1, easy to go to extremes ideologically.
2. Emotional instability, lack of self-confidence, and serious weariness of learning will occur.
3, very selfish and indifferent, disrespectful to others, swearing.
4, a strong sense of inferiority, distrust of others, withdrawn personality, relatively withdrawn, taciturn.
Children from divorced families or single-parent families in our class are not the most, but they generally have the above characteristics. I believe all the class teachers have done a lot of work for these children. Let me find an example to share with you how I did it:
There is a child named Xiao Wang in our class. Since the first day of junior high school, he has been introverted and withdrawn. Apart from chatting with two classmates who also play games, he seldom interacts with other classmates. I don't make trouble in class, but I don't listen much. My homework is often not finished. I have been studying after class, and I can't write all 26 letters in English. 20 19 before the winter vacation, I communicated with my mother about the children. Her mother said that she divorced her father and that he would take care of the children in the future. The first step after I knew it was to say to him, "Don't worry about adults, do your own thing ..." The child had no other adverse reactions at that time. After the outbreak began, these children lived with their fathers and grandparents. My father is very busy and is often away from home. I often communicate with the children in the nail group, and I have to wait until very late to wait for my father's reply. The completion of homework during the epidemic period is often urged. As for his parents' divorce, I learned from my children that all four suites were left to my mother, because my father had signed agreements with his mother when he was drunk before, and my father thought those agreements were signed for fun. How can I really get divorced? Finally, my father was left clean at home.
Step 1: Have a heart-to-heart talk with them and educate your children like friends. Parents should take care of their own affairs. We can't control them, so we should do what students should do. Stabilize their emotions and comfort their injured hearts.
Step 2: Find them something to do and make them feel valued in the class. For example, I arranged for our classmate Xiao Wang to be the computer administrator in the class, and I arranged for our classmate Xiao Zhang to be the bicycle sanitation area. Since he contracted, the bike area has never bothered me again.
Step 3: Actively communicate with parents about their children's situation. Especially for children who are tired of learning.
Through communication with the child's father, I know that the child has found a psychological counselor. In order to understand the situation, I also met with the child's psychological counselor and learned more information from the psychological counselor. After school started, his mother took the children to her house for the weekend, and her mother stopped the children from playing mobile phones. The child found his mother on the phone with her new boyfriend, and the child broke his mother's mobile phone. The next day, I found my mother and boyfriend talking on the phone, and the child broke my mother's second mobile phone. The relationship between mother and child is very cold. Because the child didn't go to school, his mother also took the child to find a psychological counselor who they often interacted with. After the consultation, the counselor communicated with his mother by telephone. As a result, the child's mother turned on hands-free, and the psychological counselor disapproved of the child's various behaviors on the phone and asked the mother to be strict. Being heard by all the children, he was extremely disgusted with the counselor and refused to do any more treatment. The mother faced the child's condition and began to let go. Occasionally come to see the children, and the mother and son have a big fight. Then the relationship between the two girls was deadlocked again, and the children began to stop coming to school.
Step 4: Go to his home in person and get to know the situation with the help of home visits.
I asked my child every once in a while and called him to communicate. Every time I called, I said I would come to school the next day, but I couldn't wait for him the next morning. Then I called the father of the child and cried when I said I was going to school, or I went back halfway! I understand my father's feelings. I don't think telephone communication and WeChat communication have solved the problem, so I discussed with Wang Xiufang, the dean of the department, and went home to see how the child was.
? One Wednesday afternoon, we made an appointment to go to Children's Home. The children's grandmother began to cry as soon as she saw me holding my hand. We first asked him about his family's recent situation, and then coaxed and encouraged him to say that his classmates and teachers missed him very much and hoped that he would go back to school. At that time, the child said that he would go to school the next day and stamped a chapter for me! The next morning, the child finally arrived at school, and the students applauded him! I think it's successful, so I wait for my mind to settle down, and then I take him to talk to Mr. Wu Juan. The result is too early! On the third day, I didn't come again. My parents said that no matter how hard they tried, they wouldn't go out. They stayed at home for nearly a month, with their mobile phones in their left hands and tablets in their right hands, and kept playing games.
Fifth, seek the help of the school psychological teacher.
I found Wu Juan, a teacher in our school, and told her what I had learned about the child. Mr. Wu Juan listened carefully, called me in the evening, asked many questions, and hit the nail on the head, saying that it was mainly my mother's problem. Then he said that he must meet his parents first, and both parents should come! I told the child's father what Mr. Wu Juan meant and asked him to contact the child's mother to arrive at school at four o'clock this Tuesday afternoon. Originally, the phone agreed that parents would come to the consultation room together. Finally, my father came, and my mother's phone was always refused under the constant dialing of my father and me. Later, the child's mother called me and said that she was attending a funeral and could not come.
But Wu Juan talked a lot with his father and then taught him some methods. Father thanked him and left. Later, I asked the child from time to time, saying that the school and the class had never forgotten him.
After continuous efforts from all sides, the child came to school from the day before yesterday and also came yesterday. He called this morning to say that he had a headache and asked for a day off. I hope he will come tomorrow.