Let me expand your question! Your boyfriend and ex-wife have a son. Although divorced, the son belongs to his ex-wife, but every time your boyfriend visits his son, he will stay at his ex-wife's house!
There are two problems in this!
The end of a marriage, although painful, still exists in memory and will not disappear, not to mention there is a child in the middle! Just like a thread, these two people will be involved together all their lives!
Children need a father's love, and it is understandable to go and see this once in a while! Maybe the place where my ex-wife lives now is where they once lived together. In order to give the child a sound fatherly love, your boyfriend chose to visit him as much as possible. It is very likely that the child just doesn't want his father to go at night. If he goes out and owes the child, stay with him! There seems to be no problem, but he seems to have forgotten that people's words are awesome and people's hearts are awesome! Why did his ex-wife keep him overnight! This question is deeply thought, so be alert! It is very likely that even if your boyfriend didn't mean it, his ex-wife has already moved her mind!
As a current girlfriend, you have the right to ask him not to stay overnight! This is already a matter of principle! I can't stand it!
You can talk it over with your boyfriend and make him worry about your feelings! After all, I'm not single now and I can't do whatever I want! This is also in the community, neighbors walk less, like in the village, this kind of news must land in the streets, so that he has nowhere to hide! Say these, just want to say that your boyfriend is still eager to love his son! Or love rat with two feet on both sides!
If you think it is the first kind, there is still room for recovery in this relationship; If you really have second doubts, end this relationship decisively! I feel that feelings must be pure, not too much impurities!
Although you have not entered the marriage hall, since you have determined the relationship, it is a test of your feelings. Choice depends on whether you are transparent or not! After all, we are all outsiders, just looking at the watch to give you some advice. I hope you can be responsible for yourself and take a good look at this relationship!
Even if it's okay, it has to make people think it's something. They are all sensible people, so they are not afraid of anything. Let people talk about it, hehe. One of my colleagues married a divorced woman who often went home to look after the children. Every time she comes back from seeing the children, my colleagues feel uncomfortable looking at her, and I don't know how to ask her. The point is that her ex-husband is still alone. Who can rest assured of this lonely man and widow? Later, my colleagues thought he was a third party, but he thought it was someone else's, haha. That woman is also hot and cold to him, which makes him uncertain about her psychology. Later, they quarreled, and his daughter-in-law loved to see the children. Haha, my colleague is so bitter. Later, my colleagues felt too tired to catch up and broke up. The woman gave him a look without hesitation, agreed, and ran back to live with her ex-husband. The lucky money for the bride price was taken for nothing.
If you don't love someone very much, personally, you really don't want to find a man or woman who keeps in touch with his ex-wife or ex-husband frequently after divorce.
For whatever reason.
My cousin divorced his ex-wife for various reasons.
In fact, they had real feelings at first, starting from scratch, and then they had a house and a car.
But then I got divorced because of some emotional problems.
After the divorce, my cousin was also angry, and she met her cousin for a month and then got married.
They have been married for half a year, and after their love affair,
Only then did I find that neither of them was suitable for the other, but by this time I had a child.
My wife is pregnant and divorced once, so it is not good to divorce immediately.
The two began to make do.
But my cousin and my ex-wife have a daughter, brought by her ex-wife.
Therefore, the two still keep in touch frequently to discuss how their daughter is doing.
In addition, after the divorce, the ex-wife discovered her feelings for her cousin and never found another object.
One to two, the two rekindled their old love.
Until now, the three of them are still struggling.
Anyway, I think my cousin is quite scum.
But as an outsider, I can only advise you.
I hope he will make the right choice soon.
This is absolutely not normal!
Every time your boyfriend visits his son, he stays with his ex-wife. What is certain is that his ex-wife is still single and unmarried. Otherwise, even if your boyfriend wants to stay there again, his husband will kick your boyfriend out without saying anything!
In addition, my boyfriend will go to live once or twice occasionally, which is understandable and barely justified. For example, sometimes because the child hasn't seen his father for a long time, he won't let his boyfriend go when he leaves. His boyfriend has to stay with the child because he doesn't want to disappoint the child. Afterwards, he also explained the reasons to you. Even if you don't want to, at least leave him some room. But just three things. If your boyfriend keeps giving you the same excuse, things will get very bad. Your boyfriend has an old relationship, and he typically eats in a bowl and looks at the pot. If you don't take decisive measures at this time, it is likely that your boyfriend will be reluctant to give up his old love and return to his ex-wife!
One of my female colleagues won back her ex-husband in this way. The couple divorced a few years ago, and the reasons for the divorce are not complicated. It's just that some locks have accumulated together for a long time and quarreled for a while. When the quarrel was in full swing, I don't know who called for a divorce. Both of them are angry youths, and they went to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce on impulse. The ex-husband led an honest and clean life and found a girlfriend a few months later, but the female colleague regretted it after divorce. At first, she still put on airs and refused to bow her head, but when she saw that her ex-husband had found a girlfriend again, she was anxious, so she taught her daughter to call her father every three days and let him go home. Every time her ex-husband comes home to see the children, she will let the children stick to her father. She has no choice but to stay. Every time her ex-husband comes, her female colleagues will stay.
Judging from your situation, it is estimated that your boyfriend is likely to stay. Let's break up before the relationship between the two is deep. Such a half-hearted man is not worth your nostalgia!
The answer is no: not normal.
Divorced parties, according to the law, one party has the right, responsibility and obligation to visit the other party's children. There should be no objection to the issue of support and visit, which is clearly stipulated in the court judgment.
But in reality, there are many such things, that is, one party relives the old love with his ex-wife or ex-husband in the name of visiting children, or shares the bed for fun by visiting children. Then on the surface, I asked others confidently, what's wrong with me visiting my children according to law? He also accused others of being inhuman, heartless and unreasonable. Judging from your question, it seems that you have encountered a similar situation. Your current man often goes back to his ex-wife's house to visit his children and spend the night at his ex-wife's house. I can tell you responsibly that there is no doubt that they share the same bed, rekindle the old love, have full sexual interest and have fun. I can even remind you that your family is in crisis and on the verge of breaking up and breaking up. It's just that you're obsessed with the client, and you haven't figured out what's going on. Alas! What a poor woman.
Water under the bridge, it's no use sighing, getting angry and regretting. You should sort out the ins and outs of things first and convince yourself to calm down. Then, choose a suitable time, have a long talk with your current husband, recall your's love story and your time together, and then officially announce that if he doesn't come home all night, it's time for you to say goodbye. You can even persuade him to go back to his wife and get back together for the second time. After all, he is an original husband and wife and has children. If he swears that he didn't come home all night, in fact, he didn't do anything, or that's what I do. If you adapt, we will continue to be together, and if you don't adapt, just do it. Then you should fully understand your present situation, that is, you have become an obstacle to their reconciliation, and he is just embarrassed to kick you out. In this regard, you have only one choice, that is, pack your things and do whatever you want. Remember, don't cry, don't make trouble, don't be reluctant to leave him, the liar has nothing to miss. Adjust your emotions, accept this lesson, and don't be excited and impulsive when dealing with love issues in the future, and don't make the same mistakes again.
Don't complain about him and his wife Causally speaking, their marriage is not over yet. You are just a passer-by and stopped here. Everyone has a difficult story to sing, everyone has an ugly story, but they don't show it, don't say it, and people feel happy and calm, but it's not. Women in worse situations than you are everywhere. Everyone is moving forward strongly, and so should you.
Personally, I think it is very abnormal for men to go back to visit their children and stay there. This may not be to see your children again, but to see your ex-wife. If so, this may be a prelude to recovery.
As a man, after divorce, you should draw a line with your ex-wife. Even if he goes there to visit his children, he shouldn't stay there. If he stays there, it will be a sign of disloyalty and a kind of harm to his wife now. As a matter of fact, you should resolutely put forward and stop this kind of behavior, otherwise you should make a clean break with him so as not to cause more trouble.
I think as a man, you should live with a little backbone. Now that you are divorced, don't condescend to your ex-wife. This will make you spineless, hurt your self-esteem and make your ex-wife push your luck. Do you think this is a good idea? Isn't this insulting to your family?
Now that you are divorced and have a girlfriend, you shouldn't stay there. Otherwise, it is stepping on two boats and stepping on the wrong boat, which is a kind of harm to yourself and your current girlfriend. Therefore, for such a man, you have to pull back from the cliff and turn back to the shore. Otherwise, as his current girlfriend, you should definitely break up with him, because such a man really doesn't deserve your love.
We often say that love is selfish, and it is. Everyone likes that his lover is for his own use and can't and won't share it with others, while your boyfriend knows nothing about his ex-wife. This is a trampling on your love. You really should have zero tolerance for your boyfriend's behavior. You should clearly show him your attitude and tell the truth, so that he can get rid of this habit immediately if he doesn't know how to turn back.
This is my personal opinion. Please comment.
This kind of thing is absolutely abnormal.
After the divorce, if there is no new relationship between the two parties, it is no problem for the man to visit his son and sleep at his ex-wife's house. Even if they have sex again, there is nothing wrong with it. After all, there have been couples, and if there is a second time, it is still a much-told story.
However, as long as either party has a new relationship, it is impossible for this to happen. Because love is selfish, since he gave up one and chose another, he must take it seriously. It is very immoral for him to think that one body has another.
Of course, he may explain that he just slept there and didn't have sex with his ex-wife But this is also not allowed. Every adult should know the importance of avoiding suspicion. The so-called "no shoes, Li doesn't take the crown, and his ex-wife doesn't sleep at home" is the simplest common sense.
Maybe he also has his own difficulties, such as when he went to visit his son, he wouldn't let him go and insisted that he sleep there. This reason is reasonable, but it is not necessary, because this problem can be completely solved. If he breaks up with his ex-wife, it's interesting to you, and he won't live there anyway.
If he insists on not changing, you don't have to associate with him. This person has either a low IQ or a low personality.
Do you feel normal? This old ticket has boarded my ex-wife's passenger ship. The romantic feelings of the past are endless, as if the old-timers worn out by years have returned to that epic happy time. Ah, old trees sprout new buds, and old couples are like newlyweds. "You old ghost, you are as strong as then." "You old cow, you are no worse than that."
The frequency of your boyfriend visiting his son has changed from once a month to twenty days, ten days and five days, which is obviously much more frequent. It goes without saying that a discerning person can meet his predecessors in the name of his son and relive the warmth of the past. The old mandarin ducks are very popular with young people.
As his current girlfriend, don't be so vague. Under your nose, you are too weak and patient to say no to his behavior. This is not only the biggest insult to your personality, but also your connivance with your eyes open.
You should take a clear-cut stand and say to him sternly, "Don't think that I don't know what you have done. Forget the past. From now on, once again, I still have to go with my ex-wife. " If you want us to live in harmony, I will visit my stepmother. "Only a multi-pronged approach can stop their unfair relationship between men and women and let you two return to normal life. Do you think this is a good idea?
My answer is: normal! Normal! This is normal!
Although your husband and ex-wife are divorced, they have no feelings and no blood relationship, but the bond between them has not been broken and will never be broken! What is the bond that binds them closely together?
Yes, as smart as me, you must have guessed! That's the life they nurtured together, that's the masterpiece they once created together: their priceless treasure-their precious son!
Children are the bond that connects families and the favorite that parents can't give up! In order to give their children a warm home, many parents will continue to go hand in hand and carry on the tasteless marriage to the end, no matter how big the emotional rift is, how deep the contradiction is and how weak the feelings are! Why?
Just because they want to give their children a complete home, let them experience the complete love of both parents, let them have a sound personality, let them feel safe, and will not feel inferior and lonely!
Even though, for various reasons, some couples finally chose to break up. Although the hands they are involved in have been put down, they are always connected with the children's hands, holding hands tightly and never parting!
Children's blood runs through their bodies, and children are their wealth and love! This is a fact that can never be changed!
Therefore, no matter when and where, no matter whether the husband and wife are accompanied or separated, their love for their children will never change color, always so true, so pure, so wholeheartedly, no regrets!
After talking so much about the importance of children to their parents and the deep and enthusiastic love of parents for their children, do you understand what I mean?
Why does your husband spend the night at his ex-wife's house every time he visits his son? You know why!
Yes, he wants to spend more time with his son, spend more time with him, see him more, compensate him more and give him more love!
Spending the night at his ex-wife's house is the choice for this purpose! One more night's company, one more night's waiting, you will have more communication and more emotional enhancement with your son! His guilt as a father will be alleviated, because one more night can compensate for his love and care for his son!
It's hard for people who have never been fathers to understand such complicated emotions! At this time, for your husband and his son: more father's company is his son's greatest luxury, and more time with his son is your husband's greatest wish and his greatest love!
So, please don't think too much! He stayed with his ex-wife just to wait for his son one more night, spend one more night with his son and give his son one more night of fatherly love, that's all!
This is your husband's only selfish purpose and extravagant hope. Don't think too much. As a father's heart, a woman will never understand! Children are the biggest concern and miss in his heart!
Well, dear lady, please relax your heart and trust your husband. I believe your charm is incomparable to that of his ex-wife. With you, he will never find another love and a new one!
Always believe: you are the most beautiful fireworks in his heart and will always be his favorite! In this way, your man will never run away! Because confident and open-minded women are the most attractive! The favorite in men's hearts!
Normal, normal. Your boyfriend slept at his ex-wife's house all night, flawless. Your boyfriend is much better than Lao Wang next door. After all, he has a reason? Look after the children overnight.
Lao Wang next door has no reason to spend the night at many women's houses. No one said that Lao Wang next door was wrong. Your boyfriend just spent the night at his ex-wife's house. No big deal.
If you are not satisfied with your boyfriend spending the night at his ex-wife's house, you should persuade him. If your boyfriend doesn't listen to your advice, you can give him a green hat to see if he dares to listen. If he doesn't listen, he will continue to send it until he changes his mind!