1. Assessing which field the problem belongs to First of all, you need to roughly assess which field your problem belongs to, such as emotional problems, marriage problems or career development problems, and then find a consultant who is good at this field. Usually, the personal profile of the consultant will introduce the areas that Ta is good at. 2, professional background The next step is to look at the professional ability of TAs. Systematic training is the basic guarantee of professionalism. We can see whether the training background of this counselor includes at least one continuous training experience, such as the low, middle and advanced continuous training of psychoanalytic therapy, or the continuous training of other schools, which is generally 2 years or more. 3. Practical experience can be referenced from three aspects: First, the practical experience of consultants is very important, and the number of cases is an important measure. Secondly, the cumulative supervision period is an important information. Professional consultants must have the experience of being supervised, that is, to examine the problems encountered in consultation under the guidance of more experienced consultants. In addition, personal experience is equally important for the growth of consultants. Personal experience refers to the process that psychological counselors receive psychological counseling. When Ta's personality is more stable and healthy, it is more conducive to accompanying visitors in a neutral way at work. 4. Choose by intuition Sometimes, even after browsing the professional profiles of different consultants, we still feel unable to judge. At this time, we might as well believe in the power of intuition. When we look at a consultant's photo and text introduction, intuition will tell us whether t a makes me feel safe, trustworthy and capable of helping me ... Everyone actually has a strong intuition, and what you feel most accurate is often the most appropriate. 5. The higher the consulting fee, the better the consultant? Are consultants more experienced as they get older? Not necessarily. The relationship between consultation and interview emphasizes matching and mutual suitability. Therefore, you can try several interviews in the initial stage of consultation to feel each other, whether you can get along, and whether you can find a sense of security and trust. Including the personal work style of the consultant, whether you like it or not, and whether you think it is possible to help yourself. Consulting fee and age represent basic conditions such as working years and training experience, which are not necessarily related to consulting matching. Consultation involves emotional contact and interaction between people, and the most important professional tool used in the consultant's work is the consultant himself, including Ta's thinking, judgment, feeling and coping. We also hope that visitors can bring all kinds of interactive experiences in the consultation process back to real life, such as practice, adjustment, re-learning, re-practice, and so on. Consultation is not an armchair strategist, but comes from life and then returns to life. Regardless of the consultant's fees and age, the consultant will strive to respect the various personality characteristics, lifestyle and life choices presented by the visitors, respect the different inner reality of each visitor, and try to accommodate all kinds of emotions surging inside you through the consulting relationship. 6. Which is more suitable for me, a male consultant or a female consultant? You won't know until you try. In the process of consultation, the consultant will be unconsciously regarded as anyone, such as parents, children, relatives and friends, no matter what gender Ta is. Both male and female psychological counselors can help you gradually face and deal with possible relationship troubles with important people around you during the consultation process. Each of us has two parts in our hearts: male and female. Through the consultation process, we can also help you learn how to truly face and integrate into different gender roles. You can choose a consultant of one gender intuitively, or you can switch to a consultant of another gender after a period of time. Then, see if gender has any different influence on the relationship between consultation and interview, and whether it will help you to further solve the problem different from the same-sex or opposite-sex relationship. Therefore, we encourage you to express your true thoughts and feelings as frankly as possible, give full play to your subjective initiative, and find a more suitable consultant. 7. Can a consultant really understand me if he doesn't have the same experience as me? Counselors are unmarried and childless. I asked TA if the question about marriage and parenting was credible. If the counselor has the same life background as you, it may be easier for him to discuss this problem with you. The deeper logic of consultation is that the consultant helps you to know yourself more deeply and comprehensively by listening to you and interacting with you. At this time, whether he has the same life background as you is not the most important. The counselor's personal situation has little to do with the consultation content, and he can also do marriage-related consultation if he is unmarried and childless. Just like the gender of the consultant, it may not affect the consultation, but the professional training background and empathy are the core. Of course, if you are particularly concerned about this, you can also respect your own judgment and see if you have relevant experience or professional knowledge in the entry field. 8. No local consultant was found. Is remote consultation reliable? Compared with face-to-face consultation, the loss of some information (such as body language) is inevitable. With the more convenient and developed network, the proportion of remote consultation is increasing, and many visitors say that they have obtained good psychological consultation services from remote consultation. If your situation is not suitable for remote consultation, the consultant will come to you to discuss the solution. The professional ability of consultants and the suitability of consultants and visitors are more important factors.