As time goes on, many people reach middle age. Although everything is stable in middle age, there are still many unexpected situations. How to deal with these sudden problems has become a difficult problem for middle-aged people.
We should look at the problems in life correctly, and then find suitable ways to solve them and make decisions suitable for our age.
Not long ago, a reader named Zhang Longfei wrote to us. He is over 50 years old and has met true love. He is a young woman, but the generation gap between them is much worse.
But this woman can still get along with Zhang Longfei. They feel like they are on the same page. They just hate meeting each other after a brief encounter.
The woman named A Min is a real estate manager. Zhang Longfei has some money in his hand and has been planning to buy a house for his son.
While he was looking at the house, he met a min. They often contact each other and invite each other to dinner. After a while, they had a good impression.
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After a long time, Zhang Longfei and A Min were together. Although Zhang Longfei felt that he had met true love and was immersed in happiness with A Min every day, he knew that A Min could not compare with his wife.
He won't leave his wife. After all, Zhang Longfei and his wife have been together for more than 20 years. His wife accompanied him from scratch, from renting a house to a three-story villa now. They have experienced a lot.
Although Zhang Longfei knew that it was wrong for him to be with A Min, he often lied to his wife that he was on a business trip or had social intercourse because A Min snubbed her.
But A Min's youth and beauty deeply attracted Zhang Longfei. What does he want now? Fish? And then what? You can have your cake and eat it. How is that possible?
Even difficult math problems will have solutions. Zhang Longfei's solution is to postpone it first. If he really wants to give up one, then he will choose to leave for a minute.
He won't risk his reputation and family, he just needs a temporary freshness, not to change the stable life now.
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Zhang Longfei knows his heart. He knows that A Min is only with him because of money, and he has no talent. How to attract A Min to like him? A Min only likes Zhang Longfei's money.
For this fact, Zhang Longfei is very clear, he is not confused and stupid, on the contrary, he is very rational. But what did Zhang Longfei do? Stupid? Yes, he shouldn't do that. He should not have such a choice.
Zhang Longfei snubbed his wife, and when he was with A Min, he began to criticize and hurt his wife with words.
The physical trauma was not as great as the mental trauma, and he began to make much ado about nothing. When quarreling, he said that his wife was wrinkled and had no feminine taste at all.
But when this woman is dedicated to you and this family, why not say that she is not feminine and why not stop her from doing these hard work?
Men should not think that any woman can follow you wholeheartedly and give everything for you and your family. Such a woman may never have a second one in this life. A man who doesn't know how to cherish will eventually have nothing.
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When a man does something out of line, don't think that his wife knows nothing, and don't think that his wife can't live without you.
Because a woman has a strong sixth sense, even if no problems are found, a man's various performances will tell her that this man doesn't love her as much as before, and he may have something else to hide from himself.
A woman is sensitive, and she will know the reasons behind small things. It's just that she doesn't want to be exposed. Women want to give men another chance. She thinks that men will realize their mistakes and finally wake up and live a good life.
However, if a man makes mistakes again and again and does not repent, he can only break a woman's heart. They will leave a man's life quietly, and you will never have a chance to go back with her.
Although women are emotional, they still know what they want. The unhappiness of the family will make her start her life again.
When it's time to let go, women can let go more than anyone else. They can start small and start a new life. So men should cherish women's devotion and true love to you, and don't destroy a family.