Let's see what it's like to take out four real estate licenses to reassure my mother.
# Title Creation Challenge #
Recently, a video report sparked a heated discussion.
Low-key is a kind of wisdom, and showing off is always accompanied by controversy.
It happened in Suzhou, Jiangsu. Ms. Ma married Suzhou far away, and when her mother visited, she was always worried that she was not doing well, so she threw out four real estate licenses and jewelry, hoping that her mother could rest assured. When her mother saw it, she believed that her daughter's choice was correct.
She posted the video of the whole process on the Internet, which caused quite a controversy. Opinions vary.
Some people have realized the reality, and think that although matter can't represent everything, it already represents the vast majority. After all, the economic base determines the superstructure. Some people think that the posture of throwing books and jewels makes people feel uncomfortable. Is this jealousy? All kinds of nitpicking. Some people think that housing is happiness and the first criterion for girls to get married. As the saying goes, a gentleman and a big woman can't live without a house for a day, which is not bad.
Some people even read the defense and said that without a house, they can only be anxious about being single. Don't always attribute the reason for being single to the house, find the reason from yourself.
Others think that the happiness of marriage can only be measured by material things. Maybe others think that matter already represents everything. Money is happiness, and happiness is money. Some people even think that she is not very good to her mother at ordinary times and doesn't know her daughter's financial situation. It's possible, but more often than not, mom doesn't understand.
Of course, focusing on making money and keeping a low profile is the longest. No one in the alley asks if you are poor, but you have money and distant relatives in the mountains.
The far-married daughter took out four real estate licenses to reassure her mother.
My husband's family deliberately didn't write the woman's name when buying a house. As a result, the plan fell through. Girl: I am not stupid. I'm not getting married.
Illustration: stills of the TV series "Good Times"
Zhang Ailing once said: "I am happy to spend his money. I didn't spend his money because of women's greed. "
Whether in love or marriage, many times a woman spends a man's money not because she is greedy for money, but when the other person is willing to spend his hard-earned money on herself, she can see how sincere he is.
When establishing feelings between men and women, there are very few things to consider at first, and it is difficult to see each other's shortcomings and find the dark side of human nature. However, when it comes to marriage, it is different. The true character and family style of the other party can be clearly seen through the details.
Xu Fang (a pseudonym) and her boyfriend (Wu Jie) fell in love for two years. Wu Jie put a lot of thought into pursuing her. At first, Xu Fang didn't like him. Her idea is simple. She doesn't want to marry far away. However, her boyfriend's hometown is in other places, and even if they are together, there will be no result in the future. Then don't start at all.
But Wu Jie didn't give up and pursued Xu Fang for a year. She was finally moved. Xu Fang agreed, because her boyfriend always promised him that she would buy a house in the city when she got married and would not go back to her hometown for development.
Wu Jie's working ability is not bad. He usually spends money in a planned way, giving people a feeling of maturity and stability, so Xu agreed to associate with him.
Xu Fang is a sensitive girl. After being with each other, she is also sincere to her boyfriend. She can't bear to watch her boyfriend work too hard, so she tries to order cheap dishes every time she goes to a restaurant with her boyfriend.
Most girls like the sense of ceremony and hope to receive gifts from their boyfriends on special days. But considering that boyfriends have to save money to buy a house, Xu Fang has no requirements. Instead, she always buys clothes and shoes for her boyfriend.
Women are generally more emotional. The longer two people spend together, the more feelings they put into it. Wu Jie used to be very careful with Xu Fang and hardly quarreled with her. But later, his attitude towards Xu Fang was no longer so good. When there are different opinions, Wu Jie never gives in, regardless of Xu Fang's feelings.
If two people are cold, the relationship will break up sooner or later. Xu Fang thought it was not easy to meet someone she liked, so every time she took the initiative to find the steps, they made up. Xu Fang's best friend saw that she was in love and gradually became humble, often defending her.
With Xu Fang's conditions, there are many suitors around, and she can find a better man if she wants to. However, she has already moved her feelings for her boyfriend and will concentrate on it.
Wu Jie's traditional parents have been urging him to get married. When Xu Fang first met her prospective mother-in-law, she observed that her mother-in-law was very smart and not the kind of elder who was easy to get along with.
Although she loves her boyfriend, marriage is a serious matter after all. Xu Fang still hopes to get in touch with her for a while before thinking about getting married.
Now they have been together for two years, and Xu Fang is old enough to get married. She finally agreed to her boyfriend's proposal.
When Wu Jie promised her not to go back to her hometown, they did see the house several times before planning to get married. Xu Fang knows that it is not easy to have a boyfriend, and her in-laws are just ordinary workers, so if her name is written on the house, she is willing to bear part of the expenses together.
When the parents met, at first, her mother-in-law pretended to be very enthusiastic and promised to add Xu Fang's name to the house. Her parents are both reasonable elders. They only ask the man for a bride price of 50,000 yuan, and they will also prepare a dowry of 200,000 yuan for their daughter. This money can be used when the house is renovated.
So the parents of both sides discussed it and the wedding date was fixed. However, Xu Fang's mother-in-law did not do as promised. She and her son agreed that Xu Fang's name was not needed in the wedding room.
In the past, Wu Jie would invite Xu Fang to go to see the house together, but at the instigation of her mother-in-law, he went to see the house directly with her mother-in-law and secretly signed a contract.
Wu Jie and her mother-in-law regard Xu Fang as a bully, thinking that they are engaged now, and all the invitations have been sent out. Even if her name is not added to the wedding room, Xu Fang has to marry for her own reputation.
Xu Fang has a stable job and doesn't care much about whether the wedding room is added. However, she is not stupid at all. Since the house has nothing to do with her, she will not give the 200,000 dowry given by her mother to her husband's family to decorate the house, nor will she take care of the mortgage.
But her mother-in-law is very selfish. After Xu Fang showed her attitude, her mother-in-law said, "As long as you get married, you have to bear the responsibilities of husband and wife. If your name is not added to the wedding room, you have to pay for the decoration and pay the mortgage with my son. The wedding is coming. Now that my son has a house, it is not difficult for him to find another object. You are almost 30 years old. If you have a bad reputation, it will be difficult to remarry. "
Xu Fang's mother-in-law really figured it out, but she didn't know Xu Fang's true character. Marriage is a lifetime thing. Now, before getting married, she saw the true face of her boyfriend and mother-in-law. Even if she can't get married all her life, she won't entrust herself to a man with poor character.
She has seen through their scheming, and she no longer has any hope, so she calmly responded: "This is a deep scheming, but I am not stupid. I won't get married and I won't break off my marriage. "
A good marriage, so I broke up. Xu Fang doesn't regret his decision. On the contrary, she feels lucky. In this relationship, she really gave her heart. Now she can't have a good result. She must be very sad. But what about the short-term pain compared with the happiness of one's life?
In life, some girls care too much about face, or can't let go of this relationship. Even if I saw the man's character and bad family style before I got married, I still dare not stop loss in time. Knowing that the road ahead is muddy, walking with your eyes closed will only lead you into a more painful life.
Xu Fang's choice and firm attitude are worth learning. She is not afraid of pain and loss, but she can reasonably judge gains and losses. Such a woman can often live well.
Psychologists judge: "People's fear of loss exceeds their desire for gain."
In a relationship, what we pay is time and sincerity. If we finally lose it, all our past efforts will be a loss.
Many people will lose their thinking ability because they are full of fear of loss. Even though they know that there will be a lot of pain in their married life, they will persist, just to escape their inner anxiety and panic, but the cost of doing so is too heavy.
Only a woman who knows how to stop loss in time can live a happier life in the future.
Life will always experience some wrong things, such as choosing the wrong university major, falling in love with the wrong person, finding the wrong job and so on. Faced with these mistakes, if we fear and escape, it will only make our life more difficult. At this time, the most correct way is to show courage and say goodbye to the past.
Just like Xu Fang, her firm attitude frustrated her husband's family's calculations. She didn't ruin the rest of her life because of her irrational love.
A woman who knows how to stop loss in time is wise. I hope you and I have enough confidence to say goodbye to the wrong people and things so that the future can start again.
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Today's topic:
What would you do if your husband's family suddenly went back on their word and didn't add your name to the real estate license after you married the other half?
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