfilial daughter, which made Su Yuan even reluctant to go back to her family.
There are no born unfilial children in the world, and unfilial children are often forced out by their parents.
Legally speaking, children do have the same obligation to support, but they also have the same right to inherit.
Rights and obligations are always equal. Since parents have deprived their daughters of their inheritance rights, they should not expect their daughters to fulfill their corresponding support obligations.
People get along with each other, and this law applies to all kinds of relationships, including parents and children. Since parents didn't regard their daughter as their own from the beginning, don't think about her when she is old and weak and needs care.
Parents often say that sons are their own children and daughters are just outsiders at home. Others say that the water poured by the married daughter belongs to someone else's family after all.
Since their daughter is only an outsider in their minds from beginning to end, they should understand that there is no reason to look for an outsider to support the elderly.
Daughter is also a living person. They are flesh and blood, with thoughts and feelings. Parents have different attitudes towards their children and treat their daughters as outsiders everywhere. They will also feel hurt and even develop personality defects.
In this world, no harm is more cruel and terrible than the harm parents do to their children.
Rome was not built in a day, nor was it built in a day. There are no children in the world who don't love their parents. The reason why they don't love them is mostly because they find that their parents in front of them are not worthy of their love at all.
A father's kindness can make a son filial. Parents have never given their daughters warmth and love, so how can they get their daughters' love and return?
Everything in the world has a cause and effect. Whether parents are happy when they are old depends on what they did when they were young.