However, today's children who are educated under the guidance of a series of advanced educational concepts always subvert the golden sentence that has been passed down for thousands of years: Xiao Bin, who is three or four years old, clearly knows that she drinks water from a glass, and she has to take out the small fish in the fish tank and raise them in the glass. Grandma will lie on the ground and play tricks on her; Five-year-old Qiang Qiang clearly knew that there was a puddle in front of him, so he had to go down and wet his shoes. Seven-year-old Xuan knew that menstruation should be taken care of when she was pregnant. She had to push a few times and almost fell down. She also said that she just wanted to give her aunt a push to see if she would have a miscarriage ... these actions made people laugh and cry. She is really a headache "Xiong Haizi".
I saw a video the other day. A boy of 13 years old did something wrong, and a woman kindly advised him. I didn't expect this "Xiong Haizi" to stab the woman's face with a ruler, resulting in broken skin and bleeding. What's even more amazing is that the parents of this "Xiong Haizi" not only failed to stop his misconduct in time, but instead asked the dog to help chase the woman.
When passers-by saw this, they were filled with indignation and called the police for the woman. When the police came to deal with it, mother's
The explanation is incredible: "children are not sensible, just grow up!" " Children often touch others in order to attract others' attention ... "
Listening to the wonderful explanation of this wonderful mother can't help but make people feel embarrassed. Thirteen, still young? How to spoil him before he grows up and understands? I wonder what kind of parents this is.
The famous educator said: Li Wei, 3 years old, 6 years old, 12 years old! I want to say to this mother, don't take some theories to educate children wrongly. Deviating from the basic core of education and being a man, no matter how many explanations are "accomplices" of people who do something wrong!
Of course, there are also some thought-provoking questions:
First, how is the "bear" child formed?
There is a saying that "behind every Xiong Haizi, there is a pair of parents"! Therefore, the emergence of "Xiong Haizi" has much to do with family education and parent education. Analysis of the current "Xiong Haizi" sexual performance, the reasons are summarized as follows:
1. Parents don't make rules when their children are young and don't listen to discipline when they grow up. In the above-mentioned case, the children aged 13 beat the children in the community, and the adults tried to persuade them, but stabbed the women with sharp weapons. This is a typical result that children's wrong behavior was not corrected in time when they were young, and they constantly admitted to discipline when they grew up, which is a weak concept of right and wrong.
2. Family members meet children's needs infinitely, which makes children lack a sense of responsibility. Today's children live in a well-off society and family life. Whether it is an only child or a second child, the relationship between family members is mostly 6+ 1 or 6+2. Adults' needs for children are basically "responsive". Even if you can't do everything, you will never let your own children lose at the starting line as others' children. So there are many "fake rich second generation" in society.
I often see my parents working hard to earn money on the construction site, but my only son is unemployed after going to college, but he sings My Old Father or White-haired Mother and Not Afraid of the Sun and the Wind and Rain in KTV. The reason is that when the child is young, his parents' "kindness" is arranged everywhere, and there is no sense of responsibility in his young mind.
3. Parents' unscientific parenting style makes children form aggressive behavior. There are no identical parents and children in the world, so every family grows up in different ways. There are also some parents whose educational methods are simple and rude because of the differences in educational level and educational concept. For example, some parents often yell at their children, and some parents think that "a dutiful son is born under a stick" ... They seldom know that when children are young, their parents' yelling and beating make them become withdrawn or irritable. Moreover, children who grow up under the background of "verbal violence" and "physical violence" are mostly aggressive or rebellious. Therefore, whether the parenting style is scientific or not directly affects the development of children's behavior habits.
4. Parents are too busy to take care of their children's education, so that the left-behind children are "free-range". With the rapid development of society, the demand for talents is increasing. In particular, there is a greater demand for talents in construction. Therefore, many parents, especially those in rural areas, leave home to work, leaving many children behind. There are also many parents who only bury themselves in business to make money, and lack care and discipline for their children's life and study, so that their children can become real "left-behind children" and "free-range people". We should know that most children who lack parental care and effective companionship on the road of growth have problems in behavior habits and personality development.
Second, the harm of "Xiong Haizi" to society
1. Xiong Haizi ignores social morality and is in danger of breaking the law. The reason why "bear" children are bears is that they have never lacked the basic standards of being a man since childhood and turned a deaf ear to some social ethics. In the long run, it will violate the law and cause social harm.
2. "Bear" children can't feel the same when they encounter difficulties, causing harm to others. "Bear" children have been spoiled by their parents since childhood and are often self-centered. Therefore, people never consider the feelings of others, let alone others. When you meet something that doesn't meet your wishes, you will never put yourself in the other person's shoes, and sometimes you will hurt others. Just like the case of thirteen children doing evil and hurting other children, they don't listen to people's advice, but work harder to hurt and persuade others.
3. "Bear" The result of the child "Bear" is to bury a "bomb" in his life. Xiong Haizi was at home when he was a child, and all the members were obedient to him and took care of him meticulously, or were ignored, which led to Xiong Haizi's self-centeredness, weak ability to distinguish right from wrong and poor behavior habits. This series of shortcomings has buried a "bomb" that will explode at any time for children's lives. Once it explodes, life is mostly unbearable.
Third, how to make the "bear" child become "evil" and correct it?
1. Parents change their education methods and clarify the rules. Li Meijin, a famous educator, once said, "You can't say no at the age of three", "You should set rules for him at the age of 0-3, establish prestige for him at the age of 3-6, and establish value for him before the age of 65,438+02", and "If a child is disciplined before the age of six, his parents' words are like" gold "to the child, and if he is disciplined after the age of twelve, his parents' words are like" garbage ".
It is said that children must pay attention to behavior education before they are three years old, and set rules for children to make her feel awe; Before the age of six, we should pay attention to habit cultivation and establish our prestige in front of children. Because 3-6 years old is the key period for a person to form good behavior habits, it is futile to wait until 12 years old to re-educate. Therefore, the best time to educate children is before the age of six. Parents should be good at learning, master scientific educational methods, set an example, cultivate children's awareness of rules, manage themselves well, and don't be rude to others.
2. Establish a good family style and form a correct three views. Family style, also known as family style, refers to the traditional fashion or style of a family or family. A good family style is like a wonderful and vivid textbook, which gives children good moral character. To form a good family style, we should pay attention to cultivating children's noble interests, creating a good learning atmosphere, establishing harmonious member relations and clear family rules, so that children can form a correct outlook on life, values and world outlook, naturally form good habits, achieve good moral character, have good thoughts and have a good destiny.
3. Treat your child as an ordinary person and concentrate on being yourself. In today's family, every parent loves his children very much, but love should have principles. Don't care too much, spoil or love the whole family to bring fire. Especially in families with many family members, all members should have the same idea, the same caliber, the right method, live in harmony, "cycle" love for children, make children normal and be true to themselves. I believe that children who grow up in such an atmosphere will have a kind heart, good habits, be kind to others and live in harmony.
4. Pay attention to the child's first mistake and buckle the first button of life. Every child's growth process is a process of trial and error. But the key lies in whether parents pay attention to correcting their children's wrong behavior, especially whether it is the first time for children to make mistakes and whether parents give correct guidance. Don't underestimate the child's first mistake. If parents correct it in time, children, no matter how young, will form good habits. If you don't pay attention to correcting your child's small mistake for the first time and still have the idea of "letting nature take its course", the child still thinks it was him. When children grow up, they will make big mistakes. Therefore, as parents who are responsible for their children's lives, they should pay attention to the children's first trial and error process, pay attention to correction, and buckle the first button of life for their children's growth.
"At the beginning of life, nature is good", in fact, every child is born with a good nature. As long as parents pay attention to their parenting methods, every child is excellent!
Therefore, parents must pay attention to the misconduct of "bear" children! If you don't correct your child's mistakes today, society will teach him how to be a man tomorrow!