Sister Wang said that although it sounded rebellious, she felt that she was not wrong, because everything her mother suffered deserved it, and she did it herself.
She was born in a patriarchal family since childhood. Her father is weak and her mother is strong and violent, so everything in the family is uncompromising. Sister Wang has been treated unfairly since she was a child because she has a younger brother who is one year younger than her.
Sister Wang said that when she was 65,438+00 years old, she began to do farm work. Every day, she is very tired. She wants to go up the mountain to cut pig grass, herd sheep and cook. Whenever she doesn't do anything well, her mother will give her a good beating when she comes home. Even if she doesn't have time to do her homework, she will be scolded by her mother, because in her mother's view, women are wasting money and have no obligation at all.
So after finishing junior high school, she was sent to vocational high school by her mother to learn skills, so that she could earn money quickly to repay their kindness. After graduating from vocational high school, all the money earned by Sister Wang was scraped by her mother until she got married.
At first, Sister Wang had her own love. She had a boyfriend who was very kind to her, but because the man couldn't get the bride price money her mother wanted, he was directly killed by a stick. At that time, Sister Wang didn't think about getting married because she didn't dare to disobey her mother's orders.
Later, for her younger brother, she was married by her mother to someone she didn't love. Just because that person can pay a bride price of 6.5438+0.5 million, because there is no dowry, he was targeted by his husband's family just after he got married.
Sister Wang said that when she got married, her mother got the house, so she was given a zero bride price, because when she got the house, her mother said that all the property in the house belonged to her brother, because she would live with her brother in the future and would never ask her for a penny.
Sister Wang said that her married life was particularly unfortunate. Because of the zero dowry, her husband's family is particularly dissatisfied with her. In addition, she only gave birth to a daughter later, so she was even more hated by her mother-in-law and was troubled by her everywhere. Her ex-husband doesn't care about anything at all. She is proficient in alcoholism and domestic violence. In the end, she can only choose to sue for divorce. Because the other party didn't want children, she was subsidized with some money.
After the divorce, she took her daughter and a small amount of divorced property, and moved directly to the county seat without going back to her family. Because when I divorced, the first thing my mother asked was not her future plans, nor did she let her go home, but how much money she had given her. So, Sister Wang lied to her mother directly. She went out clean. Because of this, her mother also severely scolded her, saying that she was a fool and didn't know how to give her brother some money.
It is also for this reason that in those years after Sister Wang's divorce, her family never contacted her again. After the divorce, Sister Wang met the right man and chose to remarry and let her mother take her daughter. She and her husband jointly funded a small business. Maybe god felt sorry for her experience, too. Their career was smooth sailing and they made a lot of money in a few years. Life is getting better and better and he has become a famous rich family in the county.
I don't know how it got around, but Sister Wang's mother came to see me. On that day, when I saw my mother again, Sister Wang said that my mother had changed a lot. Because I haven't seen her for several years, she looks older than 10, and her face is no longer strong and violent. This change is enough to show that her life is not good.
It turns out that after my brother got married, his daughter-in-law was particularly strong, suppressing her everywhere, often scolding her, using divorce as an excuse when quarreling, or letting her go, so my brother didn't dare to speak at home and could only watch his mother being bullied by his daughter-in-law, so his mother had a hard time these years. At home, she just wants to live with her daughter-in-law's face.
My mother cried as she talked. That day, my mother said to Sister Wang, "Daughter, let mother move in. Mom is really homeless. Your brother's family conditions are not good. Because of me, your sister-in-law quarrels with him every day. In order to make their marriage and family harmonious, he had no choice but to kick me out. I don't blame him, because he is really not easy and his life is particularly hard. As a person,
It was also after hearing her mother's words that Sister Wang's grievances and resentment broke out for many years. Because her lifelong marriage thought was destroyed by her mother, she directly said to her angry mother, "Why should I give you a pension?" ! It was also because of Sister Wang's words that she angered her mother. Her mother immediately ran to the corridor of her house to scold her, loudly calling her ungrateful eyes, saying that she should be grateful to her if she has money, instead of losing her conscience, and become a mother if she has money, which made her neighbors talk endlessly. Sister Wang closed the door and ignored her mother's slander without any explanation.
Sister Wang said that although many people said that she was too unfilial, in her own opinion, she did nothing wrong. She is not a saint. She also has her own family to consider, and she can't repay good for evil, so she has to drive her mother away.
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In my opinion, I also think that Sister Wang is not wrong, because she has to do this for her family. All this was done by Sister Wang's mother. This is her own karma, and it is no wonder that everyone else is.
Sister Wang Can can't compromise and accept this matter, because if she lets go, everything will be over and even her own family will be destroyed.
Because people are selfish and push their luck, coupled with her mother's preference for boys, once Sister Wang promised her mother to move in, her brother would immediately follow up, share the career bonus of their husband and wife, and ask them to work in rows and ask for help if they didn't have enough money to buy a car. In the future, children will ask for school everywhere, and they will never stop completely unless they empty Sister Wang's house.
This is by no means alarmist, because there are too many sad examples in reality. In my opinion, people who say that Sister Wang is wrong are just people who stand and talk as if they are relaxed. If these things happen to them, I think they should forget it.
Filial piety is one thing, and support is another. Filial piety is a feeling, and support is a responsibility. In my opinion, Sister Wang doesn't need to bear the mother's support obligation alone, because my brother is still alive and he is also the heir to the mother's legacy, so his responsibility is even greater, and this matter should not be entirely blamed on Sister Wang.
I wonder what people who say that Sister Wang is unfilial think. If it were me, I would still do it like Sister Wang, because I am just an ordinary person and not so generous. I will hold a grudge, and I will repay the kindness of Didi. It is my greatest tolerance not to retaliate against the hurt of my loved ones.
People often say, "We should thank those who have hurt us, because they make us stronger".
But in my opinion, we don't need to be grateful to those who have hurt us at all, because we would be better without their harm.
Confucius always said, "Good for good, bad for evil". How do we ordinary people "repay evil with good"?
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