As the saying goes, "a happy childhood can cure a lifetime, and an unfortunate childhood needs a lifetime to cure." For those unfortunate people who lack love, they never feel that they will be loved, let alone accept this love with peace of mind, because they rarely experience the "taste" of being loved.
Combined with personal experience, people who lack love for a long time will basically have the following * * * sexual performance:
The most obvious thing is insecurity, fear that others will not love her, and fear of losing others' love. Simply put, it is "afraid of getting, more afraid of losing." I have a cousin who is the best example of this situation.
My cousin grew up in a single-parent family, and my uncle went out to work when she was very young, and then she lost contact. Later, it was said that I got in touch, but the other party had a new home outside and didn't want a mother. My aunt takes care of my little cousin alone, so she naturally has little company when she is busy, which also makes my cousin lack love since she was a child, and her personality is a bit withdrawn.
Later, my cousin graduated from college and worked. I didn't talk about my first boyfriend until I was 30 years old (my cousin is good-looking, has a good job and many suitors). The boy was very kind to her, and both sides met their parents, and both sides were very satisfied. However, my cousin is always a little suspicious in love, and she is worried that her boyfriend will "make love" outside, so she is very strict. Finally, the boy couldn't stand breaking up. Although my cousin likes this boy very much, she has strong self-esteem and is unwilling to bow her head. In the end, this relationship will be completely broken.
In addition to lack of security, it is difficult for people who lack love to accept others' kindness to themselves with peace of mind. Just like myself, as long as others are even a little kind to me, I will think of opportunities to repay others, even my parents.
By the way, I went to boarding school from primary school, and even more so later. I have little contact with my parents and relatives, and basically rely on myself. The advantage of this way of life is that you can really stand on your own feet, but the disadvantages are also obvious, and it is easy to cause some psychological problems because of lack of love.
Also, people who lack love will be used to please others. There is a saying that "the one you love has nothing to hide, and the only one who courts is Nuo Nuo". Long-term lack of being loved will lead us to long for being loved and be more considerate of others' emotions. Because we are more mature and independent, we cherish this opportunity to be loved more. My truest feeling is that I don't want to offend others, and I am more tolerant, but I will be wronged more.
Everyone who lacks love will have different performances, and what I said above is also some sexual performances. Finally, remind friends that "courtship" in life should be moderate, don't hurt others, and don't wronged yourself.