■ Narrator: Wu Liang (a pseudonym)
■ Age: 3 1 year
(1) I met Mei Lan three years ago. At that time, I worked as a workshop director in a 4S shop of an automobile trade company, earning more than 6,000 yuan a month.
At that time, Mei Lan was encouraged by her ex-boyfriend and got a loan to buy a cart for long-distance transportation. She bought this car in our company, so we met. At that time, I gradually got to know her, knowing that she had experienced two failed marriages and had a daughter to raise by herself.
Her first date was 20 years older than her, and the family didn't agree at that time. She changed and married someone alone. Her family didn't go when they got married. After two years of marriage and having children, the man is good to her and good to the children.
Unexpectedly, the man's family changed, and the man was also infected with drugs, so the two divorced. I also had a failed marriage, and I have been divorced for three years. Probably because both of them have the same misfortune. I am curious about this woman.
Slowly, I found that Mei Lan is an indomitable woman with ideals, strong dedication and perseverance. I feel more and more that this woman is not simple. But not long after, the ex-boyfriend ran away with the transportation fee, leaving her with debts and a mess.
If this matter is put on another woman, she will definitely cry and grab the ground. But Mei Lan is very strong, so she decided to continue to transport and pay her debts. I was full of sympathy for her at that time. I think this woman is really not easy. I should help her. So I decided to quit my job and help her drive.
I should have loved this woman from the moment I decided to help her. Her tortuous life experience, her beauty, her ability and her kindness deeply attracted me. From the moment I stepped on the cart, I made up my mind that I would love this woman and protect her for life.
There is also a driver who drives Mei Lan. He is 20 years older than us. I call him big brother. Once we went out for a sports car, my eldest brother told me that Meilan was a good woman. If you decide to be nice to her, you must understand one thing. It is easy to get a person's body, but it is also temporary. It is difficult to get a person's heart, but getting a person's heart will get this person's body sooner or later. That's true happiness. Eldest brother's words strengthened my confidence in her and this relationship.
I remember Meilan and I went to Shijiazhuang Xinshi Middle Road to visit the night market. She bought a mung bean cake, and she took a bite and fed it to me. That was when I was my age. Besides my mother, she was the first woman to support me.
Meilan followed us on the Yunnan sports car. In that humble little hotel, I personally said to Meilan, "I am willing to give everything for you, even if I am a fool in the eyes of others." For this feeling, I am willing. " Mei Lan was very moved, but she didn't explicitly agree to my pursuit. We get along like friends.
(2) The cart business is very difficult to do, not to mention the danger of hard work, in fact, you can't make much money. Later, Meilan sold the cart and lost hundreds of thousands before and after. Unexpectedly, the house leaked and it rained all night, and something happened to her house.
Mei Lan was in poor health when she was a child. She is several years old and can't walk steadily. Meilan has a cousin who has never been married and has been living in her house and helping her. Her uncle took her from childhood until she went to junior high school. In Mei Lan's words, she grew up on her uncle's back.
When she grew up, she got married and left home, but her uncle stayed at home. For a time, her uncle always felt sick and didn't want to eat. He didn't care too much about it himself, and it was not good after some days before he called Mei Lan.
Meilan hurried back to her hometown to take her uncle to the hospital, and finally determined that it was the middle stage of gastric cancer. After knowing this, Mei Ranlan consulted many doctors everywhere to see what good treatment schemes were available. Uncle Tang is old and worried that he can't stand the operation. The doctor finally decided to let Uncle Tang be hospitalized and try chemotherapy several times first.
Pre-chemotherapy is three times, once every half month, and the cost is about 20 thousand. After the third chemotherapy, Uncle Tang's physical condition improved obviously. We discussed with the doctor whether we could have an operation.
The doctor said that it is good to have an operation and it can be completely removed, but the recovery after operation is slow. After all, the old man is old and in poor health. The rest of her family are not going to have an operation. In fact, they are unwilling to do chemotherapy in the early stage, mainly because they are afraid of spending money. Of course, this is understandable. For an ordinary peasant family, having such a patient is enough to ruin people.
Meilan doesn't want to. She feels that her uncle has no children and has been working hard for this family all his life. She was really sorry when she was old and sick, but no one told her.
At that time, I also saw Mei Lan's filial piety, that is, his own children, and the elderly at home were sick, which was rare. I thought at that time, since I chose to love her, I should bear everything in front of me with her. Meilan and I discussed that no matter how much it cost, we should find a way to give this operation to my uncle.
(3)
During my uncle's operation, in order to save money, I only ate one person's food, only steamed bread and pickles. Every time I finish eating outside, I will take the food back to Meilan.
Later, Mei Lan found out and asked me to buy the food and eat it together. Life at that time was very bitter, but because two people were together, I didn't feel much bitter.
The experience of just over two months has given me a deeper understanding of Meilan and strengthened my confidence in this relationship. It was then that we formally established a relationship. At that time, we often said that we were not husband and wife, and we shouldered the burden of life together.
Uncle Tang's operation was very successful. After the operation, he received chemotherapy three times. My uncle was hospitalized intermittently for half a year and finally left us, but we didn't regret it. After all, we did our part.
Since the old man was hospitalized, I have spent about 300 thousand. I took100000 or so, and Meilan took100000 or so herself, and we also borrowed money.
In the most difficult days, we often worry about ten dollars, but neither of us cares about money. We all know that there are some things in this world that money can't buy, such as love, affection and true feelings in this world.
We didn't live up to the fate entrusted by heaven, and we cherished the most precious family ties in the world. I am filial to my uncle with her. Time and time again, the test from life did not crush us, did not separate us, but strengthened our belief-never give up.
(4)
Before Uncle Mei Lan was hospitalized, I owed a friend more than 20,000 yuan. In order to pay off my debts, I told my friends that you can open a garage next to your hotel, and I will work for you to pay off your debts as long as I eat, live and smoke.
I was not busy at work here, so I went to a small restaurant with my friends to help. The auto repair shop is about ten square meters. Leng Xia is hot in winter, and the conditions are very difficult.
After taking care of my uncle for Mei Lan, I continued to work in the garage. I was working that day when I suddenly got a call from Meilan. She asked me, do you have any money there?
I said, it's gone. What happened? She said, what can I do? Something big is going to happen. I asked her, but she said nothing, sighed and said, maybe this is fate.
Since she refused to talk, I didn't ask any more questions. Anyway, I must fulfill my promise to my friends. Unexpectedly, when my hands were covered with grease from the screws on the engine, Meilan had become someone else's bride.
I didn't know the news until two months later when I was busy working to pay back the money. I didn't answer the phone call to Meilan. I sent a message back and I couldn't find anyone.
Two months later, Mei Lan came to me. She was actually here to pick up the kids. Her daughter's school is not far from me. Come to me before you pick up the children.
I can see that she is hesitant. I think she is hiding something from me. Chatting on WeChat in the evening, she told me that she was married and that her husband was a friend who lent money to her. Only then did I know that two months later, she became the man's bride.
It turned out that Meilan borrowed 1.5 million yuan from this friend to treat her uncle. This friend liked Mei Lan before, but Mei Lan didn't promise him. Shortly after seeing my uncle off, my friend's father fell ill and said that his greatest wish was that his son could get married.
Of course, it costs money to marry a daughter-in-law, but Meilan can't afford that much money. My friend said that his money was originally used for marriage. As long as Meilan promised to marry him, the money could be returned.
Although in Mei Lan's view, this is a deliberate conspiracy, but what can we do? Therefore, Mei Lan can only marry him. Mei Lan said that he gave her a lively wedding, but she didn't feel happy at all, because this marriage was not what she wanted and this man was not what she really loved.
Married life also disappointed her. Men don't care about her at all, and try their best to marry her home, but they can't give her the care and love she wants, so she is very painful.
(5)
After listening to Mei Lan's story, I felt bitter and remorse, but I was helpless. What else can I do? I can only watch my beloved woman become someone else's wife. I can see that Meilan is very unhappy. In that family, no one cares about her and loves her dearly. Even my daughter's tuition is not willing to be paid by her husband.
In this way, we often talk to each other on WeChat. Later, Mei Lan got pregnant, and during her pregnancy, she didn't get the corresponding care. When she gave birth to the baby, she almost died of massive bleeding. The next month, she took care of the children at home alone, and no one took care of her. She often only eats two meals a day, and the so-called husband ignores her.
She told me all her experiences. When she confided, my heart ached and I choked. I can't be with her when she needs warmth most, and I can't get money when she needs it. I think life is too cruel.
After paying back my friend's money, I started to run a takeaway. As long as you are not afraid of hard work, you can earn a lot of money in a month. I used most of the money to pay off my debts, and the rest helped her and her daughter.
Because my daughter lives on campus, she needs living expenses every month. Her children are so young that she can't go out to earn money in less than a week. I try my best to meet her life needs. Even if I only have 100 yuan on WeChat, I will transfer to 90 yuan, leaving only 10 yuan for dinner.
This life lasted for half a year. Of course, I also feel pain. If I give her WeChat and she doesn't reply for a long time, I'll think about it.
I comforted myself that maybe she was still asleep, maybe she was lying in that warm home in a daze, or she was hiding in the bathroom smoking and anesthetizing her brain with the stimulation of tobacco. When she doesn't have information, I just wait, running around for the debts I owe every day. In the evening, I keep a diary on the computer to express my thoughts about her.
Looking back on what I have experienced, I feel like a movie now. Mei Lan said: "This road is my own choice, but it is not my sincere choice. I love you. "
She told me that when I was thinking about her, she was thinking about me. But we can't be together now, and she can't do her duty as a wife and take care of me. She wants me to be patient.
On the way to the meal, every time I think of her words, I will be full of strength. I had doubts about her, but the oath of "never leaving" has penetrated into my bone marrow and penetrated into my blood.
Just a few days ago, Mei Lan told me that my daughter's living expenses will be paid next month. I said, ok, I'll transfer you as soon as possible. I can't bear to refuse her request, nor can I bear to watch her suffer. But when I am busy all day on a new road and lying in an empty bed, I will also think, who am I working hard for?
Marriage navigation
The cruelty of life is that we often have confidence but are unable to resist the cruel fate. Love is beautiful, but it will die in most cases when it meets the cruel reality of life.
Mei Lan's kindness and tenacity are admirable, but under the heavy pressure of life, she still chose a road to give up love, perhaps out of helplessness or for life. But in any case, this is her own choice, and we have no way to judge.
Wu Liang's persistence and dedication to this love is touching. Ordinary people will measure what they will get before giving, but Wu Liang just wants to pursue the happiness in his dreams. How long can he hold on to this dream? Maybe Wu Liang doesn't know it himself. If you feel uneasy now and don't know where the road ahead is, it's better to stop for a while and ask your heart. Only when you have a direction can you walk well, right?