1, just to tease children.
Adults like to have fun with their children. Sometimes parents will tease their children in a joking tone, saying that the baby will be taken away by the police uncle if he is disobedient. Poor baby, he doesn't know when the police uncle will come back. Looking at the smiling faces of his parents, he was worried to death.
Parents sometimes joke, sometimes pretend to promise but don't give him what he wants. Although this funny behavior brings temporary happiness, it is harmful to children and betrays their trust in adults. If parents want to make fun of their baby, they might as well do something else. For example, the baby has been begging for a long time to eat the cake in your hand. You can set up a small checkpoint and let him sing a song for you first, so that you can "delay satisfaction" and get the happiness you want. Be sure to keep your promise and give the cake to the baby after singing the song.
2. Indulge and spoil a Xiong Haizi.
The definition of "Xiong Haizi" is a child who rummages, sabotages and doesn't obey the rules. Especially when visiting relatives, some children are crazy and always make trouble in other people's homes. More importantly, some parents not only didn't stop their children from making trouble, but lovingly let their children "pay attention to safety", which made the host very embarrassed!
Parents' connivance and excessive satisfaction make the baby's self-awareness swell, especially when the baby is about 2 years old. If parents don't guide the baby's behavior, the baby will easily become arrogant and ignore the feelings of others. It doesn't mean that it is strictly forbidden for the baby to make trouble, nor does it mean that it is necessary to criticize and reprimand the baby's mistakes. We just need to let the baby know clearly when to do what and when not to do what.
Establish certain rules in the family that all family members will abide by. For example, you can't run around when you go to other people's homes, and you can't rummage through other people's drawers. Rules not only restrict the baby's growth, but also make him feel safe.
3. Always talking about other people's children.
The netizen teased that China's biggest enemy is "other people's children". Some parents always like to compare their babies with other people's homes. In fact, they always say that other people's children will not get the incentive effect you want, but will make the baby "very hurt".
If parents want to be more obedient and sensible, they can change an incentive way to let the baby find the motivation for progress in self-confidence. For example, if a distant brother picks up a water bottle on the ground and throws it into the trash can, parents can take advantage of this situation in time to encourage their children to "take the initiative to care for the environment, which is great." I believe that the baby can do it and do it better! " This can not only praise other children for setting an example for the baby tree, but also avoid causing the baby's inferiority or resistance.
Smart parents should let their children learn to compare with themselves, such as comparing their children's behavior with the last time and comparing their own advantages and disadvantages. Give more appreciation and encouragement to children's little progress, and believe that children will gradually get better.
My dream is pinned on my children.
Have you ever thought about letting your child take on dreams that you can't accomplish? It is very good to cultivate your baby's hobbies and even develop one or two specialties, but if you don't start with your baby, but follow your parents' plan, it is not really "I hope you are good". Have you ever cared whether your children are so tired and love these so-called hobbies? Respect children's choices, let him do what he likes, and let him grow and develop in a free space. Don't say that you are afraid that your child doesn't know how to plan the future, and don't rush to arrange your child's life. Parents only need to set an example and set a successful example in daily life, then children will naturally form a positive attitude towards life. Encourage, support and care for children's every whimsy, give their parents unconditional acceptance and attention, and gradually children find their dreams in self-confidence and freedom, and work hard for them.