Emotion is a psychological reaction of people to the outside world. People often have bad moods and troubles of one kind or another. Being in a bad mood is a sign of being in a bad mood. If we go to work with a bad mood, it will not only affect our work, but also affect others.
Read such a story:
A manager got up early in the morning and found that he was going to be late for work, so he drove to the company in a hurry. In order to hurry, the manager ran several red lights and was finally stopped by the police at an intersection and issued a ticket.
In this way, you will be late for work. When he arrived at the office, he looked at some letters on the desk, which were sent by his secretary before leaving work yesterday. He was even more angry, so he called his secretary and gave him a good scolding.
The secretary was inexplicably taught a lesson, took the unsent letter, walked up to the switchboard, and scolded her for not reminding her to post the letter yesterday.
When the switchboard lady was approved, she found the cleaner with the lowest position in the company and used the topic to make a series of accusations against the cleaner.
The cleaner couldn't find anyone to vent, so he had to hold his breath.
When he came home from work, the cleaner saw his son in primary school watching TV, and his clothes, schoolbags and snacks were scattered all over the floor, so he seized the opportunity to "repair" his son.
My son can't watch TV either. He returned to the bedroom angrily and saw the big lazy cat at home lurking at the door. In a moment of anger, he kicked the cat away with a strong foot.
After reading this story, do we feel that being in a bad mood is terrible? It spreads around like a plague, affecting itself and endangering others.
So learn to control your emotions in your daily life and work, and don't expose your emotions easily. Expressing your emotions directly without control will only highlight your shallowness and lack of talent. We should learn to control our emotions properly and try not to expose our negative emotions.
When you are in a bad mood, you should try to adjust your mentality in time to calm yourself down and face the problem rationally.
Everyone has joy, resentment and sadness. Life is changeable. In the changeable life, each of us may face setbacks, disappointments, setbacks and failures, thus causing emotional changes. Under normal circumstances, people are happy when they meet happy things; When you are sad, you look sad. But at work, this situation must be controlled. When excellent people encounter these problems, they always respond with a positive attitude and positive emotions, which is emotional control.
Everyone faces different challenges, unspeakable difficulties and different psychological pressures, so there will be times when they are in a bad mood. In this subject, under the shadow of bad emotions, everyone has a strong desire to vent. It should be noted that venting anger should distinguish between occasions. If you vent at will regardless of the occasion, the consequences will be unimaginable. If you take it out on your colleague, even if he understands your feelings, he will have a certain opinion of you in his heart. If the boss finds out, it may affect your promotion and salary increase.
Pony has worked in a private company for three years, and has made outstanding achievements in all aspects, which has made great contributions to the company. However, Pony often worries about trivial matters and comes to work with some bad emotions in his work and life. After a long time, I love to complain and lose my temper. Whenever something happens, I complain and chatter.
One day, the pony in a bad mood invited several colleagues out for a drink. In his troubles, he began to feel deeply and began to complain about his boss: "I feel that since I came to the company, I have worked wholeheartedly and conscientiously, and my achievements are known to everyone, but no one attaches importance to it and no one appreciates it." It's really' there are always swift horses, but Bole is not always there'! "
There is no airtight wall in the world. I'm going to promote Ma Xiao to the boss of the business manager. I felt very uncomfortable after listening to his words. After much consideration, I gave up the idea of promoting him.
It is inevitable to encounter some unpleasant things in life and work. Don't lose your temper over trifles.
/kloc-Benjamin Disraeli, British prime minister and writer in the 20th century, said, "Life is too short to care about trifles." A professional with a good attitude will not lose his temper and complain about small things as often as a pony, nor will he always complain, nor will he bring his bad mood to the unit.
However, many people often bring bad feelings and dissatisfaction outside work to work and get angry inexplicably, which not only offends others, but also hurts themselves. People tend to go to extremes when they are excited, it is difficult to have a correct analysis of things, and even lose their minds and do things that are contrary to common sense. For example, when you are in a bad mood, it happens that the customer calls you. If it's a pleasant thing, that's good. If it is an unpleasant thing, you may quarrel with others or even get angry, and then hang up the phone without waiting for the other person to finish. Your irrational behavior may make you lose customers and damage your good image.
Winter goes and spring comes, late summer and early autumn, sunrise and sunset, full moon is absent, geese come and go, flowers fly and flowers fall, grass grows and melons ripen. Everything in nature is in a cycle of change, and people are no exception, and their emotions will be good and bad.
The weak let emotions control behaviors, while the strong let behaviors control emotions. So learn to control your emotions and don't let bad emotions affect your life and work.
How to control our emotions, we might as well try the following methods.
(1) Don't bother yourself.
One day, a man came to the foot of a mountain. In a piece of green grass, he saw a shepherd boy riding on the back of a cow and playing a melodious flute, enjoying himself. He went up to him and asked, "You look happy. Can you teach me the way to get rid of my troubles? The shepherd boy said, "When you ride on the back of an ox and the flute sounds, there will be no trouble.". "
He tried, but to no avail. So, I started looking again.
Soon, he rubbed into a cave and saw an old man sitting alone in the cave with a satisfied smile on his face. He bowed deeply and explained his purpose to the old man. The old man asked, "So you have come to seek liberation?"
He said, "Yes! Please give us your advice. "
The old man smiled and asked, "Did someone tie you up?"
"... no. "
"Since no one binds you, how can you talk about liberation?"
He woke up suddenly.
Whether we are in a bad mood or upset, it is often because we have tied ourselves up. In other words, troubles are self-inflicted, not self-inflicted.
(2) Let the troubles slowly settle down. There are many annoying things in life and work. The more we want to forget some things, the harder it is to forget them. Therefore, we might as well let our troubles settle down slowly and quietly, and embrace them with a broad mind. In this way, the mind will not be infected, but will be more pure. Let the troubles settle down slowly, and life and work will become happy and bright, just like that glass of clear and transparent water!
(3) Wait patiently for three days.
A woman writer from China visited the United States and met an old lady selling flowers in the streets of new york. The old lady is in rags and looks weak, but her face is so peaceful and happy.
The woman writer picked a flower and said, "You look very happy."
"Why not? Everything is so beautiful. "
"You are really easy to get into trouble." The woman writer casually added.
Unexpectedly, the woman writer was even more surprised at the old lady's answer: "The Friday when Jesus was crucified was the worst day in the world, but it was Easter in three days. Therefore, when I encounter misfortune, I will wait for three days and everything will return to normal. "
Waiting for three days-what philosophical words and optimistic lifestyle. It leaves its troubles and pains behind and goes all out to reap happiness. When we encounter troubles and pains, we should also give ourselves three days, and at the same time hint to ourselves that all this will pass. Look at the world with an open mind, don't regret yesterday's disappointment, don't worry about today's loss, don't worry about tomorrow's gains and losses. Try to learn to give up, forget and let nature take its course, so that we can have a good mood and a happy attitude. As long as we are in a good mood, we will be happy.
(4) learn to fight against bad emotions. How can we control our emotions and make every day full of happiness and joy? Og Mandino, the author of The Greatest Salesman in the World, taught us one way, that is to learn to fight against bad emotions. He wrote in the book:
When I wake up every day, when I am surrounded by sadness, self-pity and failure, I fight it like this:
When I am depressed, I sing loudly;
When I am sad, I laugh;
When I am sick, I redouble my efforts;
When I am afraid, I go forward bravely;
When I feel inferior, I put on new clothes;
When I am upset, I raise my voice;
When I am down and out, I imagine the future wealth;
When I was at a loss, I recalled my past success;
When I am ashamed of myself, I will think about my goal.
We can try to control our bad emotions through the above methods. At this time, there will be a lot of sunshine in our hearts and a lot of joy in our life and work!