Reading Bi Shumin's mind class and really understanding the above sentence is basically enough. Because this book is Bi Shumin as a psychotherapist, summing up and analyzing the cases of psychological problems encountered over the years, and then helping us to strengthen our spiritual strength and make ourselves stronger.
Let others go, let yourself go, and you can fly high.
All the pains in my heart can only be cured by love and tolerance.
I have read many books, and there are many things that mention "psychological suggestion". When you receive bad psychological hints in your life, when you give yourself bad psychological hints, then your vitality will definitely be affected, starting from your heart and then passing it on to your body. These bad psychological hints will make your life into a quagmire. A person with a shadow in his heart can't move forward happily. Therefore, Bi Shumin told us with many real psychological counseling cases: Let go of the burden, and you can move forward easily.
It's okay if you have something to do, really don't carry a burden. Especially the psychological burden that can't be seen or touched.
Be true to yourself, independent and powerful.
Shout when you are angry; If you are sad, you will cry; If you love it, you express it; Like it, pursue it.
Look at the sun more during the day and the moon more at night. Let your mind be frank, relaxed, rational and full of strength.
It is important to see the nature of things clearly. Especially when you encounter psychological injury, you should see the root of the injury clearly, analyze and think about why it happened, and dispel the shadow of inner backlog. How can we forgive others and ourselves? I found the answers to several cases in Bi Shumin's mind class. In fact, it is to find the root cause, analyze rationally, sort out what you think is wrong, hate emotions, complaints that cannot be released, get out of your emotions, find the real facts, and really understand, then you will understand, and then you will change your wrong behavior and return to the normal track.
Think of a sentence, that is: see clearly, it will fade!
You see how advanced the counselor treats the psychological questions of the visitors: listen, ask questions, let him say his own problems, look at the problems from his standpoint, gain his trust, then help him find the inner crux, and then guide and guide him. What the teacher said was to open the wound in the brain first, mend it in the middle, and then bandage it. Same as surgery.
A passage exposed a problem. This passage is:
While listening to my friend's story, I checked my work schedule. Recently, every time slot is full, and there is only one hour free in the evening after seven days.
Excellent psychotherapists are so busy; It takes seven days to line up a friend's number. This reflects a problem. Industry experts and famous teachers are indeed successful models, and their income after success is also considerable.
Another problem is the confidentiality system of psychological counselors. Or this "What did you say? As bystanders, we especially want to know what means the psychologist used and what he said to let the visitors get rid of the problems and return to the sunshine. In this case, Allen, the interviewer, is a student who will take the college entrance examination in two months, and his grades are OK. He suddenly didn't want to go to school, so he stayed at home and played games. In fact, he is not an Internet addiction teenager. The truth of the matter is that he boldly filled in "Tsinghua" when predicting his wishes, but he was ridiculed and attacked by his teacher. He was injured and wanted to prove himself and win glory for his country by playing games and participating in competitions. Mr. Bi supported all his ideas and positions, and expressed his anger that the teacher hurt a child's self-esteem in this way. Allen trusted the psychology teacher, and then told all his inner feelings. Sunshine boy, after opening your heart, naturally nothing happened. Allen returned to school to continue his studies, and his college entrance examination results were extraordinary. Although he can't go to Tsinghua, he is quite good and has proved himself.
The friend who introduced Allen for counseling, as well as Allen's parents, especially want to know: What did you tell him?
"I said, that day, I said very little, Allen said a lot. The rest, no comment. "
-I don't understand. What's there to say? Because of the secrecy? What happened to the little boy in the sun is no longer a big secret. It has passed and achieved satisfactory results. Parents came to express their sincere thanks. But I reread the article and found that it was really "no comment"-because there was really no technology or magic. Is that why? I am curious.