If so, your ex-boyfriend's counselor really lacks comprehensive consideration and is unprofessional. He can't stand with your ex-boyfriend to prove that you have a problem, and he can't work with him to save you. In fact, in intimate relationships, both parties have the responsibility to heal their own (childhood) wounds, and whoever suffers will change.
But as an ordinary person, I also want to make some personal feedback and clarification on your reply.
I have reservations about whether your ex-boyfriend's counselor said you had a problem. Because you didn't hear the counselor's advice in person. To say the least, even if the counselor said something similar, what did he say? Under what circumstances did you say that? What the hell does he mean?
We all have this experience, and in the same way, we will have different understandings when using it in the atmosphere of on-site interaction and outside the atmosphere. What's more, your ex-boyfriend relayed the statement of the counselor, and there must be his personal subjective desire, which may have done some processing on the information of the counselor? These all need to be verified and clarified.
But obviously, your ex-boyfriend wants you to enter counseling, because some of your things have not been completely sorted out and completely solved. It is also possible that he has not completely given up on you, and he still has hope for you. I hope you can face the your issue together in the consultation, and maybe there will be a future. Mentioning that his counselor said you had a problem might just be an excuse for him to ask you to consult.
Further, I don't know if you have any questions about what the consultant said and what you understand.
As an ordinary person, when we say that the other party has problems, we mostly mean that the other party has certain responsibilities in intimate relationship conflicts, not necessarily mental illness.
In addition, after listening to one party's description, the psychological counselor may have a preliminary understanding of the relationship between your, but this is only a unilateral sharing, which is one-sided, not all. Sometimes your intervention may make the counselor have a more complete understanding of your past and help your ex-boyfriend grow up.
In short, sometimes, people will suggest that visitors can also bring the other person into the consultation in order to get some valuable information and opinions. As for how your ex-boyfriend uses the counselor's information or conveys his information, only he knows.